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post #21 of 107
NicoleS - I know exactly what you mean. I lay on one side for an hour and then switch over. Once I become comfortable on that side, I have to get up to pee and then I'm wide awake. I guess this is nature's way of getting us prepared (for the first or again) for nightly feeding with our LO's. But right now, it's no fun and extremely annoying!!

Mntmoonmama - I feel the same way. I'll be 35 weeks on Saturday and I feel like for the past couple of months, I've been a bum of a mama. All I feel like doing is playing board games or puzzles with DS. DH does all of the fun stuff like playing football and swords, going swimming, riding bikes, etc., But tomorrow, DS and I are having a day together. It's his 4th birthday and we're going to do some fun stuff even if my back aches and my ankles swell, darn it!!
Before we know it, we'll have our bodies back and be able to move around like we once could and make memories with our kids.
post #22 of 107
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NicoleS - I know exactly what you mean. I lay on one side for an hour and then switch over. Once I become comfortable on that side, I have to get up to pee and then I'm wide awake. I guess this is nature's way of getting us prepared (for the first or again) for nightly feeding with our LO's. But right now, it's no fun and extremely annoying!!
this is me too. Ugh. I don't even mind the getting up part, I just can't stand how long it takes me to reposition myself.

I'm also suffering from carpel tunnel so my hands are kind of achy and numb all night long too.


Katie - I agree, I think you would need to finish the ends on a flannel blanket, but it should be a really easy project - do you know anyone with a sewing machine?

I don't really mind patterns, etc and think the ones at target and even some carters ones are pretty cute - I just find it annoying that everything is so gender specific and I really shy away from character stuff.
post #23 of 107
Whew, another week! I've decided that my baby needs to be born on Feb 20 or 22. My sister will be here that week, so it would solve the childcare issue. And all the other kids have even-number birthdays, so that'd work.....the 21st just wouldn't work, because it's a Sunday, and dh wouldn't have anyone to fill in for him at church! Although, I think I've been very nice so far to arrange for the births to be very low-key, non-dramatic....maybe this time we need to shake things up a bit....my water could break right during the middle of his sermon....ROFLOL!

I went a tiny bit crazy tonight when I realized that I only have 3 weeks before I'm in the "safe" zone! If I want this kid to be born on the 20th, I should have started the 5w formula 2 days ago! LOL! Just kidding, but dang, it just highlights how close I'm getting, and how much I still have left to do!

Hoping that I can get back on the nesting craze this week....I got a bit derailed last week with the ultrasound drama.

This week I want to:
*call hospital and arrange a tour--having a homebirth, but I've pre-registered in case of transfer, and I found out they have a great "baby boutique" where they sell pumps, bras, etc....and they have professional bra fittings! Woo-hoo! I really want to get fitted and see if I can find a decent bra or two that I don't hate.

*finish organizing the birth and baby supplies I currently have (now that we know it's a boy, I need to make another trip to the attic!) and list what we still need....goal is to have everything for the birth by the end of Jan. Our church is giving us a shower this coming Sunday, so I'd like to have most of it done this week before bringing the new stuff in!

*finish making diapers and bedding for the co-sleeper

*re-cover the glider rocker....not that I *needed* another project, but I did need a rocker, and it was a gift. The furniture itself is in good shape (but not fancy), but the cushions are quite ripped. Got some fabric today, so now I just have to figure out how to do it!

Tamara, I would have freaked over the loss of all that hard work! In fact, I have freaked over a lot less.....last week, I cooked some chicken for a casserole, and dh was being a sweetheart and cleaning up behind me AND HE THREW THE BROTH DOWN THE DRAIN!!!! It still makes me angry, thinking about all that wonderful yummy goodness going down the drain....and I just have to wonder, who the HECK does that?? I mean, sure, drain the spaghetti water down the sink, but not the chicken broth--that's tomorrow's dinner!

Katie, honestly it will probably cost a bit more to buy flannel yardage than to buy receiving blankets. Don't ask me why, but that's been my experience. If that's not a problem then yeah, do make sure you do something to seal the edges, even maybe some sort of iron-on edging tape. Easiest thing to do, IMO, would be run a straight stitch about a 1/2 inch from the edge, then wash/dry it a couple times...the edge will fray up to the stitching, but it will look cute that way!

