Sometimes, I still feel like I'm not pregnant -- anyone else?

[morgainesmama]

It might be the huge amounts of stress I'm under (new custody paperwork from xh, running a business, clearing out a trashed apt. with an evicted tenant, money issues) -- I don't know.

But I'm 15 weeks now and still sometimes just feeling like I'm not pregnant.

At my dating US (7 weeks) I had this awful feeling there would be no baby. Of course, there was. At my midwife appt. last month, when they felt my fundus, it took them a minute, and I thought "of course. I'm not really pregnant."

I never felt like this with my other three -- maybe because I was so nauseous all the time? I'm getting the smallest twinges of movement, but just barely, and not often, of course.

Anyone else have moments of feeling like they couldn't possibly be pregnant? It really freaks me out, as though it's a bad omen, even though I've even seen my peanut-shaped baby on the ultrasound screen.

[Kuba'sMama]

Hi;
I've felt like that most of this pregnancy. I think part of it is the fact that I did have a miscarriage my last pregnancy, and also since this will be my third baby part of me feels like I'm pushing my luck or something. I think it's just a way for your mind to try to stay detached and possibly avoid getting hurt.
The good thing is that slowly, gradually I'm feeling more and more pregnant (I'm 21 weeks tomorrow). My last midwife appointment, anatomy scan, feeling steadier and more frequent movement, plus showing more lately have all contributed I think.
You'll get there! Again, I don't think it's a bad omen (although I totally get the feeling), I think it's just a form of anxiety that puts up this "wall".

[olien]

yes, I had this too. I wasnt really sick & felt soooo 'normal' for a while. trust me you will soon feel pg!

[MamaMelis]

I feel that way a lot I am 20 weeks. I have a huge belly already, but I have not had one ounce of sickness or aversions this pregnancy, so other than my burgeoning belly I hardly feel pregnant at all! I also feel like since this is my third baby in 3 years I am simply so used to walking around with a belly that it is something that I have grown accustomed to, like someone who wears glasses oftentimes forgets that they are there.

I don't feel worried about it (though, like you, before my dating US at 7 weeks I totally felt like there might be something wrong, I simply felt 'too good').....now I am just settling in and enjoying the ride, I know that all too soon I will be having some aching hips or heartburn or whatever.

Wishing you a wonderful pregnancy that continues to be easy on you!

[earthnut]

I felt it too, not having morning sickness, until my belly was obvious and I could feel the kicks. Here's a good thing: if you don't notice it, you're having an easy pregnancy!

[sunshadow]

The only time I felt not pregnant with my daughter was at about 9 weeks when I wasn't having any symptoms. That scared me! This time with my son I honestly would kind of forget I was pregnant up until the 3rd trimester. I carried him different and he didn't move around as much. I only worried about it with my daughter though. Experience I guess!

[morgainesmama]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one!

I'm really anxious for when I can feel this baby tap dancing around in there several times a day. I was pregnant in 99, 01/02, and 03/04, and it just seemed like a whole different experience then -- now, it's been over 5 years since I was pregnant, lol! I wasn't nearly as busy in those days, either, though, so maybe that's part of it.

I do have the exhaustion (not nearly as bad as it was) but without the MS, it just feels more like laziness, lol.

[mommysaurus]

Wow! I totally could have written your post, I'm even 15 wks too! I have those same feelings going on, it's crazy. This is #9 for me, but the first time I've ever felt like I wasn't really pg. I'm sure once we get further along we'll feel it! I have the exhaustion/laziness too! I guess we should consider ourselves lucky this time around, not to have ms bad or other symptoms!

[Becken]

I felt that way with my first - like I was some sort of sham and the midwife was going to tell me at my appointment, "Um, why are you here? You're not even pregnant!"

THIS time around, I actually keep forgetting that I'm pregnant. And I'm 33 weeks along now!! There are times that I am flabbergasted to see my profile reflected in the mirror, with this huge tummy sticking out! It's mainly because I'm so busy with my 3 year old, and because I'm seeing a chiro consistently and not in constant pain!

Don't worry, mama; pregnancy lasts several months so we can get used to the idea of a new little person inside! Just let your feelings grow with your belly.

[Bmorefarmgirl]

this happens to me all the time. i am 26 weeks. when i was 15 weeks, it happened even more! now that i feel him move every day, i get little reminders, but around 15-20 weeks when people kept asking me how i felt and if i felt any movement yet and i didn't have anything to report, i just felt so bad and like it was all a joke. at every midwife appointment, i am paranoid that they will not find a heartbeat and they will find out this was a hysterical pregnancy or something even though i had a 20wk ultrasound and saw his heart and bones head and everything!

[reneeisorym]

I was afraid they would ask me at a baby store why I was there.
I haven't been sick at all - this is #1 and I feel normal. I keep thinking, "If you weren't pregnant, you would have a period and all those tests would just have one line!"

[artemis33]

I felt that way quite a bit between the time when my nausea disappeared at about 12-13 weeks and when I started feeling movement at almost 19 weeks. It is pretty obvious now with my big belly and lots of wiggling around in there, but even still it seems strange sometimes!

[Tiffanoodle]

Yes! I'm also 15 weeks and this whole thing has been so surreal. We were DEFINITELY not ttc yet. It took 2 years and 1.5 years to conceive #'s 2 and 3 for us. This time it was 1 month off bc. Adding to that, I had a blood test in the ER about the time I should have been getting af and it was a bfn. It wasn't until about 10 days later when I realized that yes, my dh was right, my boobs were getting bigger, that I took a hpt and got a bfp. (I ovulated a week late, which is pretty standard for me.) Of course, I took 2 hpt that day. Then questioned whether I read them right and went out at 2am to get a brand I was used to. Then I went in the next day for a test at the walk in clinic. I couldn't sleep the night before my dating u/s at 10 weeks, and realized I'd been holding my breath when I let it out upon actually seeing a heartbeat. I forget ALL the time that I'm pregnant, despite an increasingly large belly. We have SO much stress going on too. We just moved from MI back to WI, we were actually moving into our house the week we conceived. We made some huge life decisions, like me going back to work after Baby is born and my dh going back to college and quitting his job. Yikes. I always think life would be so much simpler if I wasn't pregnant, then I get upset with myself and wonder if I'm jinxing it or something. I've been feeling some fluttering and a few kicks. I'm hoping that once we have our 20 week u/s and (hopefully) find out the sex, and when I start feeling regular movement it will start to sink in and I will actually get excited. I feel kind of cheated, since this will probably be our last child and I feel like I'm just not enjoying pregnancy like I want to.

[earthnut]

I'm still surprised when I look down and see my huge belly!