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Originally Posted by CherryBomb
 Wow, that's amazing Tiara!
AFM, still struggling and failing with regards to submission. I really think dh and I need to go to Retrouvaille So much anger and resentment built up over years, and "just letting go" isn't working. |
Not much new to report from my end. Dh started back to work yesterday. He got a raise (
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It seems like she'll be coming soon. TMI-was 2 cm and 40% effaced last Monday, then lost alot of my mucous plug (golf ball size) last Wednesday and now lots of prodromal labor.
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Originally Posted by fierrbugg
jewellz: holy geez!! Things are nuts for you too. I know my mom was walking around like 8cm dilated w/ my little brother the week before he was born - (her 5th also). Her doctor told her to carry a basket around w/ her because he was afraid she'd drop him on his head. Instead they picked the day to induce if he didn't come on his own before then. He didn't.
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Originally Posted by fierrbugg
I also feel you on the FMLA/leave stuff. Dh's job kept changing his leave/return dates and we were really certain that he'd be out of a job too. Luckily his boss (who also didn't like him) got transfered while he was out. We will keep your family in our prayers. It is NOT fun dealing w/ these people when they are being jerks about medical leaves. How are they justifying firing him while he was on FMLA?
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Originally Posted by fierrbugg
Happy Birthday to your son.
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Originally Posted by fierrbugg
I like that one.
 Hi ladies: I ducked out of the thread several months ago - well basically because my marriage imploded. BUT, dh and I are trying to work things out - we've been through so much since Sept., but God has been so faithful to us. We're trying to get things back on track, Christ-centered marriage and working on each of us. We're in a home team with two amazing couples who are the marriage mentors of the group and other couples in crisis and this week we just started a series on the book Love and Respect by Emerson Eggrerich (sp). At the end of July, I lost my job and can not for the life of me find another job - not even a part-time one. I can't tell you how many resumes and applications I have put in and have only gotten called for two interviews this entire time. It's frustrating - but I'm trusting that God will lead me to the right position that will truly make me happy - since I haven't worked a job that I've loved ever in my life. Well in college I worked at an NHRA drag strip and I did love that. One of the issues that we're facing as we're trying to rebuild our marriage, is my mil. She's always been a huge problem. We lived next door to her for the first 1 1/2 years of marriage and it was awful. When dh and I met she literally talked to him like she was 3. In the first years of our marriage we fought about her alot. There's history there, hurt feelings from the past which I have moved on from (I hope). To her, nothing dh has done is good enough (I've literally heard her tell people that he uses her for her $ and she's convinced them that he leaves her destitute!!). She's critical of every decision we've made as a married couple (we got married too young (22 & 24), purchased our house too young, etc.). Also she's very manipulative and must be the center of attention. Luckily, we now live about 20 miles away from her and she won't drive the freeways and doesn't like driving at night so there's a cushion because the only time we see her is when we choose to. When we were in crisis in late 2009, and the D word was on the horizon alot (dh's favorite word for a few months), I decided to make peace w/ mil, took her out to lunch and we spent an afternoon talking our stuff out. I mentioned that we hadn't been going to church as much as we should, and I thought that had contributed to our marriage issues. She replied that I had to understand that dh hadn't gone to church as a child at all and church was just a social club anyway. She has lots of anger for organized religion, particularly the Catholic church who she feels abandoned her and her 6 siblings and mom after her father filed for divorce and walked out . . . . I guess the story is that he convinced some high up church official that he wanted to join the ministry and the day the church annulled (?) her parents marriage, her dad married wife #2. Idk how accurate that is, but that's the history as I understand it. Anyway, all of a sudden mil has decided that to get close to us again, she looooves our little bible thumping church and now expects us to come and get her every weekend to take her to church. Normally we feed her too. I feel bad, but having to figure out how to get the gas $ to drive 80 miles every weekend to go pick her up, feed her, and take her home again irks me. I know it's selfish, and I know that I should do this with a glad heart. Dh doesn't like being her taxi on a limited income either, but says well what are we going to do? And maybe this is a way for my mother to get right with God in her old age. Plus we're trying to jumpstart a Total Money Makeover ala Dave Ramsey in 2010 on just dh's salary and my unemployment. He's going to have to work OT to accomplish this especially until I can find a job. While I see the ministry aspect of picking mil up, I'm bogged down by implications on our very tight budget. I'm praying that I will find the way to do this with a sincere and not grumpy heart. In the mean time, does anyone have any words of wisdom or suggestions on how to fake it? |
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Originally Posted by Shami
I think the key is to turn to the Lord in the middle of the situation. Or when I am thinking critical thoughts, I have to learn to reject those thoughts immediately. If I let critical thoughts of dh make a nest in my mind, it seems to grow and become this huge thing in my mind. Eventually, I blow up on him and he had no clue that there was a problem.
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) that I was this horrible evil-willed woman and that our marriage was over. Enter his affair partner, his former EMT partner at work – also married. He points to this practice as the single thing that started the cycle of treachery and betrayal. I think that being honest with yourself that you are in fact doing this with your husband is a huge step. But beyond acknowledging that you do it, taking measures to stop the practice is the most important thing you can do to protect your marriage.|
Originally Posted by Shami
So, my spiritual father told me this:
Let the Lord be the source of your "Hello, how are you?" The Lord Jesus is in you and He wants to be expressed to these sisters. So, at the moment when you see them, begin to call on the name of the Lord within. They don't know that you are calling on the Lord, but you know that you are relying on the Lord for every word which proceeds out of your mouth. Even a simple "Hello" can be from the Lord Jesus. I thought this was so sweet and very practical. |
To me it's unconscionable of his boss to snowball him like that, and leave your family w/o a paycheck for so long. The possibility of retro-pay is a nice thought, but as you said doesn't really help w/ the kids and baby today. Sending 
s and keeping your family in my prayers.
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Originally Posted by fierrbugg
Jewellz: How's everything going? I read your linked post and sounds like dh's work really dropped the ball. Can't tell you how many letters in the mail and phone calls we got from dh's work about when he was expected to return to work - of course some of that was because the HR lady kept getting the dates wrong.
To me it's unconscionable of his boss to snowball him like that, and leave your family w/o a paycheck for so long. The possibility of retro-pay is a nice thought, but as you said doesn't really help w/ the kids and baby today. Sending s and keeping your family in my prayers. |
I'm so excited, but you know terrified that this is actually going to happen after over 9 years.
for everything that is happening in your life. How are you doing? Do we have a new bouncing kiddo, yet? 
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