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I've never had the hives, I hope they're gone now! Is it just from hormones fluctuating? Take care!

And wishing the best with going back to work. You'll do fine, esp. if your DH brings baby to visit!
Carmel, I'm thinking it is hormones after reading a lot of stories about post partum hives/itching online and talking to a few friends who have experienced it. I'm going to count myself lucky that the hives themselves only lasted 4 days. One of my friends said she had recurring hives for 3 years until she got pregnant again. *knock on wood* that whatever is causing it is not going to cause them to recur. Thanks for the encouragement!

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So how are you wrapping him? All the newborn videos and instructions I've seen online have a newborn with their head in the wrap.
Mary, I use the cross carry, but I do it so that the middle part that you first wrap around your belly is on the outside. I stick the two sides that come from the shoulder inside the belly band area. Then I cross them and tie behind. I take Everett and stick one leg through each side of the cross and spread the material one side at a time across his bum, back, shoulders. I use a woven wrap so it's very tight. At this point, the two criss-crossing sides should already be covering his entire back and both shoulders up to his neck. Then for added support, I pull the belly band area over both legs, then up his back, up to his neck. His head/face is resting against my chest. This usually provides his neck with enough support I don't have to cover his head unless I'm leaning over in which case I put my hand behind his head. Once he's asleep and if his neck starts to bob back, I just pull up the side where the back of his head is resting against so that it just covers his head and not his face. I hope this makes sense. I can try to get DH to take a picture tonight if Everett cooperates.

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Taking DS with me is fine, but when DH comes he also wants to bring our huge dog which just makes for an overwhelming caravan if we try to go anywhere I feel stressed the whole time because our dog is jumping all over the place, the baby is crying and DH/I are trying to manage it all. . I feel like we haven't even had a conversation with each other in the last 2 weeks. I just want to be able to go have a (quick) nice dinner without having to deal with a hyperactive dog and the baby.... its got to be one or the other for a while because I can't handle both.
I love our dog, but my sanity and the baby come first. Why is DH opposed to leaving the dog at home? Can you just let him know how much it stresses you out to have to bring the dog too? DH and I went out to lunch a couple of weeks ago with some friends and Everett slept the whole time in the wrap. It was nice and I didn't even have to take care of him really until after we left when he woke up to eat and get a change.

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Questions: who's babies are smiling? dd was 5 wks old for her first social smile... i'm ready for my "smile payment"!
Everett started smiling at 5 weeks.
post #22 of 74
I'm giving up dairy...I think. I'm pretty sure it's a problem but want to talk to my mw about it. I'm pretty sure she'll agree.

<--this is both for my loss of dairy and for poor Levi who is just not happy. I feel so bad for him. I actually dreamed of giving him a bottle last night.

I think eggs may bother him, too. Is that common? Is he too young to take to an allergist?
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I'm giving up dairy...I think. I'm pretty sure it's a problem but want to talk to my mw about it. I'm pretty sure she'll agree.

<--this is both for my loss of dairy and for poor Levi who is just not happy. I feel so bad for him. I actually dreamed of giving him a bottle last night.

I think eggs may bother him, too. Is that common? Is he too young to take to an allergist?
I'm the the same boat with the elimination diet. I gave up eggs too as DD is severely allergic to eggs. Eggs are a common allergen. Too bad they are one of my fav foods, especially when I was vegetarian. At least I've been down this road before so I know what to do. No allergy test is 100% accurate and the tests seem to be less accurate for really young babies. The problem is that in order to come out positive, the child's body must have produced enough antibodies against the allergen. Allergies take repeated exposure in order to trigger the body's immune responses. So when they are really young, the test may turn out negative even if they do have an allergy just because the levels of antibodies are not high enough yet. I hope that makes sense. However, if Levi starts developing severe eczema, the allergist may be able to help you figure out ways to control it.

ETA: Despite allergy testing at 8 months, we didn't know the extent of DD's allergies until she started solids at 10 months. That was when she started having anaphylatic reactions to foods.
post #24 of 74
Well, I'm 12 hours into no dairy, I already hate it.

But I've been reading information on the LLL site about over supply and foremilk/hindmilk imbalance and that all fits perfectly as well.

So I'm waiting for mw to call me back, drinking peppermint tea to help decrease milk supply and reading more.

This is hard.
post #25 of 74
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Well, I'm 12 hours into no dairy, I already hate it.

But I've been reading information on the LLL site about over supply and foremilk/hindmilk imbalance and that all fits perfectly as well.

So I'm waiting for mw to call me back, drinking peppermint tea to help decrease milk supply and reading more.

