Subsequnt pregnancies...

[Juvysen]

Ok, so I'm on my third pregnancy. And my hips are worse than the first two - and I get my pubic symphasis all out of whack all the time (thank goodness the chiropractor showed us how to fix that! but my husband needs to be home to help me).

Anyway, I am somewhat less active this pregnancy than last, but I think it's because I'm more uncomfortable than last time, which was more uncomfortable than the time before...

If i get pregnant again, is it just going to be worse? That is, are you continuously more uncomfortable the later the pregnancy? And if not, how do I fix this for next time (if there is a next time)

[tri31]

Hi, I am hoping that alot of other mom's come post otherwise, but I am on my fourth, and I am SUFFERING. It is my nature to have a positive outlook, but personally, I know I can't go through this again. So, I am trying to really cherish this last time around. Despite the fact I feel like I fell off a mountain every night.

[Juvysen]

Whoa... you're in vestal? NY?

[tri31]

Wow, I just noticed that. Yes , Vestal NY. Hi!

[Juvysen]

There's actually a bunch of us from this area

[MaerynPearl]

One thing I have found, which seems counter-intuitive... is to actually become MORE active, despite the aches, which will help your body hurt less.

[bendmom]

This is my third and my body feels like it's been beat with a ton of bricks daily! The first one I snowboarded, rode bikes, hiked, etc. Second not as much, I felt sore and low energy, but still active. This time my body feels horrible! My lower back feels like it's going to give out all the time, and I'm only 2 months in. I've stopped excersizing because it actually worsens how my body feels. Go figure? This will be my last for sure...

[Juvysen]

Yeah, for me, it's mostly the front of my pelvis at this point (uh, and the baby trying to claw out of my cervix, but I guess that could happen depending on baby), and also the sides of my hips. It's definitely worse than last time... and much worse with much activity or if I sit wrong for too long. OWIES... then I waddle away like a granny.... it's bad.

I mean, I'm doing hypnobabies this time, so that helps with pain (already ) but it's not encouraging to think this might happen again next time.

[tri31]

I am still walking or dancing for exercise, early in the day before the nerve pain sets in. When I got pregnant I was used to doing an hour workout, everyday.
Anyway, the activity itself doesn't always seem to be what is triggering my pain. Sitting in the car for a few hours will kill me! Laying down in bed is always a nightmare. Carrying ds around may be what hurts the most. Which is impossible to really curb more than I have. This was true for pregnancy #2 & 3 as well.

[1babysmom]

I've been nervous about the same thing. I have tried to continue staying active and I physically can't (pretty much solely because of the SPD...which even the chiro didn't really help much). I joke that if I have a few more pregnancies, my pelvis is going to crumble into dust. I feel like after this baby it might be the first time ever where I hope it's a little while before I get pg again (we don't prevent) because I'm not sure how I can physically and emotionally do this right away again. The first couple months are fine for me, but once the relaxin starts flowin' a lot, it has just been worse with each baby.

[Juvysen]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom

I've been nervous about the same thing. I have tried to continue staying active and I physically can't (pretty much solely because of the SPD...which even the chiro didn't really help much). I joke that if I have a few more pregnancies, my pelvis is going to crumble into dust. I feel like after this baby it might be the first time ever where I hope it's a little while before I get pg again (we don't prevent) because I'm not sure how I can physically and emotionally do this right away again. The first couple months are fine for me, but once the relaxin starts flowin' a lot, it has just been worse with each baby.

Me too. I just called my midwife to ask if there's exercises or anything I can do to keep my pelvis together better (avoid the SPD symptoms) she said not right now - mostly just avoid squatting, but once I have the baby there should be things I can do to strengthen it for next time (if there is a next time). My mom's husband is a physical therapist, so I'll probably ask him later...

