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Why do they only get sick when you have something important to do?

post #1 of 15
1/5/10 at 1:15pm
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I swear my kids only get sick when there's something I can not miss like a test at school that needing to make up would be a very bad idea (make ups are 50% harder, last time I didn't even recognize most of the words!)

Really, they really only do get sick when I can't miss something. This time its a doozy, sent older dd to my moms house last night since were flying out to the hospital on the other side of the state this morning (delayed due to fog so I'm killing time) and I get a call this morning telling me dd threw up 8 times last night with the last 2 being yellow bile and the last one was a mix of blood and mucus. She should have called me no later then the 3rd time so I could get over there and get meds into her since were pretty sure its an allergic reaction and not the stomach flu. (praying its not, its gonna suck if it is and the baby and I get it while on the plane or at the hospital)

So anyway, why why why, is it they only get sick when I can't miss something?! We've been waiting for this appt since June!
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post #2 of 15
1/11/10 at 3:24am
Are you...serious?
post #3 of 15
1/11/10 at 3:29am
kids can no more control getting ill anymore than you can. You should know that.
post #4 of 15
1/11/10 at 3:43am
oh i hear you.

the one and only time dd got really sick was in asia the day before our flight home. running explosive diarhhea - when she was 10 months old - the only time she got sick in 2 months. i was petrified what would happen on the flight. i got on it armed with bananas. however sweet child that she is - no problems. like it never happened.

the other time - i had an important meeting that i really wanted to attend. if i missed it then it would mean a bunch of smaller meetings to explain it to each dept individually. aaargh HATE meetings!!!! yup missed it.

the next time - the one and only time we got the flu and we got it together - was right during tax season when everything was due.
post #5 of 15
1/11/10 at 3:47am
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post #6 of 15
1/11/10 at 3:49am
Poor baby. If one of my babies was throwing up blood and mucus the last thing on my mind would be what I can't miss. Even if the throwing up is something that has happened in the past, it would still bother me.

I'd probably have the kid in the ER because of the blood thing.

If it's something that you absolutely can't miss, and you trust your parents, you can have them take her to the ER and relieve them as soon as you can. but i can tell you, if it was me i don't think i'd be getting a good grade on the test anyway because my mind would be frantically a million other places and not focused.

it sucks when parenting interferes with things we have to do. but that's parenting. No one said it would always be convenient.

I'm having a hard time imagining myself thinking about how inconvenient it would be if my kid is throwing up blood.
post #7 of 15
1/11/10 at 4:05am
How is she feeling now? (I noticed your post was from the 5th.)
post #8 of 15
1/11/10 at 5:04am
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Originally Posted by Drummer's Wife View Post
How is she feeling now? (I noticed your post was from the 5th.)
She's fine, she'd stopped puking by the time my mom called me and was already on the mend. It was an allergic reaction (which my mom figured) and we quickly traced the source. This has happened often enough in the past the Dr's say to only worry about large amounts of blood and not the trace amounts my mom saw since we know whats causing the bleeding when/if it gets to that point or if she's showing signs of dehydration which she wasn't. Thankfully we haven't had a reaction like that in about 2 years or so since were so careful with her diet.


