kicking out one for another.

[toyarmy]

we have a full size bed. which has worked fine for me, dh, and dd2 (dd1 is 8 and has no problem sleeping in her own bed)
but now theres a dd3!
so, at 23 months, a couple weeks before the babies arrival, we started putting dd2 in bed with dd1.
i still nurse her just before or in bed. occasionally theres a little fussing, but usually she goes to sleep pretty well (worst case scenario, i have to deal with dd3, so dh will lay with dd2 until she falls asleep or i can return)

she pretty reliably wakes up once a few hours into the night. again, i go lay with her and nurse her a bit. then very early in the morning. at this point, we tend to just let her get in bed with us, since its unlikely shell be going back to sleep, but we are in no way ready to jump up.

so.. i struggled and struggled to figure out how to keep both babies happy, since i just dont think having a nb and 23 month old in a full size bed would be very safe. and this seems to be the best solution.
that said, i feel bad for "kicking her out" of the bed, and consider inviting her back when the babys older (like there will be room)

id love to hear everyones thoughts. and better yet, if anyones dealt with a similar situation.

[Maluhia]

Can you put a twin up next to your full?

[toyarmy]

i considered getting another mattress to put with ours, or at least setting up a palette for her, something of that nature (we just have a mattress on the floor)
but my concern is that shell want to be with me, nursing, etc. and since im often facing the baby when sleeping, i guess im really just worried that shell climb on/over/around the baby.

[Maluhia]

I would have her sleep on the other side of DH and tell her that the baby is fragile and needs space. Also, take time to face and cuddle her when you get the chance so she knows physically she is still so special. Those older kids sure look big next to the newborn but they are still little ones after all