The List: Can you remove my birthday infor please? Thanks!
I've been posting on the NMY threads since the first one, back when I was 18. I keep coming back, but I haven't been able to keep up in a long time. I have a lot going on in my life right now (graduating college, recently engaged, moving out...) I am really missing the online community I had back when I was a regular poster. Best of all we will be TTC soon after the wedding (April '11)!
Some six years after coming to MDC and finding the NMYs I will be TTC.
I read the first few pages of this thread, and the last few, but I'm mosing planning on jumping in here and seeing if I stick with it or not.
Originally Posted by HerRoyallHighness
Here's another question: Do you announce to your family and close friends that you are TTC? Or will you wait until it happens?
My gut reaction is to not tell anyone until after the first trimester. Unfortunately I am a talker (as you may see reflected in my posts)
I don't know if I could keep a secret like that from my people. And I know my people couldn't keep it at all.
I think I need to do a little more soul searching with DF before a BFP.
Originally Posted by Neuromancer
I'm of two minds about telling people. I know this is just a pre-pregnancy theory and that my actual in-the-moment decision could very likely be different, but I think I'd tell many people I feel close with in the first trimester. Mostly this is because I'd be really excited AND nervous. I'd want to talk about it. But in part, this is also because I'd like to help erase the stigma of miscarriage. Of course, if I were to have a miscarriage I'm sure I would feel very complex emotions about it, including sadness I can't now imagine, but I also hope I would not feel ashamed. And if I had to tell people I had a miscarriage (or pass the message on through friends/family) I hope it would be another way to de-mystify (but not gloss over) this sad event that happens to so many people.
I love this, it really resonated with me when I read it through. It's a complicated and emotionally charged decision for a lot of people wither to tell or not. My mind is still nowhere near made up about it, but I sure do appreciate women with this attitude. The idea of feelings of shame around a miscarriage strikes me as tragic and realistic, it would be hard to tell people.