39-yr-old virgin wants Gardisil - Page 2

[mcgee]

Originally Posted by esaesa

Not at all related to vaccines, but if I was a 39 (or 33 or 26) year old virgin and saving myself for marriage I would only marry someone who was also a virgin. Could you discuss that with her? If both were virgins and there was no adultery, there would be no way she could get the sexually transmitted hpv, right?

Well, it depends on your definition of "virgin." If you've done everything but have intercourse, you could still have or receive a sexually transmitted disease.

[ASusan]

Originally Posted by esaesa

Not at all related to vaccines, but if I was a 39 (or 33 or 26) year old virgin and saving myself for marriage I would only marry someone who was also a virgin. Could you discuss that with her? If both were virgins and there was no adultery, there would be no way she could get the sexually transmitted hpv, right?

Ya know, I thought that, too. I was surprised when she acknowledged that her potential marital partner may have had sex before.

[Deborah]

Plus, HPV can be transmitted from mother to child, if the mother happens to be a carrier at the time the baby is born. Apparently most kids clear it, but not all of them, so there is always a bit of an unknown factor. Virginity alone is no guarantee of freedom from HPV. Since the vaccine is riskier for anyone who happens to be carrying one of the vaccine included bugs...

[SwanMom]

Originally Posted by esaesa

Not at all related to vaccines, but if I was a 39 (or 33 or 26) year old virgin and saving myself for marriage I would only marry someone who was also a virgin. Could you discuss that with her? If both were virgins and there was no adultery, there would be no way she could get the sexually transmitted hpv, right?

off topic:
I was a virgin when I married, but it never occurred to me to put "must be a virgin" in my criteria for a husband. I ended up marrying a widower, so I'm glad I didn't limit myself. Seems like your chances (especially at age 39) of marrying someone widowed or divorced (or just "experienced") would be pretty high.

[purplepaperclip]

I have to say that I'm know you are discussing your friend with the best intent, but I would be more than a little hurt if one of my friends was discussing my sex life or lack thereof on an internet forum.