This is hard.
I found the elimination diet to be most overwhelming the first 3 months with DD. At the last LLL conference, I attended a seminar in which the LC told us new research suggests foremilk/hindmilk imbalance does not exist. When milk comes out of the ducts, it swirls and mixes and the milk at the beginning a feed is pretty similar to the milk at the end of the feed.
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I also had a few symptoms of mastitis come on this Saturday. Most notably, a bright red spot with a red line snaking away from it and a sudden bout of extreme fatigue soon after it appeared. But I seem to have headed it off with something in the grapefruit seed extract/Emergen-C/probiotics/Advil/lots of water/breast massage/heat and cold regimen I immediately started until I could call a doctor (which I skipped now that it's better), because you can barely see where the red line was and the big red spot is localized now, and I never got any pain there or a fever or anything. I'm keeping a close watch on it and will get help if it gets at all worse again.
ugh, me too! On Sunday I had terrible pain, chills, and the red spot. The day before I went to a b-day party and wore a smaller bra... with the combo of baby sleeping in the sling for a bit longer and the bra... Ugh.

I drank a lot of emergency, advil, and did the massage in the shower, warm compresses and lots of nursing--

It seems to be better! I can still feel some clogginess but at least the redness and chills and pain are gone.

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Okay, well, I talked to my mw and she doesn't seem to think it's either problem. I'm keeping a detailed journal of what I eat, when he poops, when he eats and when he's fussy and well evaluate it next week at my appointment. She said I could keep eating normally while I keep this chart and then we'll make a decision.

She mentioned it could be thrush. Now I need to read about that.
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Questions: Is there anything else that soothes sore nipples other than lanolin and cold? Or makes them toughen up faster?
Cloud: My nipples were cracked and bleeding (ds even had blood in his spit up ). Two things really helped. My dr. gave me a prescription for All Purpose Nipple Ointment. It's a lifesaver. Ask your Dr. if they prescribe it. Also, nipple gel packs (either Medela or Lansinoh makes them). You can get both at Target or local drug stores. The Lansinoh one is called Soothies. They helped sooo much.
post #29 of 74
Name: Henry

Baby's age: 3 weeks, adjusted/9 weeks actual age

Milestones/Updates: developmentally, I would say that H. is somewhere between his gestational/adjusted age and his actual age: he's not like a term two-month-old, but on the other hand his head control is solid at this point, he social smiles (I particularly like it when he looks at you very seriously and gets a thoughtful gleam in his eye and then breaks out the toothless grin.... already working the angles, this kid), is working on rolling.

This may sound kind of Pollyanna, but one of the fascinating things about having a premature baby was getting to see his pre-birth development happen outside the womb. It was like a little window into what would have been going on with him inside of me (obviously I would have preferred he stay put, but hey...)

He's also REALLY GOOD at nursing, which I am so happy about. We've just begun to master nighttime side-lying nursing, which was complicated at first due to my ginormous boobs, but we're getting there. Makes things so much easier in the middle of the night if I don't have to sit up, you know?

Questions: I may start a thread for this if it gets buried, but for those of you who do family bed and are (occasionally) able to put your baby down for a daytime nap on their own, how do you babyproof the bed? Henry fell so deeply asleep at the breast earlier that I left him in the bed, surrounded by pillows. Our mattress is on the floor and I checked on him frequently, but I felt a little unsure about it. Henry is on the verge of consistently being able to turn from back to side, and I worry a bit about him jamming his little face into the bed.

Also, babywearers, what are your favorite instructional videos? I haven't been able to find a babywearing group here, and I could use some tips to branch out beyond the few carries I keep falling back on.
post #30 of 74
I found this in the babywearing forum.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=44snbbszTps

We started using it and Rassa loves it!
post #31 of 74
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ugh, me too! On Sunday I had terrible pain, chills, and the red spot. The day before I went to a b-day party and wore a smaller bra... with the combo of baby sleeping in the sling for a bit longer and the bra... Ugh.

I drank a lot of emergency, advil, and did the massage in the shower, warm compresses and lots of nursing--

It seems to be better! I can still feel some clogginess but at least the redness and chills and pain are gone.



Mine is better yet today. I wore a new nursing tank for two days before I noticed mine. I'm hoping that wasn't the cause because it was nice having the girls supported around the house. It's hard to tell because I was doing so many different things at the time...two really long sleeps, not using the nipple shields (though that theoretically would make things better), etc.
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Questions: I may start a thread for this if it gets buried, but for those of you who do family bed and are (occasionally) able to put your baby down for a daytime nap on their own, how do you babyproof the bed? Henry fell so deeply asleep at the breast earlier that I left him in the bed, surrounded by pillows. Our mattress is on the floor and I checked on him frequently, but I felt a little unsure about it. Henry is on the verge of consistently being able to turn from back to side, and I worry a bit about him jamming his little face into the bed.
It sounds like you have it set up well... do you have a regular mattress top or a pillow top? I think that in order to roll over, baby will have sufficient head and neck power to lift head and turn to side... like how baby sleeps against your chest, etc.

Having your bed on the floor and placing pillow around him (but far enough from him)... and making sure that the blankets and stuff are away... the thick blankets, that is...

