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post #81 of 387
I am secretly hoping that DH's accidental pre-ejac got me pg... so we don't have to wait until Sept...
post #82 of 387
What about all those great reasons to wait?
Actually, I'm there too - well not exactly there, but I'm about to ovulate and the hormones are telling me "Sure you could give birth mid-semester and still pass your classes. Moving at 7 months pregnant - no problem!" haha And then I go look at maternity clothes on Oldnavy.com to see if the much sought-after dark blue bootcut full panel jeans are available in my size. Ugh!
post #83 of 387
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Originally Posted by Ardor View Post
What about all those great reasons to wait?
Actually, I'm there too - well not exactly there, but I'm about to ovulate and the hormones are telling me "Sure you could give birth mid-semester and still pass your classes. Moving at 7 months pregnant - no problem!" haha And then I go look at maternity clothes on Oldnavy.com to see if the much sought-after dark blue bootcut full panel jeans are available in my size. Ugh!
Wanting and waiting sucks. Sorry for my french...but it's the truth. I was talking to a dear MDC friend today and I was typing out the 'reasons' why we are waiting...and they sounded dumb. Like..we dont' want another winter baby...why? I would be happy with a winter baby...you stay home during the winter anyways bc it's so cold...you'd be doing it the first 3 months anyways bc you are so TIRED...so whats the DIFF???? I just need to lose these DANG 20 lbs!!!! I said to her that we should just let God take over...it's His plans anyways...I'm so wishywashy!!!
post #84 of 387
Hello all,

Love to join.

I actually just posted somewhere else but then found you all.

I must say that my dh was bitten by the baby bug about 6 months ago and I keep telling him no.
My reasoning is that we don't really have the money, H is still small, I want him to be totally potty trained (almost there), want to make sure we have secured this house, want to lose 50 pounds.
BUT...
the reasons I can see having another one now is that I will be 29 this year and don't want to have kids after 30. My dh will be 30 this year, having another while H is still little, having a 2-3 year age gap, getting all of the no sleep out of the way, and this would be our last one.

It is hard to wait...esp when ppl around me are having babies and getting pregnant it is hard. And when I look at pics of H as a baby I miss his babyness...though I love the toddler hood.

and man did i have a crappy pregnancy with H...and I work in daycare...

well hope to make some new friends and be able to support others in their wait.
post #85 of 387
I am just going to pretend that i am happy with my BFNs this cycle and continue on to the next unabaited. but thankfully i am "safe" for another cycle.
post #86 of 387
Hi everyone.

I just had to vent a little where I might not seem crazy.

This week was so hard with two pg announcements on FB and one of them really got under my skin. I recently had a so that might be why it's a touch harder to take.
Anyhow, one announcement was fine "we are happy to announce..." and the other

"for those of you that don't know I'm 3.5 mos pg"

of course I posted my congrats, I am really happy but am I just freaking crazy that that was a kind of rude way to announce such great news???
post #87 of 387
I may have gotten DH to let us try this next cycle...I said something about having a Nov baby...and he said " I thought you didn't want a winter baby..." I said "I don't care when I have a baby...I want a baby..." And he didn't say no...he just grinned and shook his head front to back...like "hmmmm, ok."

I got to thinking...I DON'T CARE WHEN I GIVE BIRTH...I JUST WANT TO DO IT! I want another baby...soon.

OH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I remember how it was brought up now...lol! I bought a healthy eating while pg book, and it has a section that has "calculating a healthy weight" page...for my height 5'8" the 'ideal' weight is anywhere between 131 lbs &158...I am 150 lbs right now. I think he finally calmed down after I read that knowing that I am at a 'healthy' weight to be pg. I just REALLY have to watch what I eat and not gain 70 lbs like I did last pg. I can only gain MAX 40 lbs this next time though.
post #88 of 387
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Originally Posted by echospiritwarrior View Post
Hi everyone.

I just had to vent a little where I might not seem crazy.

This week was so hard with two pg announcements on FB and one of them really got under my skin. I recently had a so that might be why it's a touch harder to take.
Anyhow, one announcement was fine "we are happy to announce..." and the other

"for those of you that don't know I'm 3.5 mos pg"

of course I posted my congrats, I am really happy but am I just freaking crazy that that was a kind of rude way to announce such great news???
Yeah, a friend of mine announced her second on FB with the gem "my eggo is preggo". Wow. Classy much?

