This might be parenting 101 for some people, but dh and I FAIL at nighttime parenting, lol. Or, maybe it is just our kids 
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But anyway, my ds just turned 3
. He is still nursing, but only nurses to sleep about 50% of the time. The rest of the time he nurses until drowsy, and then rolls away (tosses and turns, maybe says goodnight) and falls asleep. But nursing is very much part of "going to sleep". If we suggest he lay down to sleep without me--or with dh-- (if I am busy at the moment), he laughs as if we ridiculous 
The problem is, I work until 9:30 pm 3 nights a week, getting home at about 9:45. The earliest I can lay with him is usually 10 pm (have to say goodnight to dd, take care of myself, etc). That was previously fine because he was napping and would fall asleep no earlier than 10:30....but we really, really want him to drop the nap.
Ok, so I didn't work for the past 4 weeks (academic break). Most days he had no nap, was happy, and would go to sleep (with nursing) at 9 pm and wake around 8 am. Perfect. Dh and I had time together every night, and it was wonderful.
But tonight I go to work, and I'm worried. My kids just do not go to sleep when I am not here. And if he won't, he will get overtired and fall back into the pattern of napping....and bedtime will get pushed later again....and dh and I will lose our time together at night
(dh gets up very early for work, and often falls asleep before ds if he naps). This time is very precious to me, and I'd really like to keep it!
Dd is 8, and has literally never fallen asleep before I got home from work. Ok, once....but she had the flu and was sleeping all day. I've been working these hours since she was 2.5 yo, and she would be waiting for me every. single. night. over the years....and still does. I don't know what dh is doing wrong! But the track record in this dept is not good, so I am not optimistic. (the few nights that I've gone out with friends and stayed out super late, dd has crashed--in tears--after 1 am or so. I've never gone out late since ds was born.)
Ok, what are we doing wrong???? What suggestions do you have for us? I am ready to wean if I am convinced it would help (although it never helped with dd.....).
eta....ds will not sleep in later in the day, so that is not an option. Dd needs to get up at 8 am for the bus, and he pops up with us! And we all cosleep.
.But anyway, my ds just turned 3
. He is still nursing, but only nurses to sleep about 50% of the time. The rest of the time he nurses until drowsy, and then rolls away (tosses and turns, maybe says goodnight) and falls asleep. But nursing is very much part of "going to sleep". If we suggest he lay down to sleep without me--or with dh-- (if I am busy at the moment), he laughs as if we ridiculous The problem is, I work until 9:30 pm 3 nights a week, getting home at about 9:45. The earliest I can lay with him is usually 10 pm (have to say goodnight to dd, take care of myself, etc). That was previously fine because he was napping and would fall asleep no earlier than 10:30....but we really, really want him to drop the nap.
Ok, so I didn't work for the past 4 weeks (academic break). Most days he had no nap, was happy, and would go to sleep (with nursing) at 9 pm and wake around 8 am. Perfect. Dh and I had time together every night, and it was wonderful.
But tonight I go to work, and I'm worried. My kids just do not go to sleep when I am not here. And if he won't, he will get overtired and fall back into the pattern of napping....and bedtime will get pushed later again....and dh and I will lose our time together at night
(dh gets up very early for work, and often falls asleep before ds if he naps). This time is very precious to me, and I'd really like to keep it!Dd is 8, and has literally never fallen asleep before I got home from work. Ok, once....but she had the flu and was sleeping all day. I've been working these hours since she was 2.5 yo, and she would be waiting for me every. single. night. over the years....and still does. I don't know what dh is doing wrong!
But the track record in this dept is not good, so I am not optimistic. (the few nights that I've gone out with friends and stayed out super late, dd has crashed--in tears--after 1 am or so. I've never gone out late since ds was born.)Ok, what are we doing wrong???? What suggestions do you have for us? I am ready to wean if I am convinced it would help (although it never helped with dd.....).
eta....ds will not sleep in later in the day, so that is not an option. Dd needs to get up at 8 am for the bus, and he pops up with us! And we all cosleep.
