getting to sleep

[mom61508]

DD is 19 months old. Is no longer nursing but that's how I used to get her to sleep quickly. Now it takes me forever to get her to sleep. Yesterdays nap took 1 hour and 45 min to get her down. I'm getting frustrated with this. She loves when I sing to her and sometimes wants me to scratch her neck or legs.

I'm fine with this but it shouldn't take me that long...right??

[gkbusick]

I wish I could help you. I still nurse my 19month old and I am the only one that can get him to sleep. If I am not home to nurse him he will not sleep. I would love to know how you get yours to fall asleep even if it takes that long. My son is not trying to give up his naps half of the time and it is frustrating.

Geni

[mom61508]

Originally Posted by gkbusick

I wish I could help you. I still nurse my 19month old and I am the only one that can get him to sleep. If I am not home to nurse him he will not sleep. I would love to know how you get yours to fall asleep even if it takes that long. My son is not trying to give up his naps half of the time and it is frustrating.

Geni

Well I started to gradually wean DD at 15 months. I just suddenly hated nursing but didn't want to just stop abruptly for her sake. So we got down to BF right before bed only(part of our routine)then I just started singing night night to her and she LOVED it and started asking for me to sing her to sleep instead on nursing. It was bittersweet tho. So Is ing her to sleep or have to scratch her neck and legs FOREVER!

[azzeps]

I was about to post this same thing about my 22 month old! I just put her in her bed for her nap, planted a garden, and now she is screaming bloody murder in there - Daddy is in there now with her - but I have no more patience for this! It is ridiculous. Just about the only way I can get her to sleep is to take her for a drive at nap time and then carry her into the house asleep. And sometimes she doesn't fall asleep then. And it is late today - I try to wait so she's sleepy, but then when she finally falls asleep at 3 or 3:30, then she sleeps til 5 pm and then doesn't go to bed until 9:30 or 10!!! I know she still needs the nap, because if she doesn't, she is a wreck in the afternoon and evening.... but it sure makes bedtime easier when she hasn't had a nap.... well, easier and harder.... she screams and is upset through her whole bedtime routine but then falls asleep really fast, and early too. Sigh. I guess I am no help to you, but just that I hear ya, and I'm basically in the same boat.

What burns me is that she will go to sleep much easier for Daddy or Grandma, but not me. Maybe that's because we used to nurse to sleep, and she just quit falling asleep like that, so I quit doing it. I don't know.

Good luck to you! Maybe try car napping. I guess I shouldn't bother trying any other way.

[springmum]

DS is 20 months and I was just going crazy the last 2 days with this!

He doesn't nurse to sleep for bedtime any more, like yours he suddenly was content with me singing to him

Naps are a different story. He still attached to the boob when he goes out, but the last couple of days he still doesn't go to sleep well with this method. I know he still needs a nap, he's not sleeping more at night to make up for it.
He's just way to interested in the world to slow down and nap, even when he's yawning and getting clumsy from being tired.

Wish I knew the trick, I'm guessing this is just another phase that will eventually pass with some consistency, love & time. So I'm here being frustrated with you too.

[sunfish21]

Originally Posted by mom61508

I'm fine with this but it shouldn't take me that long...right??

I have been asking myself--and others--this question for awhile now (DD is 22 months). What I seem to hear is that if I approached sleep differently (ie: let her cry it out a few times and she knew to go to sleep then) then it wouldn't take so long. I understand the argument that if she doesn't want to go to sleep she will fight it and if I don't let her fuss then it will take a long time. There are nights we spend close to two hours and I wonder the same thing. Although I don't like the CIO approach, sometimes I think this is the downside of other ways. [/I]

[olien]

For naps I usually have to have him in the car for him to fall asleep. So if we are planning to go out that day I make sure we are headed home around 12:30ish for his nap. I also have to be in the car & not move him for 15-20min after he falls asleep. Thats when I read Mothering or knit. "usually' he stays sleeping - not today tho If we dont go out that day then I just aimlessly drive around until he is asleep.

Bed time is so random with him it can be 10min & it can be 2hrs before he is asleep. I can never tell what causes the difference. Average is probably 30-45min.

[mom61508]

wow I feel better reading all your post mamas lol!!! We also do the car napping. Although today she fell asleep in the car and as soon as we got her upstairs she woke up and wouldn't go back down!!! I left her in the room crying because I'm about to lose it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Last night she woke at 4 am and didn't go back to sleep for nearly 2 hours so I'm at the end of my rope with her.

I'm wondering If her teeth are bothering her?? She's been crying a lot while I try to put her down at night.

Sunfish-MY friends Dd is a wonderful sleeper takes her about 10 min and she's out like a light. She did the cio so it makes me wonder but uhhhhh it breaks my heart to think of doing that for a fw nights. DD is so attached to mama.