I was also a server and I want to be sure I have it all strait.. these are things parents complained about (I didn't have kids then)
1) they didn't offer a kids menu or crayons
2) they offered my suck and suck age a menu and crayons
3) they offered my child an adult menu
4) they didn't offer a menu
5) they offered a highchair/buster seat
6) they didn't offer a highchair/buster seat
7) they gave my child and ADULT fork (never mind that we only had one size)
8) they didn't bring the right utencil
9) they brought the kids meals earlier
10) they didn't bring the meals soon enough for the kids
11) they ignored my kids
12) they talked to the kids (I actually got in a lot of trouble for this one time when a kid about 4 was really upset. He's dropped something so I went and helped him pick it up and comforted him, apparently mom didn't like that)
do you see a theme forming here?? The server just can't win..
When I do go out I ask for a kids menu and crayons for both, a highchair for one, buster for the other, DD#1 usually orders herself, but not always, DD#2 is just now getting her own meals. I also bring smaller utensils and plastic plates for the girls. Less risk of them being broken.
Makes the servers job just a little easier, and knowing the crap they put up with its the least I could do.
I have had some excellent experiences. When DD#2 was small I was asked if I wanted a booth when they noticed I was having trouble BF her, I jumped on the chance as it was much more comfortable, although it was right by a window LOL. When DD#2 was smaller and only ate small amounts many places would give me veggies, shredded cheese, and mashed potato's free.
they said it wasn't worth chargeing cause she really wasn't eating much and it made her, and me happy.