We have a "firm" pillow top, which is a co-sleeping no-no... But it is firm enough IMO (its not really soft or fluffy). This is my 3rd baby sleeping in this bed, so
post #33 of 74
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Originally Posted by lalemma View Post
Questions: I may start a thread for this if it gets buried, but for those of you who do family bed and are (occasionally) able to put your baby down for a daytime nap on their own, how do you babyproof the bed? Henry fell so deeply asleep at the breast earlier that I left him in the bed, surrounded by pillows. Our mattress is on the floor and I checked on him frequently, but I felt a little unsure about it. Henry is on the verge of consistently being able to turn from back to side, and I worry a bit about him jamming his little face into the bed.

Also, babywearers, what are your favorite instructional videos? I haven't been able to find a babywearing group here, and I could use some tips to branch out beyond the few carries I keep falling back on.
When DS1 was a baby, we used to put the mattress on the floor once he started rolling. I always placed him in the middle of the bed without any pillows or blankets around him. We attached mesh bed rails against each side in case he rolled. Having the mattress on the floor helped prevent him from crawling off the side of the bed once he learned to crawl. When DD was little, she didn't sleep much so we didn't bother putting the mattress on the floor. She did fall off the side of the bed once because of that. I'm not sure what we will be doing this time although I am hoping to get Everett to sleep in the crib for naps. I am used to having the bed raised so I really don't want to put it on the floor anymore. LOL

For the carry positions, have you tried this site: http://www.peppermint.com/baby-weari...tructions.html
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I feel like I am on a roller coaster. We have really good days then we have really rough days like today where I haven't slept for 2 nights and DH decides he 'can't handle the crying' and just ignores DS all day which means he is either left to CIO or I am left to be the only full time parent.

I am so frustrated and exhausted.

I already broke down in tears apologizing to my DS for having such crappy parents and I feel so stressed from all the changes/adjustment.. all I can eat lately is white bread and plain rice. .. I am really not any good at this parenting thing.
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Oh, IH, I'm so sorry. We had a day like that yesterday. The transition is really hard. I apologised to each of my kids yesterday for being such a crappy mom. Today was better...hoping tomorrow will be better for you. It does get better and easier...I promise. I couldn't have 4 if it didn't.
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I feel like I am on a roller coaster. We have really good days then we have really rough days like today where I haven't slept for 2 nights and DH decides he 'can't handle the crying' and just ignores DS all day which means he is either left to CIO or I am left to be the only full time parent.

I am so frustrated and exhausted.

I already broke down in tears apologizing to my DS for having such crappy parents and I feel so stressed from all the changes/adjustment.. all I can eat lately is white bread and plain rice. .. I am really not any good at this parenting thing.
Hang in there. You're doing fine. Parenting is hard. Unfortunately no one has all the answers. I've had plenty of "crappy parent" feelings from time to time (last night for sure) and my kids are still alive. That in itself is a testament to the fact we're not doing too badly.

Some things that help me feel better when I get to the point of tears - crying, splashing my face with cold water, going for a walk with just baby, drinking a cold glass of juice/water/etc..., calling a good friend to vent, yoga or mediation, warm bath with baby (if you can't get one alone), relaxing music, aromatherapy, a good movie.

Hope you feel better soon. If the negative emotions continue, you might want to talk to someone about possible PPD. Sometimes it can creep up on you and it's hard to know you have it when you're in the throes of it.
post #37 of 74
Today was insane. Thankfully Levi is having a much better day or I would be a basket case right now.

I woke up feeling good even though my sewing machine is broken and I have diapers pinned and ready to go that I need, like, now. I called and got prices to fix it...did school with the kids and planned to go to the library. I washed the dipes, I only have about a day and a half's stash so when I'm washing, I've only got a few ready to go.

Then my dryer broke. It smelled like smoke and the only thing I could think was "Get the diapers out!" I called dh in a panic and he told me it wasn't a big deal, if I could get him the model number, he could pick up the part and fix it tonight. The first three letters in the model number are DVL...I thought how apropriate, you are the devil.

I called my MIL and asked to bring the dipes over to dry. I decided to quickly throw together a few inserts for the pocket dipes that I have been meaning to make and that would get me through the day.

I cut them out, got them all ready, got out my serger and on the third seam, it broke.

I called dh, he said not to go anywhere, don't touch the car or the kids...I cannot be trusted.

So I loaded the crew up in the van, took my laundry to MIL's, dropped off my sewing machine, bought the part I broke for the serger (Oh I hope I didn't damage it more then just that part) took the kids to the library, picked up the dry laundry and came home to a house that could use a maid and piles of things to sew on the table.

And now I'm too tired to do anything about it...
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So I loaded the crew up in the van, took my laundry to MIL's, dropped off my sewing machine, bought the part I broke for the serger (Oh I hope I didn't damage it more then just that part) took the kids to the library, picked up the dry laundry and came home to a house that could use a maid and piles of things to sew on the table.
Holy Smokes...Superwoman!!!!
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Mandy - I'm tired just reading all of that.
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I just broke my serger again.
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