how big is too big for an infant? - Page 2

[paxye]

Originally Posted by YayJennie

May I just say that you have such a BEAUTIFUL family. I just spent half an hour looking through pics of your little one! All of your boys are gorgeous, and you're right, he was a beast of a baby (And I mean that in the MOST affectionate way!), but grew into a good sized kid. He looks healthy and happy and I would be proud if I were you!

Thank you

Originally Posted by annekh23

Sure there are many factors that cause childhood obesity, but 35lb at 9mths, having been average birthweight, along with no family history, to me is suggesting that childhood obesity may well be the least of her worries.

I might notice a size variation but keep my mouth shut, but 35lb is so off the scales, that particularly knowing the child is breastfed on demand with a normal intake of solids, I'd be worried, because I'd doubt very much that it's "just" obesity. Even if I saw her with a extra large bottle of formula and a chocolate bar, this weight still seems beyond normal.

Sometimes parents and doctors who see a child regularly don't see the change as starkly as an outsider. In this instance, I'd say something and I'd say it very carefully, because it really wouldn't be meant as any kind of judgement about what the parents are doing, but that I was really concerned that this child had a metabolic or other disorder that needs to be diagnosed and treated.

Way better to check it out, even if the conclusion is that it's ok. Even if it is ok, the child may still benefit from PT because not rolling at 9mths is very late.

I have to disagree with you here... PT because a child is not rolling over? Like I said in my above post, my son was able to crawl and walk before being able to roll over... he was a big boy and he needed a lot of momentum to do that action and that was it... once he was walking though he quickly went on to rolling over because he started to thin out and get stronger...

We did go and get him checked out because he was EBF and gaining weight so quickly and the comments around us were getting unbearable... but there was no answer besides that is just the way he is... (besides them saying my milk was too rich ) I don't regret it because we got confirmation of what we already felt, that everything was perfect, and it was also so much easier to shut the "well-meaning" people up that thought that we has our blinders on...

So, because I have seen it first hand, I do think that there are kids that are just bigger and it is completely normal, even if that is as in our case 44lbs at 12 months... or as in the OP's example of 35 lbs at 9 months...

[Auraji]

Originally Posted by paxye

Thank you


We did go and get him checked out because he was EBF and gaining weight so quickly and the comments around us were getting unbearable... but there was no answer besides that is just the way he is... (besides them saying my milk was too rich ) I don't regret it because we got confirmation of what we already felt, that everything was perfect, and it was also so much easier to shut the "well-meaning" people up that thought that we has our blinders on...

Nobody is saying there is something wrong with the baby just that it's something worth looking into. After all you DID go get him checked out and found out that everything was fine, just because that was the case with your baby doesnt mean is the same thing with this one. There could be something wrong and also everything could be fine, we dont know, but you dont lose anything getting a second opinion from another doctor or having the current pedi make some tests.

If that baby was mine I'd do that to not worry and be on the safe side.

[annekh23]

Originally Posted by paxye

I have to disagree with you here... PT because a child is not rolling over? Like I said in my above post, my son was able to crawl and walk before being able to roll over... he was a big boy and he needed a lot of momentum to do that action and that was it... once he was walking though he quickly went on to rolling over because he started to thin out and get stronger...

I think the original poster said that the baby was not moving at all, round here, babies qualify for therapy way too soon in my opinion, not rolling over because it's a difficult task given shape is a different scenario from not moving at all, it's not quite clear where this baby is on that spectrum, so I wouldn't dismiss out of hand that even if everything is declared normal there still might be things that would help.

We did go and get him checked out because he was EBF and gaining weight so quickly and the comments around us were getting unbearable... but there was no answer besides that is just the way he is... (besides them saying my milk was too rich ) I don't regret it because we got confirmation of what we already felt, that everything was perfect, and it was also so much easier to shut the "well-meaning" people up that thought that we has our blinders on...

So, because I have seen it first hand, I do think that there are kids that are just bigger and it is completely normal, even if that is as in our case 44lbs at 12 months... or as in the OP's example of 35 lbs at 9 months...

So it did turn out to be normal, but you did go get it investigated, do you feel you were wrong to do that? I know when they found nothing wrong they gave you a silly suggestion of your milk being too rich, but that doesn't make investigating it wrong. I'm not saying that some kids that are big (or whatever size of shape) aren't normal, but you can't extend that to all kids being fine.

You knew your son, you gave birth to him, he was big then, it's clear from the photos at various ages that he had good head support and plenty of movement, even if rolling over hadn't quite happened, you may well have been more confident than the casual observer and many of those casual observers may well have been thinking and saying he's too fat and blaming you, which would hurt, particularly when you knew he was getting the best food there is.

I don't think you can say that because he was fine this baby is.