September 09 Babes & Mamas - Page 42

[texmati]

eh. DS was never easy to put to sleep, and sleep fight is a regular occourance. We try for a set amount of time, and then give up and let him play.

He's not duping you-- most likely his needs are changing-- either with sleep or food or interaction. We get best results by trying to manage naps and wearing him out with activity during the day. but even then we have days like to day, where he slept till 7 for his nap, he's not going back to sleep till midnight. Aint parenting fun!

[sugarpop]

blue

I am so not happy...I mean I am but I am not. Maybe I am not a happy person...or maybe I am depressed. Anyone taking something for postpartum depression and breast feeding? Are there all natural non chemical non harmful alternatives? I don't know where to post. I haven't even discussed this with DH...I just want to laugh again! AHHHH I want to enjoy being a stay at home mom. I mean I do enjoy it, I love her, Sophia is amazing. I wouldn't change a thing about my life...except to be happy. I needed to vent. I wrote another post in life with a babe as well "I hate". I am struggling. I feel alone. I don't know how to find/pick a councelor, I hate to ask for help, I am scared...thanks ladies I know you are here and listening to me...just need support!

[Dmitrizmom]

sugarpop - There are several of us here that have been struggling with the "not happy"/depression issues. I have been taking Vitamin D and a B vitamin complex to help. I also find that I do so much better when I get at least 30 minutes of (fairly intense) physical activity. The days that I get my vitamins and exercise it is like I'm a different, happy, person. The days without, I am crabby and not much fun to be around.

[newmomroxi]

s sugarpop, i know exactly what you mean. It is a hard feeling to describe. You know you should be happy but you don't actually feel that way. I'm sorry that you're dealing with this but you're not alone. Do you have a PCP/OB/midwife who you trust? Start there. And the suggestions Dmitrizmom gave are great! Those are things you do can right away. I started with those and they really helped me get out of the funk enough to recognize how badly I was feeling. Unfortunately, those weren't enough for me and so now I'm taking 50 mg zoloft as well. I'm not breastfeeding but I'm pregnant and I've read/been told that it is one of the safest to take while BFing/pregnant. I still have moody moments but I am starting to laugh and smile genuinely again. Also, you should head over to the postpartum depression board. There is a sticky there for postpartum resources. You can find local counselors or groups if you want.

[sugarpop]

oh a board...thanks i am heading there now!

[kismetbaby]

StrongFeather--Oh we've been there! e tried both letting him stay up and laying in bed with him for hours. For us, once we switched to one nap and he stopped fighting bedtime, but I think you've already done that. Maybe he needs more exercise/activity later in the day? I think they just go through phases of being too interested in the world around them to relax and sleep.

Ein328--my answer to have a spent a night away from ds is "hell no!" I may be in the minority here, but I just CANNOT imagine this. I don't want to do it, nor could I see it working. Me and my babe need to snuggle at night! Then again DH and I haven't even had a solo date yet. . .

sugarpop--hope you get the help you need. That's hard. I just started feeling like myself again--I haven't been depressed I don't think, but it took this long to feel "normal" again. Or maybe my brain has just caught up finally with my new reality.

I guess I won't post here anymore since we're over in Toddlers. . .oh dear. I'm so glad we've keep up this way! You mamas rock!

[2boyzmama]

Ugh, I have mastitis again. Bad. It came on so fast. I had a plug I was working on, I thought it was gone, it had stopped hurting. A whole day (or even two?) went by with no pain.

Tuesday night I went to bed fine. Woke up at 3am in PAIN, like serious pain. I woke Gavin up and made him nurse, I had to use my labor breathing to tolerate it, OMG it hurt.

I got up at 6am and pumped, again with breathing and forced relaxation. Then the nausea and shakes hit. By 7am it was full body, everything hurts, fever hit, BAM full blown mastitis.

I went to the dr right away, unfortunately I'm allergic to Penicillin, which is the drug of choice, so I don't have the luxury of trying to use natural ways to get rid of mastitis, I use natural methods to get rid of plugs, but not when it progresses to body aches/fever/etc. The dr was really nice, said he can't imagine what it must feel like, and listened to my request to please not touch/palpate it. I told him I'm a LLL Leader and have had mastitis 6 times, so I know what I'm dealing with (this was just my family practice dr, usually I call the OB, but I couldn't get in to the OB fast enough). He asked me what med and what dosage I usually take and called it in.

