i dont mind NIP but i dont like a public twiddle/undress

[BaaBaa]

how can i gently help dd understand that i need to leave my other nipple in my shirt when we are out? I let her twiddle, partly because i dont mind, partly becuase she would throw a raging fit (sometimes) if i dont. But it is progressing into taking off my shirt so she can freely see and twiddle the other side.

Plus- i feel kinda strange about people seeing her twiddling.....

is it just me? anybody else feel this way? any ideas?

BTW she is VERY strong willed, and putting her down doesnt make me happy, as i feel like its a nursing refusal. and im desperate for her to continue nursing till she is 18 years old..... just kidding. she is 17 months.

[D_McG]

it's not a nursing refusal to set personal boundaries. I guess I'm coming from a different perspective because I never allowed twiddling. But if/when they try I move the hand and if they persist I stop nursing. It doesn't take long to get the message across.

I don't mind fits over things like that. It's OK that the child is annoyed. And it's OK for you to say no.

[Ashley_R]

I don't let my DD twiddle, haven't for months (the sensation is too much for me). She still sometimes get upset when I stop her, screaming fit and all. When she calms down I explain that she is welcome to nurse on either one but that she can't play with the other because it hurts momma. If I give in she'll never learn that its not ok.
Have you tried a nursing necklace, it doesn't work for us anymore, but maybe it would keep her entertained enough, at least when you're in public, to stop the undressing. Good luck!

[lifeguard]

I agree with D McG. Plus I find that at this point ds rarely needs to nip & even when he does want to if it is inconvenient I can usually delay him anyway. So perhaps if you are ok with the twiddling at home you can make bfing an at home activity only?

[D_McG]

Originally Posted by lifeguard

I agree with D McG. Plus I find that at this point ds rarely needs to nip & even when he does want to if it is inconvenient I can usually delay him anyway. So perhaps if you are ok with the twiddling at home you can make bfing an at home activity only?

Yes - I mostly stop nursing outside the house after the first year.