I actually saw some plain (solid, stripes, checks) receiving blankets in blue and green at Walmart a few days ago.... these ones. I find these fairly non-annoying, too, but they are pretty gender-specific.
post #24 of 107
Since Jethro was in the NICU for 5 days after his birth, I kind of put the whole placenta thing aside. I was lucky in the fact that I was able to get it out of the hospital with minimal protests, even though it is absolutely against hospital policy. So now it is sitting in my freezer, and honestly, I'm kind of scared of it. I know it's going to have umbilical cord attached to it, and I don't need that part so I'm going to cut it off of course, but then what? It's just weird to think about throwing an umbilical cord in the trash, and stick it out there for the binman to get. I know they get thrown in the trash every day but it's just WEIRD. Is there something else I should do with the umbilical cord?

Also I am sitting here wondering how the heck I fastened prefolds on my girls when they were newborns. I used snappies and it was no problem but this guy kicks and squirms all over the place. I have just been trifolding a orange edge newborn prefold and laying it in a bummis or thirsties cover. Every single time I change him, he has poop. It's little poop. Nothing close to a blowout. More like little sharts. It's the mustard color and seedy, and he is pooping, so I'm not worried about it but I just don't remember the girls being poopy every single time.

Anyways...that's what is going on in my mind right now. Placenta's and poop.
post #25 of 107
Middle of the night nursing here... Tonight my over-tired (family in town) toddler has woken up about 4-5 times... Compared to my preemie's ONE time. Bleeeeccchhhh.

Thanks (as always!) for the support, y'all.

Texasmum, I had to throw away the membranes, but I laid the cord flat on some paper to dry out...hoping it will wind-up 'baby book-able' like the stump. Haven't checked on the drying process yet, though.

I find myself wishing I'd taken pics of the placenta & cord before I'd chopped them up... Feeling weirdly sad that I'll never see one of my placentas again, especially since I never even looked at my first two!

Poop: Julianna pooped 8-9x's/day when we first brought her home (@ 16 days old). Now 1-month old & slowed to ~5x's...and I find myself worrying if she's eating as well as she was two weeks ago... Poop is good!

Hey, Julianna is one month old today!
post #26 of 107
Hi, uh, remember me? I didn't have a computer for a while so couldn't really post--but I've been following along via my phone and checking in to see how everybody's doing.

Wow, so many babies already arriving/arrived! We seem to be segueing from the early crop of preemies now to folks who are actually just due at the beginning of Feb and are just in the earlier parts of their due-phases--yikes!! I still need at least two weeks to have the baby at home, so I'm still in "keep it in!" mode. It's hard to believe that I'm this far along, though. It's funny for me to read that people are getting so many comments from strangers on their size--for me, it's weird, because it's the opposite! I just had my first actual comment from a stranger the other day! And then it was from a lady behind me at the drugstore, who asked me when my baby was due. When I told her she looked surprised and said, "Really? You're so tiny!!" There are actually people who I see casually on a regular basis (one employee at DD's preschool for example) who apparently didn't know that I was even pregnant. Which I think is a little weird, except maybe I'm just always rushing by in a half-fastened coat and it's not that apparent. That happened when I was pregnant with DD too, though. Apparently I just have enough internal space for a baby to hide a bit!

35 weeks here and I'm sort of feeling disheartened at all the stuff still left to do, and all my idealistic intentions for this pregnancy that I did *not* realize that it's a little late for now. (You know, all the salads and prenatal yoga and weekly belly pictures and DHA supplements that didn't happen . . . . ) I think this will probably be our last baby, for a variety of reasons, so I wish I could say that I was all blissful with the joy of bringing forth new life--but unfortunately I've felt like crap and been kind of a grouch for a lot of it! Of course, if I go to 41 weeks or something I will have a lot more time, but I'm not sure that's a good trade-off either, lol! We're gradually getting home maintenance and repair stuff done, but it's seemed like pulling teeth for whatever reason. Not a lot of energy here, and DH helps lots with DD to let me rest more but then doesn't get as much done as he otherwise could. Whenever I've overdone stuff too much I end up throwing my lower back/pelvis out or having a lot of painful BH contractions and the baby is so high up under my stomach/ribs that bending for more than a second or two is usually out of the question--so I'm keeping it sort of "light duty" in some respects. Still, I'm gradually making my way through my to-do list. I have most of the birth and baby stuff I need, I need to order a birth tub and one or two more little things and then that's done. I also need to do one more hospital tour just to get myself straight about where I am going in case of transfer/transport. A couple of friends of mine are having a mother blessing/shower thing for me but it's not at all planned yet, so I have to get moving on giving them a list of who I'd like to invite and get that scheduled, etc. Not exactly a lot of time left here . . . DD surprised me by being born a week before my EDD with no forewarning signs, and I am definitely having a lot more contractions/etc. beforehand this time, so I want to be prepared if this one is on the early side too! DH seems to be a little focused on the time to the "due date" and forgetting that the baby could realistically just come any time now, and that I'll actually be full term and be able to birth at home in a couple of weeks! It's kind of bugging me, but hopefully he is getting it now after we talked and I basically told him, that basically I start being "due" in a little over a week, and that we need to just get this crap all done quickly!
post #27 of 107
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woah- just had this crazy dream last night. Dreamed I was wandering the streets of a very mean and unfriendly city. As pregnant as I am- and alone, and trying to find a phone to call my dad to get me out of there. But I kept getting lost, and I was cold and tired. And people were mean and taking advantage of my state rather than being supportive. And it was this vivid intense thing. when I woke up I felt so immensely grateful. I was in my cozy house with all my nice things and money in my bank account and a loving husband and a room full of stuff for the baby. And I just realized- okay, I can really stop stressing about tiny details here- I am safe and cared for. And this baby is coming into a loving and well prepared home.