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Originally Posted by jenniferadurham View Post
I remember how it was brought up now...lol! I bought a healthy eating while pg book, and it has a section that has "calculating a healthy weight" page...for my height 5'8" the 'ideal' weight is anywhere between 131 lbs &158...I am 150 lbs right now. I think he finally calmed down after I read that knowing that I am at a 'healthy' weight to be pg. I just REALLY have to watch what I eat and not gain 70 lbs like I did last pg. I can only gain MAX 40 lbs this next time though.
Wow, I am 170 at 5'8". My goal is to get to 150. But then I have always been a larger person, never been skinny. I'd like to get back into a 10 though. I think that is pretty normal and healthy. I'm in a 12 right now.
post #89 of 387
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Wow, I am 170 at 5'8". My goal is to get to 150. But then I have always been a larger person, never been skinny. I'd like to get back into a 10 though. I think that is pretty normal and healthy. I'm in a 12 right now.
I'm in a 10 right now...and I'm ok with it(I was size 6 pre baby). Never thought I would be, but I am. I have a pair of Dockers slack type jeans that are high waisted so it camo's my love handles. I love them. I don't really 100% agree with 'ideal' weight...I think what works for every individual is good. I have had several dr's tell me that I should be 130-140 lbs at all times for my height...I have maintained 125 or - since I was 19...and I'm healthy. They all wanted me to start eating more fats so that I could gain more weight..really...5-15 lbs...it's going to matter THAT much?!?! Ding Dongs! LOL
post #90 of 387
Wow. When I stopped eating for a couple semesters in college I got down to 120, but then people started to get worried about me and making a stink about it (I'm thankful for the intervention but still. It was fabulous to be skinny). I guess different people can carry the same weight differently.
post #91 of 387
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Originally Posted by echospiritwarrior View Post

"for those of you that don't know I'm 3.5 mos pg"

of course I posted my congrats, I am really happy but am I just freaking crazy that that was a kind of rude way to announce such great news???
I just think it seems so blah, like, yeah whatever, Im pg, get over it. Not excited at all, not interested! Yeah I'd be like, ew! congrats but whatever!

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Originally Posted by jenniferadurham View Post
I just REALLY have to watch what I eat and not gain 70 lbs like I did last pg. I can only gain MAX 40 lbs this next time though.
I know how you feel! I gained about 50 lbs w/my first pg and I can't do that again. I can't believe I did that. I wanted to be the cute pg lady w/just the belly, and that so did not happen! I had like 3 chins at the end! :-) I didn't have any complications or anything, though, and even my midwife was like, "you are growing a healthy baby, this is what she needs," Some people gain 25 lbs, some people gain more.
But I didn't eat 100% healthy. Next time, I want to be prepared for the ms, I want to be prepared and pack lunches and not get stuff like zeppoles and coke when the cravings hit. (Just thinking about that sounds gross now!)
I was a 12/14 about a week after I gave birth (close to 180 lbs) and lost all the weight and wear a 4 or a 6 now at 130 lbs. I'm ok with my weight right now. Though I have some extra fat, whatever. I think I look pretty good for having a toddler, and pretty good in general.
But that's something to keep me ok with waiting. I've NEVER been this small and I credit bf'ing 100%. Chris (dh) keeps telling me I'm going to be in for a rude awakening when Nora weans, b/c I eat SO MUCH and don't think about it!!
I told him, " That's ok, put another baby in mah belly and all will be fine,"
post #92 of 387
still sorta spotting. Not enough to need a pad. tiny bit crampy. BBs are really sore. And i am exhausted.

If this isn't AF then i am gonna freak out.
post #93 of 387
glad I'm not off my rocker.

I'm also a HUUUUGE gainer when pg, thank goodness for breastfeeding!

