Originally Posted by thatgirliknew
I have a question. My husband is a pretty negative person. If one bad thing happens, he's in a horrible mood for days. I used to be this way but have become more optimistic in the past few months. However, when he is like this it directly effects my mood. It makes it harder for me to be optimistic plus I know it's not a positive impact on the children. Is it out of line to put "I'd like my husband to be happy" or something to that effect on my TM since it does affect me?
I have a curmudgeon of a husband, and he has been that way since we've been teenagers. So I understand you pov. He has improved greatly over the years.
I sometimes tell him "I love you, but you are bringing me down. That is not what I need right now." I sometimes ask him if he needs a break.
Personally I would keep it about you and write something about improving boundaries, changing your ability to explain how it is impacting you and your kids, etc.
good luck. Being a partner with a pessimist can be draining.