If your child attends a Dayton Public School, not Riverside City School, then he will be eligible for Ed Choice Voucher for K-12.
My experience with a child like yours, because my DS2 is the exact same way, is that DPS in general does not know how to handle them. At this time last year, they were doing his annual IEP and wanted to observe and test him for ADHD this year. He is also very Independent, Strong Willed and picks things up very quickly. Even though he has Speech Apraxia, and it was not until this past Fall (2009) that he started having major gains in his speech to where his Expressive and Receptive in normal conversational speech are on par and far exceed his age/grade level. They have given him a lot of the Independence he craves at school. He is the oldest in his class, so he has been sort of put into the "role model" role and helper role and allowed to do things his classmates generally are not.
Last year, they were complaining about how if he didn't get called on right away to answer a question after a story, that when it came his turn he would just shrug his shoulders and shake his head; or he would just blurt out the answers without anyone calling on him or allowing other kids the chance to respond. They complained about him always trying to do whatever was asked, before allowing anyone else to have the chance to do it. If you told him "no" or he didn't like your answer, he would go crawl up under a table and lay there for the rest of the class - yes, they actually let him stay there like that until he came out or it was time to get on the bus. He would often times get up out of his seat, because he needed something (ketchup, scissors, etc) and get it for himself instead of asking for it.
We didn't do what they suggested, we didn't allow them to test for ADHD, and so this year, they have just fostered that Independence in him even more. They don't know how, in the ECIP program to deal with a kid who transitions into Kinder the next year it almost seems, although supposedly DS2 is not the only one in his class who does next year. His teacher was very surprised that he knew how to write his own name (letters of the alphabet and numbers), recognized many of the letters of the alphabet and numbers, could recognize his name, etc. (Well, what can I say, we also have been sending him to private preschool, where they work on those skills in a fun learning atmosphere with the kids.) If he goes into DPS this fall, he goes in slightly ahead of most of the incoming Kinders at the school he will be attending.
On top of his huge jump in his Expressive language abilities this year, he has also started being able to pronounce Spanish Words...he loves Handy Many, Dora and Diego. He can do simple math (addition and subtraction) problems with minimal help. His ECIP teacher put him into the Kinder classroom at their school for a day and he was able to grasp the work they were doing...after being showed what they were doing (things like measuring an item with paperclips, or little cubes) and writing how many paper clips/cubes each item was long...
I guess my main thing is, that you will have to advocate through DPS for your child. I am also getting the impression that you will have to advocate for your child through the Huber Heights School System as well. And you are right, coming from PACE into DPS, the amount of communication is lacking. We only get information from his teacher on the day we drop him off at school after his speech therapy on Thursdays, since we don't get him home in time to catch the bus. Otherwise there probably wouldn't be anything.
You should come post over on the special needs board, there are 2 or 3 of us Dayton area mothers there with special needs kids who post frequently there.
We plan on pulling him out of DPS this fall and putting him into the Montissori program. They will follow through with his IEP services for speech there, and it is also where our eldest goes, and we really do enjoy the school and the community atmosphere of it....