In other things- this baby is moving almost constantly now! It feels so real now!
post #28 of 107
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Every single time I change him, he has poop. It's little poop. Nothing close to a blowout. More like little sharts. It's the mustard color and seedy, and he is pooping, so I'm not worried about it but I just don't remember the girls being poopy every single time.
This was my boy. He was also wet about every half hour. Not sure if it's related, but he ended up having dairy and egg intolerances.
post #29 of 107
Wow, I missed one day and had so much to catch up on!!!

Aramat-so sorry to hear about the PPD...I'm hoping to magically miss that this time...but probably not, hugs, hugs, hugs.

Had my first weekly appointment yesterday. Weight gain is good, baby is good, blood pressure is starting to creep up and I'm starting to swell...hopefully not a repeat of last pregnancy... My cervix is still thick and only 1cm dialated...still a ways to go! Besides the blood pressure, I actually feel great this pregnancy. I felt the worst the first and second trimester, weird.

Oh! And I've been trying to check my own cervix lately and haven't actually been able to feel it, BUT yesterday I was able to feel the baby's head and push him upwards, it was amazing! It makes sense that I can feel him, since I've been having these sharp pains right behind the lower part of my pubic bone whenever he moves...could he be coming soon??? Gosh, I hope so!

And so funny yesterday!!! My hubby was nesting!! Full out nesting--going through drawers, getting rid of clutter, dusting...it was awesome!!
post #30 of 107
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Put me in the so ready to have the baby club. I hardly slept last night for all the tossing and turning.
as if I need to say "yeah, dat"...but....yeah, dat.

and about whomever had carpal tunnel...I feel like i have carpal tunnel of he legs and hips. They are always tingly and hurting...whenever I sit or lay down.

I'm still hoping to have the baby between the 24th and the 30th. But last night I was feeling SO SURE that I was going to go into labor. It was so weird. I was so upset and depressed...I even tried to shave my legs (first time in, what, 5 months or somethign). Since we have no place to sit in our shower (and no bathtub) I had to open the doors of the shower and just stick my legs out of the shower to sit. Then I got so depressed thinking that I can't even sit in the shower if I go in to labor now.

37 weeks...I should probably schedule an apt with my mw. I guess it's once every 2 weeks now...they don't do weekly for HB here...

My kids have been so good. They are so anxious for the baby to be born. I'm really proud of them. THey've made life SO easy for me. Just being totally patient with everything.

My husband, upon seeing me crying post shower last night was like "I can help out more..." and he was actually really nice to me. I've kind of been waiting for that the entire pg.
post #31 of 107
Ok, I am glad that I´m not the only one who can´t wait to have the baby out! I am not a delightful pregnant person. The thing is, we aren't ready, so he can't come yet.

Last night I was browsing classified ads online and I saw a stroller/newborn car seat combo and we went out and bought it! I couldn't believe it, I mean, I didn't even want a stroller, just a car seat and now we have it. We are able to bring our baby home from the hospital now. In our shock to walking up to a stroller in our hall (it all seems so real now) we decided to take it for a walk to see how the dog would react ( ya right). It's great! It has 3 inflatable wheels, it´s light but it doesn't fit in the minuscule elevator we have in our building. Luckily my parents are super generous and are buying us an Ergo, which I can´t wait to try!

So, are we crazy for walking a stroller? Come on... be honest!
post #32 of 107
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Ok, I am glad that I´m not the only one who can´t wait to have the baby out! I am not a delightful pregnant person. The thing is, we aren't ready, so he can't come yet.

