40+ TTC a New Year for a New Person - Page 2

[LitMama]

WaturMama, thank you for taking on the moderator role and starting this lovely new thread! I love the title! A big thanks also to Massaginmommy for all of her hard work.

Nice to meet you, noordinaryspider!

Happy happy birthday, BHappy! I am right on your heels, turning 42 next month. And, I can tell you from personal experience that sperm can absolutely live for 4 1/2 days! My October BFP (ending in m/c, but still...) was a result of bd'ing a full 5 days before I O'd. Fingers crossed for you!

BuzzerBeater, how exciting that you're starting to show! What fun. I'm sorry about the disappointment over your baby girl's club feet, but it's wonderful that all else is well! Belize sounds like the perfect winter relaxation while growing your baby.

Stealthee, I'm sorry too that you're feeling the loss of your last little bean. I hope the arrival of this new life will bring you much much joy even while you remember that loss.

Beachlover, sorry to hear about your BFN, but so glad you're not experiencing any spotting this month! That sounds positive.

Welcome, Bagare!

Karen1968, I remember well that feeling when I was home with my 3yo! Whatever you can do to hold on to your identity and ground yourself in that sounds like a good thing for both you and your toddler.

AFM, I just finished my 60-hour workweek, whew! I am finally done with the job I did not love. My lovely fiancee took care of my DD and stayed up until 2am with me nearly every night helping me finish an accounting project, which just made me fall in love with him all over again. Looking forward to getting married to him on February 20th (which will be past my O day, darn!). In addition to our other pre-wedding planning activities, we are scheduling an appointment with a fertility specialist! I'm a little nervous but mostly very curious.

[beachlover]

What a waste of $$$$

Seriously, what the heck is the matter with me?

Well I know it's because quite honestly, I've never had trouble getting pregnant before, so even though I know that 2 years makes a huge difference in fertility at our age, I guess I truthfully just can't believe that my good fortune has run out. My time of conceiving from single acts of BD is over. Now days of BD each month, results in only heartache.

Most perfect cycle since PPAF, ovulated on CD 15, 14 day LP, positive OPK, lots of EWCM, ovulation pain etc. etc.

Of course that led to huge $$$ wasted on name brand HPTS. I mean all those stuipid pregnancy symptoms too. I mean a little blood when I blew my nose and cramps, I never get cramps with AF, and yet I had them for days and now of course today when she showed, I don't have one, because like I said, I never get cramps with AF.

I here by solemnly swear that I will not test until AF is late, ever again, unless there is some medical reason to do so. Yep, I mean it...Really! No, I'm serious.....really!!!

OK, rant over. I'm just so sad today.................

[shy]

sorry beachlover
sounds really rough. take care of yourself.

honestly i don't know how you all deal with early testing. I've never done it and I still find it hard.

[hsmamato2]

I solemnly swear the same thing beachlover.....last month I was a mess....from here on in I'm back to myself-I will live my life,love my life,and do what I can to make things happen- but obsessing will not help,so I won;t do it! no tests unless AF is late! and I mean LATE so far,I have no reason to believe that this,cycle 8(almost 9) is any different than the past 3/4 of a year. I too had perfect timing for months,so why stress any more?

[nymomma]

So sorry Beachlover - I know your pain. I ordered some of those cheapies off the internet because I know that no matter how much I swear up and down I won't do it - I will end up blowing money on HPTs. I just rather spend 50 cents and be done with it. This charting is really helping my need to know what is going on - it gives me something to do rather than to waste money on peesticks. And the sad thing is that my DH can get tests for free at work - he works in a lab. But I am too embarrassed to ask him to get me them too often. And actually they are very similar to cheapie dollar tree ones. I wonder what the hospital charges for them?? Well, it is a military hospital - so I guess nothing.

AFM, 8 DPO, nothing much in the way of symptoms excepts that my feet hurt. Don't laugh. I have this kind of achy feeling in my feet and legs right before AF, but I also get it in early pregnancy. Probably some progesterone thing.

Hope you all have a good weekend!

[Pookietooth]

to you Beachlover, I hate HPTs and didn't even test until after my BFP blood test. I have one HPT test left, if you want it I'll mail it to you for the cost of shipping. :P

AFM, dd is growing so fast, I really want to savor every moment knowing that this will be our last baby (barring a miracle of course). As much as it's a joy to watch her grow, seeing her out of the newborn phase is kind of bittersweet. She's 12 weeks old and is now able to lift her head and grab at toys. And giggle. Very cute.

[Kristin0105]

Just found the new thread. Looks great. Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I'm at CD13 today so theoretically should o today but my temps have been whonky this cycle so I can't judge from my chart. And I am totally stressed out by a phone call from my ad today sooooo since stress always effects my cycle. I am working really hard at letting the stress go easier said than done I assure you. AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH! I needed a good scream!!!!!!!!!!!

[WaturMama]

Hi everyone, I'm bumping us up to page one with some babydust.

[Stealthee]

Hello everyone! My due date (25 January) has come and gone. I'm trying to be patient, but it's hard!

Waturmama: Thank you for your condolences. And for taking over the thread.

Kristin: I hope you find a good outlet for your stress and that it won't negatively effect your cycle too much this month.

Pookie: Your DD sounds adorable. She's almost the same age as my little niece- it's amazing how fast they change.

NYmomma: Hope your achy feet are a good sign!

Hsmama2two: I hope cycle 8 is lucky for you. (8 is lucky in Chinese and Chinese new year is coming up.)

Shy: I'm with you about the early testing. Too stressful!

Beachlover: I'm sorry for your heartache. Hang in there.

Litmama: Thank you. I hope all goes well with the fertility specialist and with the wedding plans. Exciting stuff!

