Well, this was a shock.

[nomnom]

Hi all. I haven't been here on. While because right after I joined I found out I was pregnant. I was and still am shocked and went into survival mode we were not expecting to get pregnant so soon and really aren't ready my parents are quite mad and we still haven told my ILs. We avoided seeing them at Christmas because of this. I dont know how they'd react. I've heard they are not nice people and don't like anything that's natural (think breastfeeding, babywearing, no vax, etc) so I'm sure they'd have a few choice words for us.

I am due right after my birthday so I am hoping to go early (it is just a few days). What a wondrful gift that would be! For now we are planning a homebirth but it could be a UC, never can tell.

[weliveintheforest]

Congratulations

[nomnom]

Thank you. Ian so glad for this site,really. I havent told many people be ause I don't have many people who are supportive.

[Brees_Mama]

How exciting! CONGRATS!

[weliveintheforest]

Originally Posted by nomnom

Thank you. Ian so glad for this site,really. I havent told many people be ause I don't have many people who are supportive.

There is a good chance it will get a lot better as your pregnancy progresses and people get excited with you. Especially the grandparents.

[Brees_Mama]

it's hard being pg when others don't support you <3

[josie423]

Congrats and don't worry about your family! I'd never enjoy my pregnancies and children if I listened to what my family said/says. Nobody in my family has been happy when I got pregnant with my second and third, but of course they just fall in love with them. Enjoy this time, mama!

[claddaghmom]

Congrats! I'm in the same boat in RE: homebirth, possibly UC. Let me know what you decide on!

[nomnom]

Thank you. I am really trying torelish in this awesome time. At first my boyfriend wantedto offer the babe for adoption but he has grown to love him (I am surethe baby is a he) and has chosen names even. we are thinking Magnus Zues or Aart Zurineh. We are still lookingthough, becaus we want something really unique!

[Brees_Mama]

are you hoping for a certain gender? have any names yet? sometimes thinking about that stuff makes it less stressful


nm-posted at the same time

[jsh7809]

Congrats! I too went into shock when I got pregnant, and that was while trying (granted, the first try), after we were married for 3.5 years/ together for nearly 10, and so on. It can be shocking no matter what! I will say that for me, I felt extremely worried, anxious and unconfident for the first 4 months or so, so telling people was kind of scary at times, and I definitely took others' opinions much harder than I do now. At a certain point, those nerves went away and now I can roll my eyes at others' input and "advice" and opinions. So maybe waiting on telling the possibly unsupportive in laws is a good thing... just remind yourself that even if it's your first pregnancy, your instincts will tell you what is right for you and your baby!

[MamaFern]

i know exactly how you feel. i got pregnant with my bf of 3 weeks. when we told our families everyone freaked out..insisted on termination (no way!) they freaked out with the second as well (i didn't tell anyone for almost 5 months)and by the third they were pretty much resigned to the fact that i was going to do what i wanted. it felt sad that i couldn't be all excited and happy at first, and i hope that you find a place that you can be happy. pregnancy and being a mother is an amazing journey. this is a wonderful place to find support and friends and info on pretty much everything related to pregnancy, birth, parenting.ect. i have some dear IRL friends that i have met through mothering. and i so wish i had known about it when i was pregnant with my first!

[umsami]

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It's tough when you can't have a supportive family around you.

I know with my first, we got pregnant about a month after getting married. Everybody was sort of shocked when we told them. They did seem to come around when they saw the little guy, though.

Wishing you a wonderful pregnancy. Even if nobody else is happy, that doesn't mean that you can't be. Enjoy your little one.

[nomnom]

Thanks for your kind words. After talking last night, Bam and I decided we'll be telling his parents this week. He's going to call becausethey live 4 hours away And he cant drive that far. I hope they are kind to him!

[sostinkinhappy]

I am so glad you decided to parent your wee one! Much happiness is in store for you. I am sure you will have your fair share of challenges, but what parent doesn't? Congratulations & good luck with the parents!