Now that we've had our December babies...

[evinmom]

How many are done and how many want more?

[SilvanaRose]

LOL! I want more. DH is thinking about it. I want at least 3 kids. I just want a big family. We are both only children and I just think it would be nice to have a full household. I can't imagine Orin being my only child and never being pregnant again.

[4Blessings]

95% sure we are done at four kids. But I chose not to get my tubes tied so only time will tell

[justmandy]

I'm done. Dh is getting snipped as soon as he makes the appointment. It better be soon, I don't want to be pregnant again.

[AimeeandBrian]

We don't know. I'm getting an IUD and we'll see how we feel in a few years. I like the idea of 3, but I'm overwhelmed as it is.

[Tattooed Hand]

more. i want 2 or 3 but not sure about spacing in terms of bf, my body, sanity. any thoughts? i'm newly 34 so i don't have a ton of time.

[SilvanaRose]

Originally Posted by Tattooed Hand

more. i want 2 or 3 but not sure about spacing in terms of bf, my body, sanity. any thoughts? i'm newly 34 so i don't have a ton of time.

I was sorta thinking the same thing although I'm a little younger. I don't want to always be pregnant but I want my kids to be fairly close in age....DH is nervous lol

[evinmom]

DH says his limit is 4 so we will likely have 1 more. I've always wanted a large family. We have been using NFP for birth control for 9 years. However, once the babies are 2 or older, we tend to lack self control. Hence why we have Everett. LOL Neither DH or I feel sure about permanent measures so I don't know how we will guarantee that we stay at 4 kids.

Our spacing has been great though. DS1 & DD are 2 years 10 months apart. I love the 3ish year age gap. There is enough spacing so I didn't have 2 babies at once, yet they are close enough in age to enjoy the same things. Of course the more they play together the more they fight too. At this point I am also liking the 4 year age gap between DD and Everett and the 7 year age gap between DS1 and Everett. The older kids are old enough that I can ask them to do things for me. It has been easier having their help. I remember transitioning to 2 kids was really rough because DS1 was still so needy at almost 3 years old.

Every age gap comes with its own set of pros and cons. There is no perfect spacing for everyone. I really want at least 1 summer baby so I'm debating whether to have the next one at 2.5 years or 3.5 years. I'm turning 33 this year so I thought that maybe 2.5 years might be better at first. Then I remember what it was like when DS1 was that age and I was pregnant with DD and I think 3.5 years might be better. I also don't know about tandem nursing. I like nursing each child for a minimum of 2 years, but having one child weaned before the next is born. I can't stand nursing while pregnant so both my older kids weaned during my pregnancies. I was so scared when DD (3.5 years old at the time) was saying she was going to share the boobies with the new baby. We'll see where self control (or lack thereof) takes us I guess.

[Vespertina]

I'd like at least one more. DH is comfortable with that. I wouldn't mind two more, though.

It will probably be at least 18 months-2 years before we actually actively TTC again.

[~Kristina~]

We're done. If I was rich and owned a lot of land with a huge house on it, we wouldn't be. Dh goes in for his vesectomy on the 22nd.

[ears73]

omg... it is totally crazy but I'd love one more!!! I am 36, dh 38... but with the ages of our older two it is just crazy.. lol

Di Linh, I agree totally about everyone's different pros and cons of age spacing... 4.5 years between my first two was awesome but my 2nd was difficult and had some health issues that did not get straightened out for a long while... then we never got pregnant. I wasn't really trying but we hadn't used anything for 6 years. Wouldn't you know when I turned 35 and said "I am done! hook me up w/some bc!" that I'd not use it one time and...well... hello baby!!

[bethanyclaire]

DP and I were just talking about this again last night and I was coming here to post a thread.

I can't imagine not having 1 more. 4 is our limit, though, and we'll probably do something more "permanent" after that. We talked about it a lot during this pg'cy and when I first brought it up I thought he'd say no for sure... but he surprised me by being really excited at the idea of another baby.

As far as spacing... DS and DD are 22 months apart and I LOVE it! I think we'll shoot for that again, maybe even a month or two closer together. They love eachother and DS doesn't remember a time without his sister so he never felt resentful. They are best friends and do everything together. They argue like any other siblings but watching their relationship really warms my heart! Obviously, it would be different for every child and every family but, as far as I'm concerned, the closer the better! I want Ciaran to have a sibling close to his own age. I would also like him to have a biological sibling since DS and DD are from my previous marriage.

Anyway... I know I'm just not done yet! I always said I wanted 3, maybe 4, and was sad that it might not happen after my divorce. Now I'm so happy to have 3 that 4 just feels right!

[justmandy]

Originally Posted by bethanyclaire

As far as spacing... DS and DD are 22 months apart and I LOVE it! I think we'll shoot for that again, maybe even a month or two closer together. They love eachother and DS doesn't remember a time without his sister so he never felt resentful. They are best friends and do everything together. They argue like any other siblings but watching their relationship really warms my heart! Obviously, it would be different for every child and every family but, as far as I'm concerned, the closer the better! I want Ciaran to have a sibling close to his own age. I would also like him to have a biological sibling since DS and DD are from my previous marriage.

I couldn't agree more. My middle boys are 16 months apart and best friends. They have always had eachother and it was the easiest transition...I think because ds1 was still a baby so it was easy to have two babies. They are a lot like twins.

In fact, for a while I thought I'd like to have one more just for that reason...so this baby would have a buddy. But with all the (minor but difficult) issues I had with this pregnancy I wouldn't put my family through that again. Getting back to normal is more important for us.

[beep]

At least one and possibly two more for us.

[cloudbutterfly]

We've always planned on two. DH decided during the pregnancy that he might want three...and I wouldn't be entirely opposed, but I figure we should see how the first one works before we think too hard about siblings.

[flapjack]

We're done. DH's appointment is the 19th February.

As far as spacing goes, 2 years has been great for us, but having a newborn, a rambunctious 2yo boy and a verbal and vocal 4yo girl is really tough. It was much easier having two, two years apart and then a bigger gap and then another two, two years apart.

[doclegs]

We want one more, but considering it took us 3 years and 3 miscarriages to get this little one, not to mention the pregnancy and delivery complications, I'm not very optimistic. DH and I have talked briefly about it, but haven't planned anything.

[Brisen]

I'm on the fence. Sometimes I feel done, sometimes I feel like there is another one out there for us. We're not doing anything permanent or making any decisions right now.

[nina_yyc]

I am having so much fun snuggling Elliot that I'm not sure I can take the idea that this is the last time I will have a baby. We're reallly not sure though. DH is planning to deploy to Afghanistan in Sept.2010 and after that we have to see where we are. We would need a bigger house for 3 kids and I don't want to do it with two working parents either...don't know if those two conditions are compatible.

[yentroc]

We're done at two. We were going to be done at one but I wanted one more. I would love to be pregnant and give birth and have another baby but don't think we could handle three kids, so dh will end up getting snipped. I'm just trying to really take in ds as a baby knowing he's our last. Oh and I'm 35 and dh is 40 which is another reason...