Last night I was browsing classified ads online and I saw a stroller/newborn car seat combo and we went out and bought it! I couldn't believe it, I mean, I didn't even want a stroller, just a car seat and now we have it. We are able to bring our baby home from the hospital now. In our shock to walking up to a stroller in our hall (it all seems so real now) we decided to take it for a walk to see how the dog would react ( ya right). It's great! It has 3 inflatable wheels, it´s light but it doesn't fit in the minuscule elevator we have in our building. Luckily my parents are super generous and are buying us an Ergo, which I can´t wait to try!

So, are we crazy for walking a stroller? Come on... be honest!
I won't tell if you won't

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as if I need to say "yeah, dat"...but....yeah, dat.

and about whomever had carpal tunnel...I feel like i have carpal tunnel of he legs and hips. They are always tingly and hurting...whenever I sit or lay down.

I'm still hoping to have the baby between the 24th and the 30th. But last night I was feeling SO SURE that I was going to go into labor. It was so weird. I was so upset and depressed...I even tried to shave my legs (first time in, what, 5 months or somethign). Since we have no place to sit in our shower (and no bathtub) I had to open the doors of the shower and just stick my legs out of the shower to sit. Then I got so depressed thinking that I can't even sit in the shower if I go in to labor now.

37 weeks...I should probably schedule an apt with my mw. I guess it's once every 2 weeks now...they don't do weekly for HB here...

My kids have been so good. They are so anxious for the baby to be born. I'm really proud of them. THey've made life SO easy for me. Just being totally patient with everything.

My husband, upon seeing me crying post shower last night was like "I can help out more..." and he was actually really nice to me. I've kind of been waiting for that the entire pg.
I felt like this last night too. Very reclusive and crampy/contractionish and in my own world. I feel better today, but I so wanted it to be IT.

Midwife appt. today. Hoping everything looks good and on track. My YDS is still nursing at this point and surprisingly it doesn't hurt. It just cause contractions. And then I have to stop lol. I'm curious to see how he reacts to the baby using his ninnies.

ODS is excited to meet his sister. I had to get him to stop saying the baby was coming out of my "boobies" to everyone Now he just says she's coming out of my tummy. I kind of hope they both get to be there when she's born.

Well DH has adopted a cranky attitude today so I'm gonna go to keep him from chomping the kids up.
post #33 of 107
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Hi, uh, remember me? I didn't have a computer for a while so couldn't really post--but I've been following along via my phone and checking in to see how everybody's doing.
You bet! Welcome back! I missed you, because we have DD's about the same age, and we were on the One Thread together before we "graduated" over here, right?
post #34 of 107
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So, are we crazy for walking a stroller? Come on... be honest!
While pregnant with my first, I slept with a baby-sized stuffed animal at night to 'practice' cosleeping... And I wore it in a sling at least once; we have a picture. And tried out our baby clothes on it.
post #35 of 107
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as if I need to say "yeah, dat"...but....yeah, dat.

and about whomever had carpal tunnel...I feel like i have carpal tunnel of he legs and hips. They are always tingly and hurting...whenever I sit or lay down.
Ok, I was trying to explain this to DH - that's exactly how my hips are too. Not so bad if I'm up and walking around (but then I have the pelvic pressure and BH contractions) but if I sit for any extended period of time or lay down I'm like that. It's worse at night - I have to keep a hand on the wall to get stood up semi-straight to stagger-waddle to the bathroom...
post #36 of 107
[QUOTE=rach&becks;14950492] I am so sick of the comments I get about how huge I am... I still have a month at least to go and probably more.. if I get 10+ comments everyday (like today) I am going to seriously get postal with some one.../QUOTE]

that

I've started stretching the truth (with people I don't know) and saying I have about 2-3 weeks left, but I know it's more like 5
Mostly I'm irritated at the, (in the poor baby voice) oh, look at that swelling, here put your feet up. I appreciate the sentiment, but I'm not actually swollen (very great full for that). Its because my extra weight went to my butt & legs The next person who comments is going to hear it!