For everyone else, have you ever heard of WHINING? I was feeling frustrated that yes, literally the kids only get sick when there is something important and yes I do miss what ever. I failed out of school this Fall due to it. The kids are healthy until just hours before something I can't miss without serious consequences every time. They don't ever seem to get sick when we can hang out at home and get though it. The Dr's appt we were going to was for a life threatening issue with my youngest, it was kinda important imo and if at all possible I didn't want to have to reschedule it. We ended up not leaving until late afternoon due to the weather and I was sure dd was fine before I left or I would have canceled the appt but sometimes you just need to whine about something that's frustrating you and you can't really do anything about it.
post #9 of 15
1/11/10 at 5:27am
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
I failed out of school this Fall due to it.
oh i am so sorry satori. that sucks!!! even i would be pissed if that happened to me. not pissed at my dd but at life or fate that made it that way. it would totally totally complicate my life since i have student loans. as if i would need more complications in my life. last year i actually did fail a class because i missed a big exam and there were no make ups - due to dd's illness. and the worst. she was super sick just for a day. yeah ONE DAY. puking high fever. the next day you would not know she had had such high fever.
post #10 of 15
1/11/10 at 5:40am
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Originally Posted by meemee View Post
oh i am so sorry satori. that sucks!!! even i would be pissed if that happened to me. not pissed at my dd but at life or fate that made it that way. it would totally totally complicate my life since i have student loans. as if i would need more complications in my life. last year i actually did fail a class because i missed a big exam and there were no make ups - due to dd's illness. and the worst. she was super sick just for a day. yeah ONE DAY. puking high fever. the next day you would not know she had had such high fever.
Exactly, I'm not pissed at dd, I'm ticked at the universe over it. I'm screwed over this, I was already on fin aid appeal from failing out a prior semester due to there health issues and now I'm SOL, can't get my aid back and my loans will kick back into repayment immediately since my 6 mo grace period was used up when I took a semester off to have a baby. I have to agree with the short term thing too, its just a couple of hours to 1 day thing most of the time, its like come on universe! you couldn't wait 6 hours before you made them sick!? ugh, fate has a sense of humor I will never understand. ok, I do understand it but dam, something with that twisted a sense of humor should not be in charge of fate. They need a different job or something.
post #11 of 15
1/11/10 at 12:23pm
Oh I totally get it. My DD2 is walking petri dish, I swear that child gets every germ known to man, and does she ever get sick when I don't have something big going on, nope. I'm starting a new job, tomorrow is a planning session for the grant I need apply for to get the money to actually fund my new job, it is the first time I have to go into the office on official business. I'm on pins and needles because I just know someone is going to start vomiting any minute, then I'm going to have to cancel, they might rethink me for the position, and then I'm jobless. That is just the way it works in my house. Listen up children of mine, don't start the puking until 11:30am tomorrow and then I'm good!



I didn't read if you got to make it to the appointment or not, I hope you got the info you need. Those specialists are such a PIA to get into, I know some of your kiddos have SN, I hate the waiting months and months for one stupid little appointment.
post #12 of 15
1/11/10 at 1:16pm
I'm glad she's doing better. I totally understood what you were saying. You just want to get through this thing wihth as few complications as possible.

My daughter is 17, and has been getting sick at the worst possible times her whole life. It still drives me nuts!

SHe doesn't do this anymore.. but, on picture day, she ALWAYS hurt her face. LOL. I only have a few school photos of here where she didn't have a scratch or bruise on her face. No other time of the year... just picture day.
post #13 of 15
1/11/10 at 2:11pm
Satori, I think I understand your post in the way that you meant. You're not upset w/ your kids getting sick so much as frustrated that when there's something you really, really need to do, the fates make it almost impossible to happen.

I have a similar issue but with myself. I tend to get sick right before a vacation. The night before dh and I were to leave for our first away trip in 9 years of marriage, I felt a tickle in my throat. By the next day it had developed into a severe cold w/ fever and all that other fun stuff. Same thing happened right before Thanksgiving this year when we were heading out to his parents beach house. Making all of this worse is the fact that my DH has very sour memories of his older sister ruining every trip or vacation with some sort of illness. She even got food poisoning at our wedding. So I feel extra stress *not* to get sick for certain things but my body doesn't seem to listen, lol!
post #14 of 15
1/12/10 at 12:51am
Wow. I'm so sorry that happened. You must have been worried sick.

I have two allergic kids, one of whom also has an immune deficiency. The one with the immune deficiency has multiple food allergies, seven are known to be anaphylactic. The older child just started reacting in the last few months and we've learned he now has five known anaphylactic allergies. Their reactions are terrifying. Vomiting is a systemic reaction and can lead to something really severe. I can't imagine how paralyzed you must have felt being separated from your child, knowing what she was going through without you.
post #15 of 15
1/12/10 at 11:38am
Years ago, on the eve of my doula training my 9 month old had his first fever. I was away from my husband (who was supposed to be afloat) and my parents had to work (little brother too little to babysit, also had school).

I was just MISERABLE. First of all it was his first fever, and I was a new mom, poor guy. Second of all it took us months to save up that money!! He was fine by mid-afternoon, so then I REALLY annoyed that he wasn't still sick. I'd only missed 5 hours of my doula training, but couldn't go in that late either.

Hope she's well, and the baby is too
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