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post #21 of 52
I am naturally a morning person (DH is too), but my kids are both night owls. I dream of someday getting them both on a consistent 8 pm or 9 pm (or I'd even be happy with 10 pm!) bedtime, but so far, that just hasn't happened. Most of the time, I go with my instinct to get up before the kids, around 6:30-7:00, which gives me at least an hour before the baby gets up.

Lately, however, I've been just going with the kids' schedule, getting my me time late at night after midnight, and sleeping in until the baby wakes me (usually 8:30-9:00). Since DD is such a natural night owl, I usually get a good hour or two with just the baby while DD sleeps in until 10 am or so. Someday, I know they won't require my help to get to sleep, and I will get back on the early to bed early to rise schedule that I like. But for now, I am going with more sleep is better philosophy. Once I figured out the magic of headbands in making it tolerable for me to skip my morning shower, I lost my main impetus to get up early.
post #22 of 52
Originally Posted by Porcelain Interior View Post
I am a natural morning person, but as my kids have gotten older I've discovered that I resent getting up because it means that the demands of motherhood begin. This has made it ESSENTIAL to get up way before the kids wake up so that I can get my bearings and not feel that I'm getting sucked dry by people needing things from me.
Yes, that's exactly it. It's not so much getting up early that I mind, it's the fact that so much is needed of me right away. If I've had a shower and spent half an hour by myself with my coffee and computer, I'm so much more able to face those demands cheerfully instead of grumping around the house. That, to me, is worth way more than an extra 45 minutes of sleep.
post #23 of 52
Wow, I'm quite the opposite here. I do work one morning a week. But I go to bed when dd goes, at 8:30pm and I'm up between 4:00am and 5:00am. Even on weekends, I'm usually up by 5am.
post #24 of 52
Thread Starter 
^wow I wish I could be like that! I will never ever be able to get up at 4 or 5 in the morning! It is just not in my DNA I guess!
post #25 of 52
I stay up rather late, too, and like others, it's for *me* time. I go to bed around 1 a.m. Sometimes a bit earlier. I find that this is common of moms of many fwiw. I sleep in 'til between 8-9, sometimes as late as 10 if I've been up during the night at all. I often am up because after 4 hrs or so I ache in my joints. So I'll get up and grab a bite of cheese and read a chapter or two and go back to bed. My sister is the same way.

I just think it my natural rhythm, so why mess w/it if I don't need to? My middle dd seems the same way, as does my youngest dd. My son is usually up a bit earlier, and my oldest dd really prefers to sleep til 9 if she doesn't have to work. We homeschool so there's no reason to change it. My dh does morning livestock chores before he goes to work, and he really prefers to do it and let us sleep. That's HIS time. Especially now that he is carpooling to work. He use to get his time to and from work (hour drive each way).

I use my time at night to read, watch tv, cook, clean up a bit, and I really use it alot for planning. I plan livestock sales/breeding, gardening, home improvement projects, livestock building projects, meal planning, etc...
post #26 of 52
I get up with dh in the AM, around 5:30. Dh actually gets up a little earlier, but I get up as he puts his shoes on. He makes my coffee, I pack his lunch, and I sit with him as he eats breakfast.

He leaves at 6, and my kids get up around 6:30, so I have a few minutes of quiet built in.

We go to bed around 9:30. Sometimes earlier, if one of us is tired. For our entire marriage, we've always gone to bed at the same time. Just one of those things that works for us, we've always done, and we have no desire to change now. I like getting 8 hours of sleep, too! LOL

My kids are little, though, and they still nap (they are 1 and 3). So, that's around 2 hours in the afternoon that is "me" time. I sometimes do chores, watch TV while I iron, read a book, nap, craft, waste time on MDC. Whatever. But, it's a nice quiet time for me. Because of that, I don't need to stay up late or get up crazy early.
post #27 of 52
Thread Starter 
Well I did it!! Last night I went to bed at 10pm. I woke up at 5 this morning feeling oddly refreshed. So far I have done some cleaning, some homework, ate breakfast and am about to work out and then drink coffee, take a shower and then get DH up and drive him to work. I will see how I feel energy and mood wise the rest of the day but so far so good. I feel awesome!
post #28 of 52

Reset your clock with light

If you really want to get into the habit of waking earlier, the key is LIGHT. Go to bed at the same time every day, get up at the same time every day and expose yourself to some serious light. Natural light is the best for resetting your circadian rhythms. It is harder if you're trying to wake up before it is light outside but there are other options.

Here's an article but there are lots more--do a search on how to become a morning person or light therapy or reset your body clock.

