When are you telling?

[kryztuh]

With my first pregnancy, we told family at 11 weeks and I told my work at 14 weeks. With this one, I don't know how I am going to wait anywhere near that long!

This time, I wanted to tell our families as soon as I got BFP, but DH wants to wait 2 weeks, which is OK with me. But work...I know I will show before 14 weeks this time...so when are you ladies planning to tell family and work, if you haven't already??

[mrsjtc]

We usually tell around 6 weeks but might just let it spill this week. (I'm only about 4.5 wks). First, I need to tell my friend who's had fertility issues. I want her to hear it form me rather than through the grape vine.

[Kelly1101]

Already did.

Here's how bad I am at keeping the news from bursting out:

The day I found out that I was pregnant, my mom was coming up to visit (she lives about 1-1/2 hours away). So we thought, great, we get to tell mom face-to-face instead of over the phone like last time!

So I call her to find out if she's left and when she'll be getting here-- and of course blurt out "And I'm pregnant!"

Can't keep the news in.

[steph66]

We actually told our families right away. We told DD just a few days ago. I will tell my professors this week. I really feel that if something were to happen with this pregnancy, that my family will be a great support and I really want them to know about what I'm going through and not have to mourn and hurt all by myself. But of course I'm a worrier so I think things through like that We told before four weeks with dd! I'm not good at keeping things like this a secret!

[MaerynPearl]

I told my daughter on Saturday and she told... pretty much everyone.

I waited to tell her til after I went to the doctor. I will only be 6 weeks tomorrow but I guess I am fine with everyone knowing.

[triscuitsmom]

We've told We told everyone fairly quickly. The only people I have left to tell are my grandparents, but I'll do that in person. I've announced on facebook already but they don't have a computer so that doesn't help them.

[mommamisty]

I told my mom right away, and rest of family shortly after. I had big plans on how to tell BD(baby daddy) because this will be his first, but as soon as he walked into the bedroom I blurted it out. I made my facebook announcement at about 6 weeks

[nikity]

we told dh's parents last night. its their first grand-child, so that was fun. and i told my sis and some close friends right away. the world at large? probably when the first trimester is over.

i hate hiding things! i literally walked around with a glass of wine (not drinking it...just as a party prop) yesterday at a large family gathering so as to avoid suspicion. actually, that was kind of funny.

[Galatea]

Dh told his 3 best friends, so all their wives know I bet.

We'll tell everyone else about 8 weeks. I will probably show sooner but have some loose shirts.

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by steph66

I really feel that if something were to happen with this pregnancy, that my family will be a great support and I really want them to know about what I'm going through and not have to mourn and hurt all by myself.

I feel the same way...

Originally Posted by nikity

i literally walked around with a glass of wine (not drinking it...just as a party prop) yesterday at a large family gathering so as to avoid suspicion.

ROTFL!

[Monkey Keeper]

We told our families Saturday at DD2's 2nd birthday party. She opened "Big Sister" pjs, and we waited for the reaction. Two of my gfs knew we were TTC, so they knew the morning I got the BFP. DH told his best friend yesterday. I am 7w today.

We probably will tell a few more people after we see a heartbeat at our dating u/s on Thursday. I will feel pretty confident after that.

[tribord]

I told two of my closest mom friends at DD's birthday party the morning after my BFP. Oh, I got in trouble with DH but I needed someone to share with because I was so excited and worried. Then I told my mom and sister at 6 weeks because I also felt like I needed someone to talk to while sweating out the results of an inconclusive ultrasound. We are doing a first-trimester screening so we'll wait for those results to come back (at about 13 weeks) before telling anyone else. I don't want the rest of the family to get all excited if it turns out things aren't going to work out.

I honestly wouldn't mind telling more of my friends but DH thinks it isn't fair that so many of my friends would know but his family wouldn't, and I guess he has a point so I'm biting my tongue for now. It is hard, though.

With DD my mom and sister knew right away and so did a few of my friends. We waited until the first trimester screening results to tell the rest of the family and really there were a lot of people I didn't even tell until after my 20-week ultrasound.

[slf]

We told a few people right away, and yesterday told DH's family. I'll be telling my family this week. My work found out as soon as I got back to work after the holidays (the non-stop eating and lack of coffee totally gave me away! lol) but I'm holding off on the big FB announcement until i'm in the 2nd tri

[Chloe'sMama]

I will be 8 weeks Thursday and we have told our immediate families (parents and siblings). I have told one close friend (who is also expecting). I waited till 12 weeks to tell people last time and I was thinking of doing that again. I am not having the 8 week US done and won't be in to the Midwife until 13 weeks to hear the heartbeat. I am nervous something isn't quite right so I feel scared to tell anyone else. But I think I will be showing way before 13 weeks this time. I keep going back and forth.

[etsdtm99]

i told my close circle of friends, and my mom (who lives down the street) we have not told anyone at DH's work (well except one of his friends who doesn't count as a co-worker) and we haven't told anyone in DH's family or any of my extended family (even my brother/dad) .. i would like to wait until i've had an ultrasound or heard the heartbeat to tell anyone else.. we will probably tell MIL by 8.5-9 weeks even if we haven't heard the HByet cause we are going on a trip with her..

[luckysgirl]

We waited until my second trimester to tell ANYONE the first time. We had only been married five months or so and we were both only 18-years-old.

Last time, we told the most important people in our lives - my grandma, his parents, our closest friends - shortly after we found out and then waited until the second trimester to tell everyone else again.

We've talked about it and have to decided to wait a few more weeks, give ourselves a little more time to process the news, tell those closest again, and then wait until I'm showing. We got enough "but you're so young!" comments last time, that we're not really hankering to go through it again so soon during what is supposed to be a happy time.

[L J]

I told my son, who knows how to keep a secret amazingly well for a 3 year old, and my best friend, plus three work friends. DP has no family, so no one to tell there. My family.... eh. They are going to be angry/disappointed/sad/upset and generally negative all the way around. So I'm in to hurry to tell them. They just want me to be married, and to be honest, I would love it if he popped the question, but I'm not pushing it. We love each other, we plan to be together forever, he's a great dad to my son, we are both gainfully employed. And I'm not all that young. But yeah... if I could wait until the baby was actually here, I would! LOL

[MacKinnon]

I'm 6 weeks today and we've told our parents and our siblings, my best friend and one co-worker, who guessed She and I have both had early losses, and discussed our experiences, etc. She knew we were trying, that I had transferred to an OB (her practice), etc. We wouldn't have told our families until my viability scan a week from today, but my BIL called last weekend to announce that him and SIL were expecting their first essentially the same day as we are!! DH, of course, wanted to tell his brother. Once we told them, we told all the other parents and siblings. We will tell our children after the viability scan, a week today. I imagine I won't keep it too much of a secret after that, as my losses have all been before, except for my boss. We are undergoing a huge reorganization and I would rather they didn't know before staffing decisions are made in March... Ha! I swear I'm showing already, so that might be difficult...

[DoulaLMT]

We're planning to tell our parents and probably siblings soon. Other than that, we'll wait a while. I won't have a mw appointment until 12 weeks or so. I have a feeling I may be showing before then though this time around. I'm extremely thin to begin with, so it doesn't take much. I don't want people to already have it figured out because my shape has changed. I'd rather have it be a complete surprise, so we're going to play it by ear and if I start to feel bulgy in the midsection, we'll tell our friends too.

[dachshundqueen]

Parents and siblings at some time before the child actually comes, probably when I am majorly showing to the point I cannot get away with it.

We've told good friends, but not done any broadcast emails or posted FB status or anything.