STBX is getting a roommate...

[Halfasianmomma]

...some guy from his old job. I don't know who this person is--is he a drunk, a druggie, an abuser--just that he'll be taking over DD's old room next month.

And I'm supposed to be ok with DD staying at STBX's place for extended periods of time...

Riiiiight.

[PotreroHill]

I wouldn't be ok with that either

How old is DD? If I remember correctly, less than two? She's going to need her own space at some point.

[Rosehip]

My X has a roomate now (he actually rents a room in the guy's home), and had a female roomate when he first moved out. They were both people he knew prior. I'm not terribly bothered. But I think my kids are older - my DD is 5 - so I can get some feedback, and they were people he knew before.

Does your X know this guy?

[Halfasianmomma]

DD is 18 months and this person is a "friend of a friend", so, no, he doesn't know him well. It doesn't help that all of STBX's former coworkers were heavy drinkers/partiers in their 20s. I really don't know that I can do anything about this though.

[lilyka]

I actually put the kibosh on this in my divorce decree. my xh first words were that he would have to get a room mate....either some guy who the girls and I did not know, or his girlfriend. no and no. he could move in with his parents for all I cared (actually would have loved that)b but no way was he subjecting my girls to that.

[missmich]

Halfasianmomma I''m also in Montreal! Nice to see someone in my city!

Is it possible for you to meet this new roommate? Spend a little time with him and the STBX and your daughter and see how is.

[Theia]

Originally Posted by lilyka

I actually put the kibosh on this in my divorce decree. my xh first words were that he would have to get a room mate....either some guy who the girls and I did not know, or his girlfriend. no and no. he could move in with his parents for all I cared (actually would have loved that)b but no way was he subjecting my girls to that.

I've known other people (in the US) that have done this. When the child is with either parent there are no others sleeping over, and no roommates.