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I can't co sleep... please help! (LONG)

post #1 of 5
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DS is 18months old and has been having major sleep issues for weeks now. He was an early STTN baby and I know that's spoiled me. But he's waking 2-3 times a night now, and just wants to be cuddled. I truly wish I could, but I physically can't share my bed with him. If I'm facing him he make me nauseous from pressing on my belly if I turn my back to him I don't feel safe, plus he winds up pushing me to where I am hanging out of the bed. I'm in early stages of pregnancy so this awful sleep I'm getting is making me much less able to function during the day. It's also made him start sleeping until 10 or 11 am... which means I don't get him down for a nap until 2-3 if I'm lucky and he sleeps for 2-3 hours, which means he goes to sleep around 12 or 1AM! It's a vicious cycle and I can't seem to stop it.

He can't just completely forego a nap, he's not ready for that. I've tried skipping a nap to get him back in schedule and he crashes out at 9 or 10 but still wakes up several times and still sleeps till 11. He used to go to sleep at 10 is and sleep for 12 hours, maybe waking once, I'd hold him and he'd go back to sleep and back into his crib w/o difficulty. Now we put him back in his bed and he wakes up screaming immediately.

He has all his teeth, so it's not teething, reflux is under control so it isn't that. His ears are fine so it's not that. I'm out of ideas! We've tried instituting a bedtime snack to go w/ his milk but that's not helping either. Oh and we aren't able to move his crib into our room, 1 it won't fit and 2 I can't put him in there only to move him back out in a few months when the twins get here.

If you have any ideas I would truly appreciate them.
post #2 of 5
Can DH be the one to sleep next to him? As my DD got older and needed to nurse less, one of the greatest things for my DH was how much he was able to help at night.
post #3 of 5
Daytime reflux control does not always = nighttime reflux control, just an idea.

Also - he may need more cuddles, etc. because he senses the changes with the pregnancy.

Can your DH have some special cuddle time with him instead of you?
post #4 of 5
The same thing is happening here. DD has been an excellent STTNer in her own bed for about a year, but all of a sudden, she wants me near her all night long. I really don't mind cosleeping, but DH doesn't like it, so I end up going to sleep on the futon with her, which is not so comfy. AND, I'm pg and worry about making a habit of this by the time baby comes.

Tonight, if she has trouble going to sleep alone, I'm going to try starting out with her on the futon and leaving once she's in a good sleep. I think my DD is needing more special time because she sense the pregnancy, but she may also be getting cold in her room, which is the coldest in the house, and she won't use a blanket in her crib. Do you think there's something about your DS room which is suddenly uncomfortable?
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If anything his room is suddenly comfortable we've slept w/ the window a/c still on in his room because it was so hot in there. We recently took it out because the landlord finally figured out how to turn down his radiator so it's comfortable instead of sweltering. We put an air purifier in there that sounds just like the a/c because we were sure he had gotten used to the white noise.

DH does try to cuddle with him, but is a very restless sleeper, he needs to move at night. So if DS is laying with him, he stays in the same position for a long period of time and has problems w/ that side the next day.

Last night he stayed in his bed for the first 5.5 hours, then came to our bed stayed up for an hour since we couldn't find any of his binks (we finally did and he fell back to sleep at 7 am) then he slept in my bed until 12:30pm... this is crazy! Our bed is really high, so I don't let him lay there unless I'm right there so I was stuck in bed that whole time as well. Our bed is also a pillow top and really squishy so it's not even all that safe for him to be in bed with us to begin with... We do cuddle A LOT during the day! He also gets cuddled to sleep. Today since he got up so late I'm going to try skipping his nap and getting him down and 9 and see what happens. Maybe I'll try the humidifier in his room...
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