this mama is not doing that great!

[italiancookies]

Lsiten I am having some issues with my 5yr old and i must admit even worse than her behavior is the way im handling it. I really want and try to GD but i see that im have veered far off course trying to handle it.

i have her and a 1 yr old and i homeschool. my DH is around alot and no other family issues and changes have occurred.

over the last lets say 6 months she has been creating lies for no reason at all. the lies are unneccasary so i cant figure out why she even does it. its not like lieing to get something. I tried everything and i cant figure out why or how to stop it.

then next whining and tthrowing almost like a tantrum over anything and everything and its faking not real issues. ex. i turned the water on and my DH didnt or the phone rang or its not the dinner she wanted and as soon as i say i"i know your faking" she stops and its like she never even cried. Its frustrating and embarressing.

she is overall completely definat. I tried to speak with her about it and tried to ignore it i tried to point out more positive behaviors and then i tried time outs yelling and even a spank . obvioulsy im not proud of my bahavior towards her actions.

[NellieKatz]

My 6 year old boy tried lying and making up stories for a while. He even would confess right afterward! I think he was just trying it out and now he doesn't do it any more. I think the fact that we didn't make an emotional big deal out of it really helped. I did gently say that if he got in the habit of saying things that weren't true, we would not know when to believe him. And then when he would someday want to tell us something very important....how would it feel if we didn't believe him? Not good. It's important to be truthful and trustworthy. And we left it at that. And like I said, it faded almost as fast as it came on.