I'm getting really frustrated with my oldest dd. She's telling lies. Generally of the "saying she's done something she doesn't want to do" variety and "trying to get out of trouble" variety.
She started a new school last term, (same peer group, just moving up to juniors,) and has been a bit shy of approaching her teachers. They are all very gentle and lovely and she gets bucketloads of positive reinforcement for the vast majority of things she does right.
We had to have a lot of discussion about her avoiding talking to her teachers. She'll answer questions in class very happily, but speaking one-to-one makes her nervous. imho being a bit shy I can be very sympathetic to, but it's not acceptable to not speak to them when she needs to.
We had a few incidents last term when it became clear that she wasn't reliable in carrying messages between home and school, getting upset and lying about it.
This morning was the first day back and we couldn't find her shorts to go in her pe kit. I'd thought they were in a pile of ironing I had waiting for yesterday evening, turns out they were not.
We talked, (okay in her head I probably had a long nag) about how she needed to go to the school office and check lost property, she could take a friend if she was feeling shy. Based on past experience I told her that I would know if she hadn't checked, and if not we'd stop her pocket money to replace them. (I'd know, I'd have to go in to buy a replacement and could ask the office staff, some of whom I know very well.)
She swore BLIND that they'd been missing for ages, hadn't worn them all term, but okay she'd go and ask.
They showed up shortly before we left. In the hall chest, fallen out of her bag. (At the start of the holiday, I'd cleared up beforehand, and am certain they came home at the end of term.)
So little madam has been caught out, and knows I'm not happy.
Thank you so much for reading pe kit drama! And please help me respond in a way that helps solve the problem!
She started a new school last term, (same peer group, just moving up to juniors,) and has been a bit shy of approaching her teachers. They are all very gentle and lovely and she gets bucketloads of positive reinforcement for the vast majority of things she does right.
We had to have a lot of discussion about her avoiding talking to her teachers. She'll answer questions in class very happily, but speaking one-to-one makes her nervous. imho being a bit shy I can be very sympathetic to, but it's not acceptable to not speak to them when she needs to.
We had a few incidents last term when it became clear that she wasn't reliable in carrying messages between home and school, getting upset and lying about it.
This morning was the first day back and we couldn't find her shorts to go in her pe kit. I'd thought they were in a pile of ironing I had waiting for yesterday evening, turns out they were not.
We talked, (okay in her head I probably had a long nag) about how she needed to go to the school office and check lost property, she could take a friend if she was feeling shy. Based on past experience I told her that I would know if she hadn't checked, and if not we'd stop her pocket money to replace them. (I'd know, I'd have to go in to buy a replacement and could ask the office staff, some of whom I know very well.)
She swore BLIND that they'd been missing for ages, hadn't worn them all term, but okay she'd go and ask.
They showed up shortly before we left. In the hall chest, fallen out of her bag. (At the start of the holiday, I'd cleared up beforehand, and am certain they came home at the end of term.)
So little madam has been caught out, and knows I'm not happy.
Thank you so much for reading pe kit drama! And please help me respond in a way that helps solve the problem!
