First, I noticed that there are quite a few student midwives here that are also spouses to service members (as am I!) - and I am wondering if any of you know of a midwifery-service minded yahoogroup? And if not - would anyone be interested in staying connected by creating one? I would be willing to do the startup work, if you are interested, just say the word. I have felt so alone in my midwifery work since my husband joined the Army. Midwifery has been a true calling for me since before he joined, but ever since - it has been next to impossible to finish - because of already said circumstances, which I know you all understand! It's *hard* in the military - harder than when you're out and near a static "family" - whether that means close friends or family or both. But you know this!!
Second, I wanted to say that I also homeschool, and I have 4 kids - and one on the way. When I was most active doing my clinical work, my husband was in officer school, and I was at "home", in between duty stations - since he was in training for 10 months. My family was able to care for my 4 children during this time, and it was really awesome. I was never worried when I was gone (2-4 births/month and 1 prenatal day/week) - I was always "fully there" at prenatals and births BECAUSE I knew my children were well-cared for - something, for me, that I can never go without. I have to know my children are cared for, or my mind won't be in it. I worked with my own midwife (that cared for me during my births), so I knew her style somewhat from my own births, as well as some friends that I had referred to her that I had been at. She also homeschooled her 8 children (and is still homeschooling). She has a busy and thriving practice. She completed her AAMI work in one year. She was pretty gung-ho about it all. But she also had friends and family around during her training...something we military-spouses usually do not.
I know my biggest problem right now is not having a midwife to work with (that isn't at least an hour away!!!). But in the past, it has also been finding reliable, trustworthy chilcare - as well as reliable and trustworthy BACKUP childcare....and to have it be ON-CALL all at the same time!!! Wow. That is a lot to ask! Not to mention deployments making everything much harder. As our children age, it'll be come easier, but if we always have a little one, it is hard. Once you establish your own practice it becomes possible to bring a sitter and your tiny ones - but that is a hard one to ask of your preceptor....depending on your relationship.
My husband is currently deployed right now. My current plan is to finish my own AAMI work, take come A&P classes, and then within the next 2 years or so go to Maternidad La Luz for their 1-year program (with my Army spouse!!! LOL). Talk about shot in the dark, eh???? If you're military you know what I am saying - because how could that even work if he was deployed while we were there????? Ugh. Talk about needing a reliable nanny or family member if that happened. Right now, my husband is considering graduate degree program that you can apply to and if accepted to to any school of your choice for a post-graduate degree...(hence the plan would be for him to go to El Paso, where he will be doing a masters program full-time, and still being paid by the Army, while I am at MLL). HA! Well, the way we see it, is that if all of that happens - then it is truly meant to be. And if not, then eventually, eventually, my midwifery education will come, slowly, but surely....it will, because I want it to. But in the mean time, there is at least a plan, and a contingency plan! What else can we do???