Wanting But Waiting Tribe *2010* - Page 3

[fresh_veggie]

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham

So...explain to me WHY I watch baby shows such as Bringing home baby, Baby story, and Birth Story when I'm(well, DH rather) is not TTC yet...what good does that do again? Oh NOTHING....I forgot.

Lol I hear ya!

[lakeruby]

Originally Posted by fresh_veggie

So many of our friends our age are having babies! (In Utah...lol...) And I myself and baby-crazy, but we absolutely do not have the money or lifestyle to bring a baby into the world. So we'll be waiting a few more years. Isn't it frustrating when everyone around you is either pregnant or breastfeeding?

YES! One friend of mine had her son yesterday, and this morning I found out another friend is 4 months pregnant. yikes! I am so happy for them, and trying not to overwhelm them with questions....I'm just so curious about everything from conception to breastfeeding...

[jenniferadurham]

So it's official...unless we have an "oops"...DH said that we really need to wait until Sept to TTC. He's not giving in to the 'oh my gosh...I couldn't get off of you in time DH...sorry' excuse. I really need help here with the next few days...I'm CD 10 today and should be O'ing around the 21st...this is gonna be hard....


God PLEASE give me the strength to NOT freak out and beg for a baby right now.

[MamaNim]

Hi! I'd like to hang out here. I have a 6 y/o step daughter and a 1 year old daughter. I've pretty much had the baby urge since my daughter was 7 months old. lol

My husband and I would like to wait a bit longer to have another baby though. We need to get finances in order. I hate money. If money wasn't an issue we'd likely be trying really soon.

So in my mind anyway I'm hoping to start trying maybe in the fall?


jenniferadurham, I just read your last post. Hang in there hon. I hate the waiting and sometimes hope for an oops, but then I look around at the reality of our situation right now and know it would be better to wait... even though it really sucks waiting. lol

[Neuromancer]

That's hard, Jennifer. I never want to beg for a baby, either.

I woke up in a bit of a funk this morning, simultaneously wishing I had already had a baby AND that I didn't want one at all. I'm guilty of overthinking all of this -- constantly -- but find it hard to quiet my brain. This may be a good day for some meditation and breathing exercises.

[Tara2]

Neuromancer- I can relate.

[BettinaAuSucre]

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham

So it's official...unless we have an "oops"...DH said that we really need to wait until Sept to TTC. He's not giving in to the 'oh my gosh...I couldn't get off of you in time DH...sorry' excuse. I really need help here with the next few days...I'm CD 10 today and should be O'ing around the 21st...this is gonna be hard....


God PLEASE give me the strength to NOT freak out and beg for a baby right now.

i just came from the TTC tribe too...and its painful to NOT be trying anymore but its for the best...

[MamaFern]

it IS hard. a good friend just had her baby this morning and i was getting updates (my sister was there with her) since she lives far away from us now (we moved) im so `so happy for her. she had decided that they wouldn't have any more kids. her youngest is 8 going on 9 now and then i had my baby (now almost 2) and they went all baby lusty, especially the dad, and finally decided to ttc a year or so later.
and i held a two week old baby last Friday thinking it would help my baby lust but i almost couldn't give him back. he was so sweet and small and yummy..and my best friend (who lives across the world in Holland) is pregnant as well as my SIL. it feels like everyone around me is pregnant or has a teeny new baby. *sigh*

[jenniferadurham]

Originally Posted by BettinaAuSucre

i just came from the TTC tribe too...and its painful to NOT be trying anymore but its for the best...

I know you! We can sit in here and hold eachother! LOL! It IS for the best, I know. I know that if I wait I won't be as B!tchy. Evan will be almost 2 and he will be able to do things for himself and little bit more. And I will have lost my last 20 lbs(bc I lost 10 lbs in the last few weeks!!!) and will be skinny and healthy for my baby. It doesn't help when DD says how much she wants a baby sister either...oye.

I just thought of an awesome idea! Look for a new thread from me!!! Lets make this wait more optomistic!!!

[BettinaAuSucre]

yeah i know Jennifer!! my sis in law just had her second and i couldnt help but be immensly jealous for her!

*lesigh* its hard for me bc i am not waiting for a good reason other than DP has aprehension about having a kid. Not my hubby. i mean its a valid reason but *I* have no reason for waiting.

argh.

[momtomy3boys]

Hi all!! I am brand new to MDC but came here hoping to find others who could understand me! I am a working mom of 3 boys ages 6.5, 5 and 3.5. For a long time I thought we were done but have found I do want more. Right now DH is a full time student but will graduate in May with his bachelors degree, which will come with a pay raise and better insurance. But we will wait a bit longer because we have been planning a trip for some time to take our kiddos to disney and I tend to have somewhat complicated pregnancies and do not want anything to get in the way of our dream vacation. So we should be trying in December 2010 or January 2011. Which will work out perfect because my youngest will be starting school in 2011 which will give me alot of quality time with the baby. Having 3 in 3 years I loved but will relish that one on one time with the baby. OK so now that I have written a novel, I will hush! LOL So excited to get to know everyone. Oh and can I be added to the 2011 list? Thanks!!

[nerdymom]

Originally Posted by lakeruby

YES! One friend of mine had her son yesterday, and this morning I found out another friend is 4 months pregnant. yikes! I am so happy for them, and trying not to overwhelm them with questions....I'm just so curious about everything from conception to breastfeeding...

You are in the right place to ask all your questions! There is a place in MDC for every question under the sun!

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham

So it's official...unless we have an "oops"...DH said that we really need to wait until Sept to TTC. He's not giving in to the 'oh my gosh...I couldn't get off of you in time DH...sorry' excuse. I really need help here with the next few days...I'm CD 10 today and should be O'ing around the 21st...this is gonna be hard....