I've spent the whole day in bed, I got up just to eat (barely anything, I can't stomach food right now) and immediately went back to bed again. Myfever is hovering around 101 most of the time.

God, it hurts

[sugarpop]

2boyzmama~oh that sounds terrible! I am so sorry you are suffering. I hope you are able to take it easy, although, from the sounds of it you don't have much of a choice. I had no idea it could get like that. I hope you are better soon. Keep us posted!

[Dmitrizmom]

2boyzmama - hope the mastitis clears quickly. Had it once and it sucked.

[tzs]

oh sugarpop, i feel your pain.
i also had the SAH malaise. i wasn't depressed enough to be "depressed" and get in some good crying but i was depressed enough to be totally unmotivated, bummed, generally not happy. so i had the genius idea of going back to work part-time. great, i work at a pre-school, she can be there in the baby room, it will be am's only and then we'll be super-motivated and happy and....
they talked me into doing 3 days full-day as well (on a trial basis, i made sure) and it SUCKS! yeah, we're out of the house. we're not watching the view on tv all morning but now i can;t get anything done, the house is way more of a mess, i'm feeling like i'm always playing catch-up, i'm depriving ada of sleep because i prematurely took away her am nap, AND i'm not spending any good time with her. i don;t know how you WOH moms do it, especially with more than one kid.
now i don't know what to do (except knock off those full-days, for sure) dammed if you do, dammed if you don't.

[texmati]

oh 2boyz! I'm sorry that you are dealing with this on top of everything else s

sugarpop, I've been there, and its sometimes exhausting trying just to figure out if you are depressed or not. I've made myself crazy in the past that way. I'd try counseling if it's available. I got much more help with that than when asking my family dr, midwife or ob. All the dr's seemed to do was get out their prescription pad. A counselor was willing to work with me where I was and helped me out a lot.

[kismetbaby]

Feel better 2boys. . .I remember how much mastitis sucked!

Hey Texmati, I just noticed your new sigi--congrats on a girl! How exciting!

[diana_of_the_dunes]

tzs - I'm starting to wonder how WOH moms do it too, and I'm one of them! A typical day for us involved DH geting home at 7 am, which is about when E wakes up. He takes care of him til 8:30, then I get up and take over, and DH goes to bed. I have E all morning, and we head off to my best friend's parents (our baby sitters) at around 12:30. I start work at 2. E stays at the babysitters til DH picks him up at 5, and then he handles all of the evening caretaking, bath, and bed. I get home around 10:30, just in time to give DH a hug, since he has to be to work at 11. It works, but it's HARD. I'm thankful that we don't have to use daycare, and E is only away from home 4 - 5 hrs per day. But DH and I don't get to see each other AT ALL. And in the morning I'm rushing around a bit trying to keep the house in order, get showered, maybe run errands, and play with E. I only have time to cook a meal on my days off, and my gardening and canning have also taken a big hit this year.

I just don't know anymore. I like my job, but I'm having a hard time with the lack of true family life. We could function on DH's salary only, but not while accomplishing the renovations our house desperately needs. And then there's all the uncertainty in the economy right now. I could get a part-time job, but then I wouldn't be anywhere near as recession-proof as I am now. If nothing else, we are financially secure right now with about a snowball-in-hell's chance of getting laid off or downsized.

I'm not big on gender stereotypes, but in so many ways I just want to tell DH that making ends meet is his problem, I'm going to stay home and take care of our house and baby!!

[ein328]

Originally Posted by 2boyzmama

Ugh, I have mastitis again. Bad. It came on so fast. I had a plug I was working on, I thought it was gone, it had stopped hurting. A whole day (or even two?) went by with no pain.

Tuesday night I went to bed fine. Woke up at 3am in PAIN, like serious pain. I woke Gavin up and made him nurse, I had to use my labor breathing to tolerate it, OMG it hurt.

I got up at 6am and pumped, again with breathing and forced relaxation. Then the nausea and shakes hit. By 7am it was full body, everything hurts, fever hit, BAM full blown mastitis.

