Need Some Empathy- Dealing with Family Criticism about raising kids vegan - Page 2

[wytchywoman]

Originally Posted by LizzyQ

She has said that she thought about giving him milk and eggs behind our back, so yes, I really think she would. I am pretty sure she is not going to feed him meat, but she is convinced that children can't be healthy without drinking 4 glasses of milk a day.

Yikes. Is DP aware of this? Do you think closely supervising contact or banning her from unsupervised visitation for awhile would get the message across? She needs to understand she can't trump you when it comes to your DC. I'd start thinking of some ways to make sure she understands that. I'd also have DP have a very firm chat with her about these threats she makes about feeding your DC milk and eggs. One of them is just a baby, what if he has an allergic reaction to them? That could be deadly. Wow, good luck mama. I hope she's just blowing smoke and doesn't really try anything.

[lynsage]

Tell her it's not open for discussion and change the subject, and walk away if she won't drop it. Continue to do this every time if you must- this woman is not going to be convinced and just wants to keep fighting with you, so don't give her the fight.

And don't leave your kids alone with her between now and June 1.

[Ianthe]

DS1 is 2 1/2 and doesn't really know to express that he doesn't eat those things yet.

Yeah.. I've pretty much decided that she'll only be getting supervised visits from now on. DH is aware of this, of course. I don't think there is anything either of us can say that is going to change her mind about her feelings on this issue.. and since I don't trust her anymore we're just going to have to put up with it while we are stuck here.

[lynsage]

Originally Posted by LizzyQ

since I don't trust her anymore we're just going to have to put up with it while we are stuck here.

[weliveintheforest]

would it help to be pointing out the fattier stuff he does eat? avacados, coconut products, stuff like that?

[MountainMamaGC]

How frustrating. My mom kept asking me for the longest time if my DD was going to get enough protein. My DH still eats a bit of dairy here and there so I do let him share with her but whenever we go visit my mom she is constantly trying to load her up with eggs, meat and dairy. I dont mind that she gets it there because I only see my parents like 4 times a year and someday she will able to say no to my mom. However if my mom saw her everyday I would put my foot down. I am pretty much vegan except the honey thing but its to control my crohn's disease. DH is pretty good about going along with me so I lucked out there.