should i let him or nip it in the bud?

[PeachBaby]

13 month old DS has just discovered a fun new game for him. He likes to put things/toys down the front of my shirt or else he likes to reach in there with his hand or else he likes to lift my shirt if he wants to nurse. has anyone really regretted not nipping this behavior in the bud? it's so hard to stop him because he's so persistent and sometimes I give in because it's cute when he gives a sly grin as he does it. but I know this won't be good when he does it in public.

[PeachBaby]

Oh, I just scrolled down and saw the other thread discussing it, so you can disregard this post.

[daniturtle]

My daughter had a phase where she adored putting things down my shirt- toys, the remote control, books, whatever was at hand. I thought it was hilarious and just let her do it. She did it once with her Tía Jenny (my best friend, Thalia's honorary aunt). But until I just read this, I hadn't noticed that she'd stopped, about a month ago or so - she's 15 months old now. I'd say she did this for about a month or two, I think the novelty wore off. I don't think she ever did this in public - usually too much other interesting stuff going on.

Nowadays she does like to try to lift my shirt to get to my breasts but I usually remove her hands and direct her to sign for milks. Often she's just trying to get to my belly-button to poke at it. This I allow. But she does do this annoying-to-me thing where in the morning she will grab at my pj tanktop's straps (it's a nursing tanktop, so she knows that is where I go to take out the breasts!). She's quite rough about it and I don't like it so I redirect her to sign for milks and verbalize it as well (she's not talking yet).

So - I guess the short story is that if she's playing, I let her do it. If she wants to nurse, I redirect her to sign and I verbalize what she wants.

I think it's whatever you are comfortable with.

[daniturtle]

ha! hadn't seen the other thread!