So, those of you who have had success in turning your spouse over to the wanting another side --how!? Inquiring minds want to know.
post #94 of 387
Can I be added? My youngest is just a year but I want another one. DH is undecided. We have 2 and with another that means a longer period with no sleep, debt repaid later, career advancement later, moving from this cold place later, another c-section with another 6wks recovery, another difficult pg. We would need a bigger car, a bigger place etc.
Yet I know somehow we are destined to have another baby. I just don't know when. I don't know what order to do things in. I want my master's but if I do that then it pushes the baby off by another 3yrs. If I do the baby first it means pushing the master's off by 3 yrs. We want to move to a warmer nicer place by Sept 2011 but if I get pg we would have to stay here for 6 mos after my 1yr mat leave or I have to pay back my top up. It's such a hard decision ugh! Part of me just wants to get pg now and get it over with. But then I am terrified that would mean that my dd would wean and then I would have 2 in diapers which I have never wanted. Plus my dd is pretty high needs and what if the next one is too? How would I handle that?
It feels good to type this out. Thanks for commiserating ladies!
post #95 of 387
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Originally Posted by echospiritwarrior View Post
So, those of you who have had success in turning your spouse over to the wanting another side --how!? Inquiring minds want to know.
I think that I may have just done this through logic! Today we had an actual conversation about where we want to be in three years and it revolves around a very specific event - me getting a job that pays as much as his does now so that he can take a lower paying job that earns as much as my current one. After he told me all about his plans for this, I asked where a baby fit in, and then explained that I wanted a year at home with the baby before going back to work, and a few months at work in my new career so that we can catch up finances before he takes a paycut. Then surprisingly all the other factors like daycare and help from my mom a couple days a week so I could do the Masters program actually sounded feasible, so he said "Ok, sounds like a plan!" So getting pregnant, pregnancy, & maternity leave is around two years. This means that we can start trying in 6 months! My youngest is 2.5 now so they'll still be around three years apart like I wanted. I'm so excited! What has always been an "uh... well... another one... hmm" conversation has finally turned to "OK!"
post #96 of 387
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Originally Posted by echospiritwarrior View Post
glad I'm not off my rocker.

I'm also a HUUUUGE gainer when pg, thank goodness for breastfeeding!

So, those of you who have had success in turning your spouse over to the wanting another side --how!? Inquiring minds want to know.
I hope to BF so that I can lose my weight like everyone else! I've heard it does wonders! And you can eat tons! LOL!!!

Hmmm, how did his mind get changed? Oh bc he usually gives me what I want...!!! I promise I'm not a brat...he just loves be lots. PArt of that was a joke part truth. lol I got a what to eat while pg book and it had a weight pg in there. I was trying to lose 20 lbs before we started TTC again..and we both thought that I was 'overweight' but I am in the 'normal' bracket for weight. Plus I have been saying for months that I ddn't want another winter baby and that I didn't want any of the kids bdays together...then I realized how crazy I was sounding. I'm putting it into God's hands. He will give us what he wants us to have.
post #97 of 387
I think I may be close to getting a "yes" out of DH too

We had some very good conversations about it this weekend and it turns out his biggest concern (recently, anyway) has been the cost of child care. So I did some research, gave him the numbers and my estimates on how we can pay for it, and he was like "that could work."

He also said "I guess having a baby is like getting braces [as an adult] you just have to jump in and do it or it will never happen." LOL! For a little perspective, he just got braces last year after putting it off for a while and is very happy with the results so far.

I told him last night that even if he said yes right then, that we've most likely already missed any chance this month (hopefully that will reduce any pressure for him) and that he should just think about all the fun we'll have while practicing/trying!

Daily vitamins are definitely in my routine again and I just ordered some food-based folate supplements too.

Keep your fingers crossed for me!
post #98 of 387
Dh came into the computer room when I was writing my post for this thread. He asked what I was doing. I said just commiserating about wanting to be pg but having to wait. He wanted to know why I couldn't talk to him about it. I said that we had talked about it and I understand his opinions but that it doesn't change my feelings. I still want another one. He asked if I wanted another one right now. I told him that there are reasons I want another one right now and then there are the reasons to wait. This am he said if I seriously want another right away we need to find a way to add another bedroom upstairs . This means he's considering it and coming around to my side .
post #99 of 387
@Nillarilla YAY!!!
post #100 of 387
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Originally Posted by Nillarilla View Post
Dh came into the computer room when I was writing my post for this thread. He asked what I was doing. I said just commiserating about wanting to be pg but having to wait. He wanted to know why I couldn't talk to him about it. I said that we had talked about it and I understand his opinions but that it doesn't change my feelings. I still want another one. He asked if I wanted another one right now. I told him that there are reasons I want another one right now and then there are the reasons to wait. This am he said if I seriously want another right away we need to find a way to add another bedroom upstairs . This means he's considering it and coming around to my side .

that is wonderful mama!
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