I went to the dr right away, unfortunately I'm allergic to Penicillin, which is the drug of choice, so I don't have the luxury of trying to use natural ways to get rid of mastitis, I use natural methods to get rid of plugs, but not when it progresses to body aches/fever/etc. The dr was really nice, said he can't imagine what it must feel like, and listened to my request to please not touch/palpate it. I told him I'm a LLL Leader and have had mastitis 6 times, so I know what I'm dealing with (this was just my family practice dr, usually I call the OB, but I couldn't get in to the OB fast enough). He asked me what med and what dosage I usually take and called it in.

I've spent the whole day in bed, I got up just to eat (barely anything, I can't stomach food right now) and immediately went back to bed again. Myfever is hovering around 101 most of the time.

God, it hurts

I am so, so sorry! I hope the antibiotics do their thing quickly and you feel better ASAP! My mama had all 7 of us kids naturally, and said that mastitis was the most painful thing she ever went through

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

Originally Posted by ein328

Random question: who has spent the night away from their LO?

I'm asking because it seems as though most of my friends who have babies roughly Lucy's age or younger have already....but I am sooooo not ready for that. Am I the only one?

not since we got him out of the hospital.

Originally Posted by sugarpop

I am so not happy...I mean I am but I am not. Maybe I am not a happy person...or maybe I am depressed. Anyone taking something for postpartum depression and breast feeding? Are there all natural non chemical non harmful alternatives?

i'm on 50 mg of zoloft now- have been for about 3 weeks. it helps loads for me. i was crying all.the.time, but not now. i also take extra vit d, but it wasn't enough on its own.

Originally Posted by 2boyzmama

Ugh, I have mastitis again. Bad. It came on so fast.

ouch! feel better soon. you can't use hepar sulfur and phytolacca?

[mkksmom]

My LO still has 12 more days before she is a toddler, so I'm staying here as long as I can!!

No nights away from her. The first night away from my now 6 YO was when I was in the hospital having the baby. I have let my 6 yo stay with my parents twice since then, but I can't handle the thought of not being with the baby over night. My mom would have to be up half the night anyhow, as we are up every 2 hours many nights. I get excited over 4 hours these days.

2Boyz, feel better. That sounds terrible.

I have been ina funk too. I'm coming out of it, but basically, I am looking around my house thinking it is time to get back to normal again... normal routines, cleaning, decluttering. The past 4 years have been spent dealing with infertility, miscarriages, a very nerve-wracking pregnancy, and healing from a traumatic birth and learning how to juggle more than one child. Not to mention home-schooling my older dd. We are sending her to public school this year, so I'll have some free time when the baby naps and I just need to find a sense of normalcy, ya know?

[schoolmom07]

RE: HI EVERYONE! I have missed all of you!

Well, I know...I am slack! As we all know how hard mothering is anyway, I was thinking adding a second child would be so much like having the first...WHAT??? It's not? Why didn't anyone tell me??? I am struggling with what I think is probably PPD and being told that "If my faith is strong enough...or "that is just of the devil and there is no such thing..." YK? I have had enough of that for now to suit my tastes. On to another subject, baby Sarah started out with mild Laryngomalacia, severe reflux, and moved on to reflux of the right kidney. So I have had my hands full. We have no children's specialists around here for that so I had to drive on more than one occasion to a hospital that was about an hour away (one way)...My summer was crazy. However, baby is doing well as we get ready to celebrate her first birthday the 25th, her kidney is well enough they are holding off of surgery (we have already had a VCUG, Renal Bladder U/S, nuclear medicine test and one other that I can't remember right now...) and the meds! OMG! We won't see anyone at the specialist again until Christmas, dd1 started school with no issues and I am a full time student. As if life is not insane enough...we are attempting to purchase our first home. Why do I do this to myself? PPD? Do I have time for it? NO! But I have to go to the doctor--just so afraid as I have heard the stories. I already am experiencing the reactions. To top it off, I have this strange severe pain in my right breast (lower side) and am getting a sneaky suspicion that I may have mastitis. The pain is so great that I want no one to touch me but thought it may be due to baby kind of teething on me...But that doesn't make sense, does it? Thanks ladies for listening to my various rants.