8yo DD choked at school...didnt call me!!!

[pomplemoose]

So DD has been having some trouble with a boy J at school. I've talked with her teacher, tried to give her advice on how to deal with him. She says he takes a pill to make him calmer but it doesnt work. Im guessing he has been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. Anyway today they were playing freeze tag and he got tagged a lot, he got mad and CHOKED her! if that werent bad enough i didn't even get a call from the school, no instead i found out from her after dinner. She had a meeting with the boy and the principle where nothing really happened. I am so angry they didn't call me. I emailed him tonight requesting a meeting, possibly moving her to another class. how would you handle this? Im just so upset for her and how this was dealt with. She always loved school and this year things have been going down hill, im guessing because of this boy. I am done with this no other kids need to get hurt because he can't be controlled.

[pigpokey]

Does she have bruises around her neck? Did she pass out? What do you mean choked?

[SunshineJ]

I would first confirm what really happened. Then I would meet with the principal and emphasize that I wanted answers as to what they were going to do to provide a safe environment for my child. I would also ask why I was not informed by the school that my child had been attacked. If I felt I was getting some kind of song and dance from the principal, I would calmly point out that what happened was assault and that I could have chosen to press charges against the other child and the school, and that while I preferred to work it out within the school, should any type of repeat of this even happen I would not be so hesitant. And then I would ask again what they plan to do to ensure the safety of my child. Hopefully at that point they will be taking the situation very seriously and you will get some good answers. I will say this though. If your dd is doing well with her teacher and thriving in her class I don't think it's fair to punish her by making her change classes when she did nothing to instigate the incident (if that is indeed the case).