Karen: I hope the creative BD plan is going well!

Spider: Good luck with TTC #2. Are you using the same donor?

BHappy: Hoping that you provided an excellent environment for those swimmers to survive 4.5 days! Definitely possible.

Welcome Bagare!

Buzzerbeater: It must have been a relief to get clean FISH results. Sorry to hear about your baby girl's feet, but at least you're prepared and it's something that is correctable. Wishing you a continued blessed pregnancy. Hope you had a great time in Belize even without the beer.

[kel32brown]

Kat- I hear your pain. I do not test until my AF has not arrived, and then even, I wait a day or two for variation.

We did an IUI on Saturday, and my husband's extreme viscosity sperm problem is corrected. It took the drinking of additional bottles of water. HOORAY. This was IUI#3 for us, and our insurance only covers 6 per pregnancy so we sure hope it works. We test Feb. 8. I am holding my breath with anticipation since we just leveled the playing field with now having adequate sperm.

It was clomid/IUI, and we meet with the RE this month to discuss how I've been on clomid for 4 cycles (with a pregnancy in there from cycle #1's IUI.) And my RE says that Clomid produces a lovely two follicles and a nice fluffy endometrium when I use it, debunking that blanket statement that clomid thins your lining over 40.

[nymomma]

Kel32brown I hope that this is your cycle. That is good news about the Clomid. I guess different things work for different people.

Stealthee - You must be getting so excited. So soon you will be holding your little one in your arms.

AFM - I have been charting and on cycle day #12. I still have achy feet and have started some cramping. It seems more like AF is on her way. I did an ic test this am - negative of course. My IL are here visiting for a few days - they are great. We have very different views on parenting - but they pretty much keep their opinions to themselves and are supportive.

Happy Wednesday.

[shy]

Happy Wednesday to everyone here.
Stealthee, so wonderful to hear from you. Kel32Brown, my fingers are crossed for you.
to all

AFM ... this is my first month of charting and I am still getting the hang of it. Not actively trying this month so all the more time to read, buy supplements, read some more, return those and buy some new ones. What I have started taking as in, opened the jar and started using is royal jelly, maca and B6. And RRL tea and nettles tea. Thinking about taking oil of evening primrose since it is supposed to help CM - I hardly have CM.
Oh and I am also eating walnuts and yucca root.
Also thinking of starting l-arganine. According to Randine Lewis Infertility Cure chapter on women over 35, this may help increase blood flow to ovaries. It is expensive so I doubt I will take more than 100 mg / day which might not do much, but then again I am not even certain I am deficient and I don't want to take too much either since this is something the body normally makes itself.

[homebirthy]

42 now

Hi all,

I'm 42 now. I'm waiting now, not ttc. Baby vibes to all!

Hugs,
Amy D.

[BHappy]

Hi Lovelies and thank you to all who responded about the life of sperm . I am 8dpo today so time will tell whether the little guys got to the egg.

Lots of love to you all. And to stealthee: blessings on your birth !

xxo

[WaturMama]

Thanks for stopping by Stealthee. I will be looking for news. Sending wishes for an amazing, connecting birthing.

BHappy and Kel, and you, too nymomma for a happy surprise.

Kristin I hope things are going better.

I saw a fertility specialist for the first time last week. We still have some tests to do (blood and semen), but I was pleased that everything he saw looked good (well mostly pleased, I guess one fantasy was there would be one little easy thing to fix and then I'd be back to my fertile late 30s ). I had 17 ovarian reserves. I don't think we will go for IVF, but that was still a big relief after hearing about some of the other possible scenarios. He suggested I wean ds--just one more thing to up our odds some. Ds is turning 5 soon and I have been starting to think that way anyway. I definitely don't want to go cold turkey, but just start trying other ways for him to fall asleep. We have started doing that. I got pg on the first try at age 39.75 when he was nursing a heck of a lot more than he is now, so I've never worried about it much.

[WaturMama]

Also...I always feel ovary twinges on my left side more than my right side. I found out that is common because the way that the intestines are make things more snug on the left. Pretty interesting, and nice to know there is probably action in my right ovary, too.

[nymomma]

Welcome homebirthy!

Waturmama - that is interesting information about ovulation. Maybe weaning DS will do the trick.

AFM, cramping so bad yesterday, I am sure AF is on her way. And fatigue. And I have what appears to be a zit on the end of my nose - or a sunburn - although that would be quite strange in January.

[msgoodbuns]

Hi Ladies,

Thought I would pop in to see if there's any big news on the board. Stealthee, can't wait to hear about your little one entering this world.
Bagare, welcome.
Spider - glad to see you're back. Can't believe you're in baby making mode again!
Sara, I'm sorry to hear about your little girl's feet, but I'm glad to hear that otherwise, she is perfectly healthy. Enjoy your trip to Belize. I hear it's beautiful.

I'm not ttc'ing right now. Was going to do a FET in Feb, but I got a job (yay!) (I start Monday) and want to get my feet wet before I buy another ticket for the fertility challenge emotional roller coaster ride. December was so hard for me, with the DE IVF failing and getting laid off. I really need to prove myself at work before I can start being a basket case again.

I'm so excited about my new job. I'll be the US HR Manager for this small international company with 60 employees in the US. I'll be traveling to the UK to work with the UK team in late Feb, and will take a side trip to Barcelona for 3 days at the tail end, before I return home. Lucky me, huh? I have to keep pinching myself! I guess things had to turn around sometime. But I have no idea when I might start down the ttc path again.

Wishing you all much baby dust!

[WaturMama]

Congrats on the new job MsGB!!

It does sound wonderful. Glad to see you here! We love you're company whatever mode you are in.

[msgoodbuns]

Thanks, Waturmama, that's very kind of you to say.