feeling a little sad...

[Oliver'sMom]

My cousin just had a beautiful baby girl 2 weeks ago. Her first baby. I was looking through new pictures she had posted on facebook and came across one where she had the baby in her car seat, in front of the tv, with a bottle propped up with pillows. The caption said "she sure loves spongebob!!"

I know they're very loving parents, and they probably have no clue what they're doing, but I couldn't help but feel really disappointed and sad. I don't think she even attempted to nurse her baby I'm trying my best not to judge. Just thought I'd share here where I know you moms would understand.

[Abraisme]

[Ambishop19]

Wow... that is really sad.

[mamatoablessing]

I'm sorry...that must be really hard to see.

[snoopy5386]

that is crazy! sorry....

[Addy's Mom]

Isn't bottle propping a seriously dangerous practice at such a young age?

[lovebug]

s that had to be really hard to see!

i hope it was a joke and a one time thing just for the photo! it never shocks me though!

i have a 'friend' that has a pic much like. however she thiks its funny, uses the tv as a babysitter and love that her kiddo would rather watch tv then play cars or something

[Ellp]

Wow, at 2 weeks? Even at 2 months thats pretty young! I'd think at 2 weeks that would be dangerous as the baby could choke.

Hopefully that picture was just a joke (and a poor one at that).

[claddaghmom]

other than misjudging in the case of it being a joke...what is there that you can't judge??? That makes no sense why someone would do that to a newborn and then brag about it publicly.

[angelpie545]

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[Oliver'sMom]

I really don't think it was a joke. There were comments from friends saying "how cute" and "my baby loves spongebob too!"

At first I hoped it was a bottle of expressed breastmilk, but then I noticed it was one of those free enfamil formula bottles the hospital gives you.

It definately didn't look safe at all. At least in all of the other pictures she was being held and wasn't in front of the tv. In one other one her dad was feeding her with the bottle. Still, pretty sad to see.

[Xavismom]

I know how you feel, when you are so excited to have a new little one in your family, but then dissapointed in something like that happening...

My Aunt and I recently both had our first babies. My DS is 7 weeks, her DD is 5 weeks. I tried my best to influence her in positive directions while we were both pregnant, but she just didnt get it. The two things I'm having the hardest time with, and not saying anything to her about it, is her putting DD on formula after only BF for one week, and also, she took castor oil to put herself into labor 2 1/2 weeks EARLY bc she was 'tired of feeling full of baby'. The poor little thing is SO tiny, and limp and pale... we are all worried about her, and for the first week, I thought, well at least she is getting BM... but then Aunt decided it was too much work to BF and said she 'wasnt making enough milk' which I know is not true since I saw her the day before she switched to formula and we nursed our LO's together.

Its so sad sometimes to see what family/friends chose for their children, but what can you do?

[transylvania_mom]

I know how you feel. My sister's baby is two weeks older than dd. She let me know she started cereals in a bottle at 3.5 months. I look at dd and can't imagine feeding her solids now!

[boringscreenname]

I know how you feel. I have a former co-worker on my facebook page and she posted pictures of her newborn daughter "holding" her own bottle. Umm no the baby was lying on a couch with the bottle propped up by a blanket and milk was running down the poor baby's face. She also puts her baby to bed with a bottle and leaves it all night, and brags about how her daughter loves Disney movies.

I was baby-sitting for DP's co-worker, a 7 month old little boy. They told me to get him to calm down to just stick him in his carseat in front of the tv with a pillow on his chest/stomach and a bottle propped.

[petey44]

Things like this make me so sad. My dh's brother and his wife do this sort of thing with their little boy. Visiting them recently was so hard- my dh actually got in an argument with his brother over whether or not holding your child was a bad thing!!! (Of course dh was of the opinion that you should hold your child as much as possible).
I don't understand some people...

[funkymamajoy]

My SIL has several pics like this and would rather her 6-year old play video games then actually play (since real play involves noise and messes).

[Materfamilias]

Oh, ick. Haven't they read any of the advisories against tv?

[lilmom]

Oh, that does make me sad too.

I have a friend who has a 3 month old, and she recently told me that she wasn't sure how much tv she should be "letting" him watch, but that she likes to put him in front of it so she can get things done. It really made me sad too.

[KristaDJ]

Wow. Carseats are dangerous to use like that as they can cause they baby's oxygen levels to drop enough to cause brain damage. They are really only supposed to be used in the car. Plus bottle propping is a total no-no as are pillows near an immobile infant. I would comment or send her a message with links and I would not care one bit if she was offended.
http://children.webmd.com/news/20090...-oxygen-levels
http://www.associatedcontent.com/art...ng.html?cat=25

[InMediasRes]

How sad

I saw a similar picture of a friend's child watching a Red Sox game at 7 weeks old in a bouncy chair. The caption read "She's a Sox fan already". I hoped it was a joke and that it wasn't something they do on a regular basis.