as i wrote, it's really how i see things. If you see it differently, then i don't argue with that.
it's a matter of the way my mind works. i had to define the term for myself to understand what i was undertaking and preparing for emotionally. so, for me, the definition extended to meaning the exclusion of having a medically trained person in the home.
for me, it's not about the midwife's mind (that she's in the other room "ignoring" the birth), but in my mind for having her there to be immediate medical help if we wanted it. because by having her there, i feel that i am saying that i want that attendance, even if it's entirely and completely hands off.
to me, this is different than having to call her if i want help (she is elsewhere) or transfer to a hospital if i want help (the hospital is elsewhere) because i am stepping out and saying "i am doing this alone, and help is a last resort, a call away, and would have to be necessary for me to do it" as opposed to having that moment of transition where i questioned whether i needed help, and being able to go into the living room and get help prematurely.
again, if someone else considers a midwife in the next room to be a UC, that's none of my business. they are free to do so. i have no problem with that definition.
but for myself and my own definitions (how I see things for Myself), it would not be a UC for *me* to have a midwife in the next room ignoring me.
and to be honest, it would have hindered me as well (i know in hind sight). as it was, at one point of my sounding, i was concerned about our neighbors! it was, afterall, after midnight when the baby was born, and i'd been screaming at the top of my lungs for two hours. LOL so, to an extent, knowing the neighbors were there was a bit of an inhibition (i at least thought about it!).
also, my house is small, and i didn't stay in one place. i labored in my Living room, couldn't have any music or sound in the house (DH said that was "annoying" becuase he wanted to do things such as watch a movie or listen to music, but i seemed to want total silence, even when i was upstairs), and then i would go between upstairs and downstairs throughout the labor.
thus, had anyone been in any room, i think she would have impacted my mind, and *I* would have relied on her (with her medical training) to attend or reassure.
because she wasn't there at all--based on what i know of myself and how i was defining a UC--i was able to have what i consider to be a UC experience.
*again--and please read this clearly--this is only for my own purposes and not to define what UC is or is not for other women and families. i have no problem with a woman saying that she went to the hospital at the last minute to avoid attendance but still have medical care if needed a UC. if that's how she sees it, then fine by me.