Did you settle for a name that you dont' love just to reach some sort of compromise?

[babymommy2]

3rd baby, can't agree on a name girl or boy. There is just nothing that either of us both like. I have always found picking a name really stressful. This baby may never have a name. I just don't know what to do.

What did you do when you couldnt' agree?

[*Aimee*]

I only have boys and found naming them very difficult. DH has named all of them because I just can't find something I like better. But I don't love them either. It took me about a year to get used to DS2's name

[megviolet]

Maybe it's best to wait until after your baby is born and then name him/her. We thought we had names picked out, but as soon as DD was born we both suddenly thought the name Elizabeth was perfect... and i don't think we had ever mentioned that name when chose girl names during pregnancy.

[ScarletBegonias]

kinda yes........dh and i both agreed on dd's name (we wait until kids are born to find out gender and we usually have a few names picked out so we can find one that fits), ds's name was harder.

while ds does have a "cool" name, i don't really like it, mostly because it's getting trendy. for a long time i kept accidentally calling him by the name i wanted and we had both liked. but due to some crazy, sad stuff happening during my pregnancy, dh picked ds's first name.

dh likes more standard, cliche type names. i like unusual, beautiful names. we usually agree, but there is a lot of back and forth. we have both vetoed quite a lot of names, and the vetoes are always respected and not brought up again.

[chattyprincess]

NO...But I only have one child. But being the person I am I would never be able to live knowing my child had a name I didn't love. It took a really long time for us to find a name we both liked and agreed upon but it was worth it. We never got stressed/argued over it either though. If you don't like a name when you hear it then arguing isn't going to help, kwim?

[number572]

I've thought quite a bit about this. I'd love a name that means something significant but our family names aren't appealing. I also have a compilation of names that I've been jotting down for years as I hear cool names. But, in the end, I (for now!) think it would be nice to have dp choose the name. I got to carry it, he can name it. (and i say "GOT to carry it" b'c i'm currently manifesting a perfect & comfortable pg from conception to postpartum.)

[coffeegirl]

The boy's name we have picked out is my favorite. My #1 girl name however was vetoed because my husband fell in love with my #2 girl name to such an extent that I know there's no going back now. But at least it's not a name I actually *hate* you know?

[ACsMom]

Yeah, kind of. We settled on a name that wasn't on either of our short lists, we just sort of stumbled on it about a week ago. I like it, but we decided on it more for the sake of having the stress of indecision out of the way.

[Kidzaplenty]

We start looking as soon as I get a BFP. That gives us a lot of time. And we don't compromise or settle. We keep looking until we can both agree on one we both love. So far we have the perfect name for each child.

[snoopy5386]

I feel like I am going down this road now....we have a list but I don't really love any of the names on it. DH vetoed all my favs...and forget about middle names I don't even want to go there,,,,,

[Mirrormonkey]

My issue is I am the one who has to come up with the names and I feel like dh just yay or nays them... It is starting to peeve me.

For our son we chose a compromise name and I love it now, it suits him perfectly.

[tigress]

Totally. With my first and only DS (so far). I didn't love it, I didn't even really like it. Niether did DH. We just couldn't agree and both settled for one neither of us liked when he was born b/c we wanted it out of the way and could sense the annoying family members breathing down our necks with their opinions now that they knew the gender.

Now, it is his name, and it is SO *his* name. And I love it more than anything because I love him more than anything and I couldn't imagine it being anything else. Nothing--I was just thinking about this tonight b/c we are going through the same disagreement over names for this baby (I agree with pps about it being stressful and we have that same dynamic of my coming up with names and DH yaying or naying--SO annoying, but a little off topic ) and I could not come up with a single name I think would suit him better, even the names that were and still are my favourites would be totally wrong. It's almost like he named himself!

[lovebug]

[Lauren31]

Originally Posted by Mirrormonkey

My issue is I am the one who has to come up with the names and I feel like dh just yay or nays them... It is starting to peeve me.

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I don't have any kids yet, but I have discovered this is what is happening with us right now..

[sostinkinhappy]

Yes, with our DS #2. I really wanted to name him Benjamin but hubby fell in love with the name Luke, as in Luke from the bible. My husband usually defers to me on everything but this time, he was firm about his feelings on the matter so I went with his choice.

Funny thing is that we gave him my maiden name for his middle name. It wasn't until after his birth that hubby's Star Wars geekified family pointed out that we had just named our son after two of the main characters in the movie. Brilliant, eh? Now why they didn't bring that to my attention before I filled out the birth certificate, I will never know.

Five years later, I am OK with the name. However, I am CRAZY about the boy so it more than makes up for it!

[mntnmom]

For both of the boys, I didn't really LOVE any name. But we both settled on a compromise name. He agreed to something "OK", so I got something I didn't hate. Now I can't imagine them being named anything else.

[darcytrue]

kind of. DD is 4 months old now and I'm starting to get used to her name but for a while there it was hard for me to call her by her name. I just couldn't get used to it. I didn't feel like it "fit" her for a while. I compromised on her name because DH really loved it.

[xixstar]

we settled... dh didn't really like the name I liked and I didn't like his. we ended up with my name as first and his as middle... still don't care for her middle name at all.

[DeChRi]

Yes. Both times. DD1 I wanted Skye. DH1 hated it. We settled and while I dont love her name, it is just fine. DD2 I loved Emerson. DH2 didn't like it. We settled and again, dont love her name, but it is also fine. This time, it is DD3 (still DH2, lol) and we both agree on the two I love. So I think we are okay. If it turns out boy, we have a name we both love as well (one sono said girl and one said boy). I have never been a "must find the very perfect name ever person" though. I cant imagine my kids being anything but who they are now.

[staceychev]

We didn't settle--we were both kind of non-committal about the names that we liked and then, 10 days before she was born, we stumbled across a name we both loved. That's why I'm not too worried even with just 7 weeks to go!