God PLEASE give me the strength to NOT freak out and beg for a baby right now.

I know, every time I 'o' I get the baby craving really bad. Poor DH, I want to DTD every night and twice when I'm O-ing. It's funny, I thought the men were the one's with the high libidos but it's the opposite in our relationship.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham

So...explain to me WHY I watch baby shows such as Bringing home baby, Baby story, and Birth Story when I'm(well, DH rather) is not TTC yet...what good does that do again? Oh NOTHING....I forgot.

I soooo hear you on this one! I finally (this week) said, "no more!" I can't watch anymore. I need to take a huge break from all of it -- even if it's forced! Now DD and I watch Dora and Diego in the morning. (Though I'm not sure that's much better...)

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham

God PLEASE give me the strength to NOT freak out and beg for a baby right now.

I'll send you some strength too. If you can hold out, maybe I can too.

I begged for our first. Begged! Pleaded!! After she was here, I told myself and DH that he would have to ask for the 2nd, b/c I never thought I'd be ready again. I've been mentioning having another here and there, and now he definitely knows I'm ready. But, he isn't ready. I won't beg him again. He loves DD but I know for her first year I felt a lot of guilt (she wasn't an easy baby) and felt like I took away his freedom. That sounds really crappy, I know, but I still felt that way.

And, I thought of another reason to wait. (I wish the reasons not to wait were more abundant!)

I would need a bigger car. I currently have a 2004 Mini Cooper that I adore. I bought it when I was 6 or 7 months pg with Nora. I wanted to be that cute mom with the cute car, and I LOOOOOVVVVEE my car. But there is no way I could do 2 RF car seats in the back. They would maybe fit, but there is no practical way to get the children in and out! I'd break my neck!

So, add that to the pile of reasons.

[jenniferadurham]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

I soooo hear you on this one! I finally (this week) said, "no more!" I can't watch anymore. I need to take a huge break from all of it -- even if it's forced! Now DD and I watch Dora and Diego in the morning. (Though I'm not sure that's much better...)



I'll send you some strength too. If you can hold out, maybe I can too.

I begged for our first. Begged! Pleaded!! After she was here, I told myself and DH that he would have to ask for the 2nd, b/c I never thought I'd be ready again. I've been mentioning having another here and there, and now he definitely knows I'm ready. But, he isn't ready. I won't beg him again. He loves DD but I know for her first year I felt a lot of guilt (she wasn't an easy baby) and felt like I took away his freedom. That sounds really crappy, I know, but I still felt that way.

And, I thought of another reason to wait. (I wish the reasons not to wait were more abundant!)

I would need a bigger car. I currently have a 2004 Mini Cooper that I adore. I bought it when I was 6 or 7 months pg with Nora. I wanted to be that cute mom with the cute car, and I LOOOOOVVVVEE my car. But there is no way I could do 2 RF car seats in the back. They would maybe fit, but there is no practical way to get the children in and out! I'd break my neck!

So, add that to the pile of reasons.

Thank you for the support!!!!! You have mine as well!!!!!!!!! I have a 2006 Chrysler Pacifica.... it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jeminijad]

I am here, too. I want to get PG NOW... but DH has been layed off for a long time, his unemployment is about to run out, and I already have a demanding 11 month old.

[Neuromancer]

Rats. A coworker announced that she's pregnant today. That makes 3 male and 2 female coworkers who've had babies in the past 3 years. And it's a small office. I'm dealing with a lot of jealousy.

[Baby_Cakes]

^^Ugh, that's so hard. Hugs!

I went to get my hair done today, and my hairdresser is due in march. She's just glowing and gorgeous. She doesn't know what she's having and all we did was talk about baby stuff. I always vent to her that I'm ready for another, and she always tries to tell me to just enjoy DD and wait. Blah blah blah.

Then the other girl who works at the salon comes in w/her 4.5 month old little boy and he's just delicious. I forgot how teensy little babies are!

It was one of those days, I guess! I just want to fast forward time.

[Mother Cake]

Originally Posted by nerdymom

I know, every time I 'o' I get the baby craving really bad. Poor DH, I want to DTD every night and twice when I'm O-ing. It's funny, I thought the men were the one's with the high libidos but it's the opposite in our relationship.

I have the same issue. My DH used to have a high libido and we don't know what happened, but now I'm the one initiating almost all the time. (I know this is off topic--is there somewhere better to talk about it?)

As far as baby cravings go, mine go down every time I look at our messy, half-unpacked apartment, and think about having an infant in it. I am a messy person anyway, so I need to at least start with order before baby brings even more disorder to my life!

[nerdymom]

Originally Posted by Mother Cake

I have the same issue. My DH used to have a high libido and we don't know what happened, but now I'm the one initiating almost all the time. (I know this is off topic--is there somewhere better to talk about it?)

As far as baby cravings go, mine go down every time I look at our messy, half-unpacked apartment, and think about having an infant in it. I am a messy person anyway, so I need to at least start with order before baby brings even more disorder to my life!

I don't know if there is a better place or not. But it is annoying to always be the one initiating, and even worse to get turned down, even though 2 minutes ago he would have watched another episode on hulu but I vetoed it.

[Lovenest]

So I think I belong here...
We are thinking of TTC at the end of the year, I would prefer a summer baby so I guess that would put us TTC Sept, Oct, Nov.. It took us 7 months to conceive our now 7 year old though, so I am wondering how that will work. We also are waiting as our trip back to Australia to visit family is in Oct or Nov.

I am thinking of starting to chart so I get a good idea of when I ovulate.
Taking prenatal vitamins and I guess I should try to give up caffeine.