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Has Anyone Read "Parent Effeciveness Training" by Thomas Gordon?

post #1 of 10
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I was looking over it and it sounds decent but was wondering your thoughts?
http://www.amazon.com/Parent-Effecti.../dp/0609806939
http://www.amazon.com/Parent-Effecti.../dp/0452264618
post #2 of 10
I'm responding because no one has so far and I didn't want you to be hanging out there with no replies. :-)
I've read it and I liked it. But I haven't had the time to sit and write a big long thoughtful response. But it was a help to me.
post #3 of 10
I've read it and I also liked it.
It's been a while,almost 2 years and I don't remember much. Since this book was one of the first books on gentle discipline there are few things I remember well because it was the first time I've read or heard about them like "I message" and false acceptance.
I'm planning to read it again.
post #4 of 10
I have had it for a few years, but never read it so I can't help! I bought it because it was highly recommended by some of my AP mentors!
post #5 of 10
Thread Starter 
Thanks for the replies, I added it to my rental list from the library.
post #6 of 10
I read it and liked it. It's similar to the ideas on How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen...

On a sort of related note, DP's parents have a copy of PET that was given to them in 1972 (when DP was a toddler). I knew they were GD, but I was super impressed that they had PET!
post #7 of 10
i read this, also step (systematic training for effective parenting) is similiar. It has been probably 10 years since I read the 2 but they reminded me of "Raising a Thinking Child", "How to Talk So your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk" and "sos help for parents" (another oldie but goodie). Very much into teaching and working on parenting techniques as opposed to blind obediance/punishment
post #8 of 10
One thing I really liked about PET (I read it while I was a nanny for an infant) was the idea to figure out the kid's side of the problem and see if you could solve it, especially for things that you have to do to the kid, but the kid doesn't like. This baby didn't like having his diaper changed, and I finally figured out that he was much calmer if I took his socks off, as well as his pants. I guess he didn't like me holding his ankles with his socks on? Just my 2c.
post #9 of 10
I have this book and I liked it as well.

I bought it at the same time I bought Naomi Aldorts 'Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves'. Both books are along the same lines and to me, very 'consensual living' type of books. Both books give loads of good examples and ideas. A great help when you are stuck and need encouragment!

One thing I did find, is that I did not find this as easy to read as Aldorts book. I think this is just how my brain is wired. Aldorts book was written by a woman and P.E.T by a man! lol It took a few reads of P.E.T. for me to be comfortable with the way it was written.

However - it is very well written. It is also the kind of book I think suitable to take in at little gasps at a time. Perhaps in the bath or something? Aldorts book had me thinking more deeply and I think I had to read that in order. With P.E.T, I could pick up and start anywhere in the book. I also really like how it explains the damage that praise/rewards and threats/punishments can have on our children in the long run - not to be fooled by its immediate 'obidience' affect it has on our children and why it could have that affect (and how thats not really a great thing). Aldorts book didn't really explain that - I loved her book, but it just sorta started from the asumption that you already knew that, which is why you had this book (which was me, so that was fine! lol). I guess P.E.T was written in a more 'mainstream' kinda way. So perhaps its the kind of book thats likely to reach more audiences. ? Perhaps suitable for all the family...accidentally leave it at Grandmas house hehe.
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