Definitely hormonal here. Last night DS was having lots of nightmares, and eventually got up and went to sleep with DH for the second time in his life (by choice). I kept oscillating b/t feeling so elated that DS found special comfort in his daddy, and feeling inadequate that my comfort wasn't enough. In the light of day, I'm just happy about it
post #37 of 107
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argh. Midwives were supposed to come for a home visit today. Dh took time off work to be here for it as they said it was really good if he were to be here. Then they call this morning- and we had to go out so didn't get it till 11:30 , and say they have to change it. grr. Just frustrating cause we rushed from something else to get here, and dh took time off work! And he lives almost an hour from work so if he went in now he wouldn't even be there till 1:00 so his boss said just don't bother coming in. Oh well at least the house is clean.
I guess in general I am not crazy about my midwives! I mean- in a way they offer protection as they are aligned with my same values (non invasive prenatal care and hands off homebirth unless hands are needed). But I was never like- oh, I LOVE them. Which is okay- but then since insurance doesn't pay a penny for homebirth with my insurance and state, I had to pay them 3600 cash. Anyway- just this whole time I have felt some reluctance about it. I am totally grateful that there is an opportunity to have midwives and a homebirth where I live. Really. But I would feel even better if either insurance paid some of it, or it were cheaper- and also if I felt really bonded with the mw's. But I just don't! Kind of grumpy at them right now even
And I keep feeling like- when I am giving birth, I wish I had some older than me women who I really love and trust and feel connected to to be attending the birth. Rather than people I paid a lot of money to and am not even that down with. I just know it is difficult to find perfection so I am grateful for what I have. But just as the birth gets closer I find myself feeling like having people who O am not so open and crazy about here doesn't feel as great as just having actual friends or even just me and dh. I don't want just me and dh for my first birth I guess- though on some levels I honestly do, if it were all to go well. grumpy right now.
post #38 of 107
Totally OT, but please forgive me!

I got an email from my brother (he's deployed in Afghanistan) this morning, and the tone of the email was MUCH more upbeat and encouraging than his last! I'm so thankful for that....last month they threw him into a new job--one with a much higher danger index, in an area where he has no experience and minimal training. Leave it to the army! Basically, they gave him a platoon to lead, but not your ordinary trained-together-and-know-how-to-work-together platoon....no, this is a ragtag team of misfits they've pulled together at the last minute! In his last email, he sounded pretty overwhelmed.

But now he's had a chance to get things going with these guys, and it sounds like things are really pulling together in a good way! He sounds confident, upbeat, capable, and even excited about the work they are going to be doing (coordinating with and training the local law enforcement to take over in an effective way--almost makes it sound like an end is somewhere in sight! sigh....one can dream, right? )

It just makes me feel so good to hear such relief and optimism and confidence from him...he's several years younger than me and sometimes it's still easy to think of him as a kid, but he is a man to be proud of, one I'm thrilled to have my children look up to and admire. And his safety has been foremost on my mind since he left! That is such an understatement...it's impossible to adequately describe what I feel...
post #39 of 107
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argh. Midwives were supposed to come for a home visit today. Dh took time off work to be here for it as they said it was really good if he were to be here. Then they call this morning- and we had to go out so didn't get it till 11:30 , and say they have to change it. grr. Just frustrating cause we rushed from something else to get here, and dh took time off work! And he lives almost an hour from work so if he went in now he wouldn't even be there till 1:00 so his boss said just don't bother coming in. Oh well at least the house is clean.
I guess in general I am not crazy about my midwives! I mean- in a way they offer protection as they are aligned with my same values (non invasive prenatal care and hands off homebirth unless hands are needed). But I was never like- oh, I LOVE them. Which is okay- but then since insurance doesn't pay a penny for homebirth with my insurance and state, I had to pay them 3600 cash. Anyway- just this whole time I have felt some reluctance about it. I am totally grateful that there is an opportunity to have midwives and a homebirth where I live. Really. But I would feel even better if either insurance paid some of it, or it were cheaper- and also if I felt really bonded with the mw's. But I just don't! Kind of grumpy at them right now even
And I keep feeling like- when I am giving birth, I wish I had some older than me women who I really love and trust and feel connected to to be attending the birth. Rather than people I paid a lot of money to and am not even that down with. I just know it is difficult to find perfection so I am grateful for what I have. But just as the birth gets closer I find myself feeling like having people who O am not so open and crazy about here doesn't feel as great as just having actual friends or even just me and dh. I don't want just me and dh for my first birth I guess- though on some levels I honestly do, if it were all to go well. grumpy right now.
That is frustrating. I was grumpy when the birth instructor missed a class b/c she was at a birth (and that is way less important). Just the nature of people in the birth profession.

I'm sorry that you had to pay so much out of pocket for the birth. I'm sure everything will be great for your though. They have given you the type of care you want so far.

I'm not the type of person that would have bonded with the MW we originally had and I just thought that was normal. I'm a pretty private person, and didn't want to get all touchy-feely/let's share our feelings so I didn't expect to ever get to that type of relationship - even with a MW who will be there for such an intimate experience. Could this be a little bith what you are facing?
post #40 of 107
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While pregnant with my first, I slept with a baby-sized stuffed animal at night to 'practice' cosleeping... And I wore it in a sling at least once; we have a picture. And tried out our baby clothes on it.
I have had my husband practicing diapering a stuffed animal lately. I have also tried out my sling and moby with the same stuffed animal
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