I have a hard time making myself go to bed sometimes and that makes mornings harder. For a while I was resenting when the kids woke me up and I had to start having "morning hug" with them so that our first interaction of the day was positive. They love their morning hug and I start out the day a little happier.

dd wants to put this smilie:
post #29 of 52
i am a natural night owl.
i have finally started getting my dd on a schedule of 9-9 or close to it, but i go to bed about 1 or 2 am. so i take a really long hot bubble bath every night, set my clothes out for morning, clean the kitchen up nice and get everything out for my morning tea.
when she wakes up i go out to the kitchen, grab her hemp milk sippy and snack, bring her to her playroom, pop in a dvd (i know, i know) and plop her on her toddler bed.

i then go out, get dressed, make my tea and zone out for 20 min.
change out dishes and laundry and by then the dvd is over and we are both ready to hang out with each other and not want to scream.

i have tried many times to be a morning person, but i'm not. no matter how hard you try you cant turn an apple into an orange. the few times i had gotten up at 6 or 7 to get stuff done i have just ended up seriously burnt out by 8 pm or so and get really cranky.

good luck on your venture, i hope it works for you, but dont beat yourself up if it doesnt, just make what you got work!
post #30 of 52
So, when do the kids go to sleep? Could you instead stay up a couple hours after them and do the stuff you want to do?

For me, making a big plan about the stuff I'll do when I get up early ends up with me staying up late wasting time.
post #31 of 52
Thread Starter 
^that is one of the problems. My kids are huge night owls and don't go to sleep until 9 at the earliest and usually it is more like 10-11pm. So if I stay up a few hours after they go to sleep I end up staying up too late and then feel tired the next day because they wake up at 8am.
post #32 of 52
My kids get up between 5 and 6. If I tried to get up earlier than them... whew. They go to bed at 5 pm so I stay up until about 9 or 10.
post #33 of 52
My dad is a morning person and would fall asleep in his chair by 8:30 PM almost every night. The first time I tried to become a morning person, I read this article: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...n-early-riser/

It helped me change my schedule and really learn to love the mornings. (I use to go to the gym for a 5:45 AM spinning class, I guess I was a glutton for punishment.)

And here's a few more articles with great tips:
post #34 of 52
I dont know why it's so hard but ive been trying to do the same thing for a while. I jsut cant get my butt to bed at night, and out of it in the morning.
post #35 of 52
I'm another one that uses the night for my personal time. My kids are asleep by 8:30 and I usually go to bed around 10:30-11:00. I wake up around 7-8 whenever my baby wakes up. I've never tried to get up before her.
post #36 of 52
I used to get up at 6:30 on weekdays. Now I homeschool, so I get up around 8 am. It's lovely.
post #37 of 52
Im visiting family so the schedule has been: Usually the kids go to bed between 7-730, I go to bed around 830-9. I wake up around 4, nurse the baby and dooze. I actually get out of bed around 430 and work out for 60-90 minutes. Then I check my e-mail, get dressed, have a glass of water and wash my face. During that time (around 6ish) my 3 year old wakes up and about 30-60 minutes later my 1 year old wakes up. This gives me an hour to two hours at night and another 1 1/2 to 2 hours during the morning time for me time. We shower at night because the mornings are COLD and my father doesn't have a working heater.
At home: The girls go to bed between 730 and 8. DH and I go to bed between 830-10. DH's alarm goes off at around 4am and I nurse the baby. Around 415-430 DH and I work out together or DH leaves for PT at work (hes in the military). After an hour or so of working out we shower together and I get ready for the day. While hes finishing getting into uniform and shaving I make breakfest and pack him a lunch. Around this time DD1 will get up and spend some time with DH (shes a big daddy's girl and needs at least a little time with him each morning to be happy). Sometimes DD2 will get up too and DH will bring her to me in the kitchen. We eat breakfest together as a family, say prayers, read scriptures and DH leaves for the day around 7am.

Personally I use to be a real night owl. I would have college classes until 11pm and not go to bed until 1. I joined the Marines and after training my body reversed itself and now I can't sleep past 6am(I only sleep that late when Im sick or pregnant). Ive been out of the Corps for almost 3 years now and Im still like that.
post #38 of 52
That sounds like a great routine. I think I would really enjoy time to myself in the mornings. I just need to make myself do it. I have never ever been a morning person. I have always been the kind of person that will stay up all night and sleep all day if I could. I wonder if it is possible to transform myself into a morning person though?! It is worth a shot. I am feeling mighty stressed out and overwhelmed with things as they are going. I need some time to myself and night time is prob. not the best time because once the kids are in bed I get my second wind and then stay up too late. I also always shower at night so showering in the morning might be a nice change of pace for me.
I'm also not a morning person at all. But I find if I shower immediately upon waking, I'm pretty much alert and awake after that. The key is getting out of bed before you start to think about how good it would feel to stay in bed, hitting the snooze alarm, or sleeping for 5 more minutes. You just have to do it, and once you're up it should be okay. Also they say it takes something like 21 days to form a new habit, so it probably won't be easy overnight. As much as I hate getting up, the benefits outweigh the agony.
post #39 of 52

i am such a night owl! i dont hate mornings, but i would rather sleep in...
post #40 of 52
I don't feel any compulsion at all to become a morning person... ... I do, however, feel a frequent compulsion to sedate my baby in the mornings so I can have just one.more.minute of sleep...
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