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Dealing with violent temper tantrums - HELP!

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My DD is 2.5 is usually a very happy and agreeable little girl. With a bit of creativity, DH and I are usually able to get her to cooperate in situations she initially doesn't want to.

In the past week she has started having HORRIBLE tantrums. Not all the time, maybe once every day or two. Last night for example she woke up at 12 and realized her new hairbrush wasn't with her, in a couple of seconds she was beside herself. I carried her screaming and kicking to the basement, and retrived the brush from the car which didn't solve anything. She lies on the floor and will scream, kick, bite her hands (and then cry) and hit her face. She gets furious if I even look at her, and will not allow me to console her until she begins to run out of steam. Last night it lasted about 40 minutes. I can't take my eyes off her because she is likely to hurt herself.

I am pretty sure this comes down to her teething and being tired.

I am wondering if I am missing anything in terms of helping her through these tantrums. I just stay close by and try to stay low key and calm. When I sense she is winding down, or if she hurts herself and will allow me to comfort her then I nurse her. Sometimes I will mention the incident later to see what she thinks about it. Usually she will just agree that she was really upset and sometimes she will feel sad about it (ie. sad about her brush).

Is there anything else I can do? It is normal right?! DH gets worried there is something wrong with her.
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Well, it's only been a week, so it's hard to say if there's any pattern. The one thing I would do differently is that I wouldn't mention it later to a 2-year-old. Even if she remembers the tantrum, she's not likely to be able to further her understanding of the incident.

When DD starts getting upset, I usually ask her to calm down and use her words. That works pretty well for her. DS had horrible, lengthy tantrums for about 2 years, and nothing really worked with him in the moment other than just riding it out.
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