Originally Posted by DoomaYula
What a strange question to ask. I'm puzzled. Who gets to "choose" their children?
Sometimes we ask questions even if we have no control over the answers.
But in this situation, some would reduce a higher order multiple pregnancy to twins and it's not unheard of for twins to be reduced to a singleton.
On the otherside of the coin, some women try to obtain clomid or other drugs to increase their chance of multiples, or have intercourse when the doctor advises against due to the number of ripe follicles.
FWIW, I would not choose to have twins, I think twins are great, many very special people in my life are a twin, but even before I knew how my body does pregnancy and other things about my physical health in my childbearing years, I still wouldn't have wanted twins, mostly due to the caring for them in the first couple of years aspect.
I have moments of jealousy though, a good friend has twins 3.5yrs older than my oldest, I had a bad pregnancy with him, difficult for me physically and he was IUGR, barely bigger than her biggest twin, despite them being 6 weeks early and him being 37+4, but her twins were past the really hard baby and toddler stage and were delightful preschoolers with a playmate always on hand and I'd watch them playing and think that to get that I'd have to go through another pregnancy and postnatal period that I'd be in the baby/toddler stage of my life for twice as long etc. but it was still only a temporary jealousy. Non identical spontaneous twins as a first pregnancy would have been ok, but still not something I wanted and whilst I'd never reduce a twin pregnancy to a singleton, by the time of my accidental third pregnancy, twins were a huge fear for me, especially when my uterus was larger than expected at my visits at 5 and 9 weeks, thankfully by 13 weeks it was normal!