[Tizzy]

I'm on my third and really I feel better than I did with my 2nd and about the same as with my 1st. My first was such an easy pregnancy, I hardly showed at all until I was 7-8 months, I was so active for the most part and had lots of time to rest. Ha! try finding time to rest when you're pregnant with an active toddler
So the second seemed harder on me, but I didn't get the pubic pains that I had with my first pregnancy.
And now with my third, I have varicose veins popping up...eeek! And I am SO moody, but I've been feeling pretty good. Having a toddler and a preschooler has actually helped - they make sure I stay more active and we go outside to work and play pretty much every day. It was easier to stay inside when I just had the one. Plus my toddler is more laid back so I have more of a chance to rest when I can.
I've found that trying to keep up with a yoga DVD has really helped.

[sostinkinhappy]

Originally Posted by tri31

Hi, I am hoping that alot of other mom's come post otherwise, but I am on my fourth, and I am SUFFERING. It is my nature to have a positive outlook, but personally, I know I can't go through this again. So, I am trying to really cherish this last time around. Despite the fact I feel like I fell off a mountain every night.

Hey, I could have written this post!

And as much as I would like to stay active (I am a personal trainer/sports nutritionist) I am in so much pain (not just discomfort) after just walking a couple of miles that I have to spend the rest of the day in bed with ice packs on my pubic bone. I told my husband the other night that this is the absolute last baby, period. Even though we both would love a larger family, we both agree that we/I can't go through this again.

I would love to tell you that SPD or it's evil twin sister diastasis symphysis pubis doesn't get worse with each pregnancy, but for me, it has. I am just hoping I can make it through this pregnancy without causing permanent disability to the joint...

[sostinkinhappy]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom

I joke that if I have a few more pregnancies, my pelvis is going to crumble into dust.

Trust me, been there, done that and have the surgical scars to prove it.
It isn't a joke, at least note a very funny one. And let's just say surgery to repair damage caused by pregnancies + SPD/DSP is not a lovely path to travel. The physical therapy before they could even do the surgery was a nightmare and recovery afterward was brutal.

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by sostinkinhappy

Trust me, been there, done that and have the surgical scars to prove it.
It isn't a joke, at least note a very funny one. And let's just say surgery to repair damage caused by pregnancies + SPD/DSP is not a lovely path to travel. The physical therapy before they could even do the surgery was a nightmare and recovery afterward was brutal.

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend. I don't know anyone personally who's dealt with SPD (at least as bad as I have) so I haven't heard of anyone actually dealing with that. I just used it to try to describe what it was like *for me* to DH. Again, did not mean to offend anyone.

[sostinkinhappy]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend. I don't know anyone personally who's dealt with SPD (at least as bad as I have) so I haven't heard of anyone actually dealing with that. I just used it to try to describe what it was like *for me* to DH. Again, did not mean to offend anyone.

Oh no worries here, mama! I totally understand about not knowing anyone IRL that has had to deal with SPD. I even had to school my docs about it and sent them to the websites so they could understand it better!!! It wasn't until after I had #3 that I was able to find a doctor who even knew what it was and that was an orthopedic doc at that. He was the one that finally took an x-ray of my pelvis and confirmed what I had already known: my pubic bone was separated. He was that first doctor that really *got it* when I told him about how badly I hurt just from doing every day activities like walking, sitting, squatting, etc.

So don't worry - I am not offended in the least. I am just grateful there are websites like this one where we can connect with other peeps who are dealing with/have dealt with similar issues.

[sanguine_speed]

Well, for me, each pregnancy has been worse than the previous. I'm on number four and the pelvic pain started much earlier than last time (21 weeks or so this time). I am dreading the next three months as it relates to pelvic pain. I would never wish a premature baby on anyone, but I only went to 34 weeks last time, and I don't know how I'm going to make it to full term with this pain .

[sostinkinhappy]

Originally Posted by sanguine_speed

I would never wish a premature baby on anyone, but I only went to 34 weeks last time, and I don't know how I'm going to make it to full term with this pain .

At church, I mentioned to someone how I only had 15 more weeks until my scheduled c/section and how excited I was about it and she said, "You must really be in a lot of pain to be looking forward to major surgery!" Yup, I am.

And like you said, I would never wish an early baby on anyone, but the pain....