You are so right, sometimes things just are the way they are. It sounds like your mws were right on it in so many ways, and I'm glad that all is well in the end

And very glad that you feel good about the mws--the best mw will see some issues from time to time, birth is just not entirely in anyone's control.
So--not meaning to 'criticize' while I apply 'critical analysis', and there really is a difference. Any event 'could have gone differently', things might have been done differently--whether or not doing things differently would have brought different results, we never know. All we can do is think about it, consider/question everything from various angles. People like to say that 'hindsight is 20-20', but I don't think that that is so often true as we like to think!
Anyway--with any birth story I will consider as many individual details as possible, with an eye to weighing what might have been done differently in case there is something to be learned for future reference. Sometimes there is something, sometimes not.
In your case, it sounds like the placenta detached pretty soon after baby's birth--or perhaps detached mostly but not entirely. And it doesn't sound like the cervix closed down fast--does seem that you were not at first contracting sufficiently. I agree that perhaps the placenta finally did release fully, and was covering the cervix, leading to that gush of blood that occurred in the hospital. Oy! You'd think staff would apply some triage skill, and get you some care ASAP instead of making you wait! I so loathe transferring care, in part because of stories like yours. I mean, we all have this idea that going to the hospital means speedy help of a sort we can't provide at home--and yet, too often it means making things worse (or just allowing things to get worse, such as letting you sit another hour with a retained placenta and blood no doubt seeping behind the cervix the whole time), before they get better.
The only thing that I think I may have done differently is to give Blue Cohosh or another uterine stimulant rather than Shepherd's Purse--which as I have read is much more for aiding blood clotting, not a uterine stimulant, and should be given only after placental delivery (Susun Weed). But I know mws have varying ideas about this herb, and I don't think of myself as any Master of Herbs by any means. And of course, that is just a shot in the dark, monday night quarterbacking as it were.
Anyway--I will say again that I don't see anything from your details that suggests to me you are at risk for another similar episode. I mean, who knows? But at least I don't hear anything that seems to be some kind of underlying problem you have, making a repeat likely. On the contrary, it sounds like you did all a woman can to set yourself up for a healthy pregnancy and birth--and all of that is probably why you have fared so well in spite of the blood loss. I try to explain to familiies--living healthy doesn't *guarantee* outcomes; living healthy is simply the best we can do to encourage healthy birth outcomes, AND, will be of great help in both short and longterm, in case of problems that do sometimes arise.
So--good work, mama

