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I find I am having a hard time making the final "jump" into full time homeschooling, mainly because it is such a dramatic paradigm shift in my way of thinking about education.

That said, I have read (and read, and read, and read) about homeschooling...and the *idea* of it (as well as the specifics) is compelling. I have no issues with wondering about 'socialization' or my kids getting a decent education, or any of the usual objections. I am a professor, and see the (unfortunate) results of mainstream education all the time: not pretty, generally speaking.

We are already homeschooling for our religious curriculum (which is actually rigorous, consisting of language immersion, textual study, and history studies). My older children are in a public Montessori charter school, but it has become increasingly obvious that this will be untenable in short order -- my oldest daughter, although in 4th grade, is actually over a year younger than some of the other 4th graders (discrepancy in state 'cut-off deadlines' from our inter-state move); next year she would be in the middle school and in a 5th/6th classroom. A 9 year old in a class with 12 year olds is not a good idea, for a lot of reasons, and especially for our family it is unacceptable.

So...to homeschooling we will go. Although I may pull my 6 year out before the end of this school year (she wants to school at home very much), the 9 year old will likely stay until this academic year is completed (she loves the school).

I have the curriculum/general guide already underway (although some of the specific choices elude me, but that's another post).

I am just having so much difficulty breaking out of the 'school is normal' paradigm and it is hindering my ability to commit fully.

Sigh...I guess I'm just looking for a pep talk.
post #2 of 4
School is normal!

At least, it's our society's norm.

There's nothing wrong with that. It is what it is. It works for a lot (most?) people. Good for them, and I'm not being facetious. Families should do what works for them.

As for you, well you're going on an adventure! It will be your own family's normal, and you'll probably meet some other families for whom homeschooling is also normal. (Can I make some assumptions based on what you said? Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong: I assume you're either Jewish or Muslim, hence the religious curriculum at home involving language, text, and history). If that assumption is right, your family already experiences a normal which is different from our larger society's norm (again, assuming you live in the US or Canada, where you can't throw a rock for the 2 months before Christmas without hitting a picture of Santa Claus or a reindeer). And it's not so big a deal, right? I mean, sure, sometimes you have to field the "why does Santa Claus bring presents to all the other kids in my class and doesn't come to our house?" sorts of questions. But that's not such a big deal.

Society may present a "normal," but it's up to each of us to make our own individual way in the world. Most everyone breaks with the norm sometimes. That's what makes the world an interesting place! And your family is breaking with the norm right now, and going off to have an interesting adventure in education.
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You are so right! Thank you. I know it's the right thing for us. And yes, I am a maverick in more ways than one (not the least of which as a religious minority; your assumption is correct!).

I guess I also have a secret fear of having no time to myself (I am an introvert and literally cannot stand a lot of chaos/noise, so this is something I'll have to work on). But then again...it's just up to me to figure out a way to get that in. Right?
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This was the main thing I had to overcome when I decided to homeschool- the idea that school is normal. I could easily accept that schools have problems, but the problems that schools have are 'normal'. Whenever I would think of potential problems with homeschooling, those problems seemed more serious somehow because they weren't the 'normal problems'. And of course, as a homeschooler, any problems are entirely your problems to solve, you can't just accept them as 'normal'.

Once I got over this, putting the alternatives on a level playing field, I was unable to imagine sending my children to school.
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