I'm due with DS2 in about a month and DS1 is now 20 months old. DH and I both used to co-sleep with DS, but I couldn't handle the night-time wake-ups from both Charlie and the snoring from his daddy, so DH started sleeping in the guest room. So for well over a year, it's been me and DS1 in the master BR.
This is of course the stage of pregnancy where I've got all-night heartburn and trouble getting comfortable, and I do much better if I can sleep by myself (or just toss and turn) in a different room. And I also thought that we'd all get the most sleep when DS2 arrives if DH could handle nighttime parenting DS1 while I co-slept with DS2 in another room.
The transition has been ok for the most part...but there are some nights where Charlie just loses it and really needs me. He climbs down off the bed in a teary panic and runs into the other room to find me. I try to settle him back down with some water and some singing (we've pretty much nightweaned with the occasional "count to 10 or 5" nursing in emergencies), and then go back to my bed and switch places with DH, but some nights he just freaks and won't let me leave. Sometimes I give in and get little or no sleep myself by staying with him, and other times I just keep trying to leave even if it takes a long time. I don't want to distress him too much, and certainly don't want him to feel abandoned by me or resentful of his little brother. Has anyone else experienced this?
This is of course the stage of pregnancy where I've got all-night heartburn and trouble getting comfortable, and I do much better if I can sleep by myself (or just toss and turn) in a different room. And I also thought that we'd all get the most sleep when DS2 arrives if DH could handle nighttime parenting DS1 while I co-slept with DS2 in another room.
The transition has been ok for the most part...but there are some nights where Charlie just loses it and really needs me. He climbs down off the bed in a teary panic and runs into the other room to find me. I try to settle him back down with some water and some singing (we've pretty much nightweaned with the occasional "count to 10 or 5" nursing in emergencies), and then go back to my bed and switch places with DH, but some nights he just freaks and won't let me leave. Sometimes I give in and get little or no sleep myself by staying with him, and other times I just keep trying to leave even if it takes a long time. I don't want to distress him too much, and certainly don't want him to feel abandoned by me or resentful of his little brother. Has anyone else experienced this?
