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post #161 of 607
what a precious little guy! I love the picture of him and josephine.

MMM-that's awesome that you'll be out of consumer debt by the end of the year. It's going to take us...longer than that. Sigh. But, at the same time I'm glad I know now. I kept putting purchases for things we need off until we were caught up, but I had no real idea when that would be. Now that I know being caught up is a long way off and how much money we have, I feel like we can responsibly save and purchase those needed items without so much guilt. Is that strange, or what? While I was checking up on things yesterday I discovered my absent minded dh had paid one of his school loan bills 3 times this month! Not only that, it's been paid twice in January and December as well. Luckily we still have enough to cover all the rest of the bills this month, but that money could have gone toward worse debt than school loans. I tried really hard not to get too frustrated at him, I guess it's better to pay a bill too often than to get stuck with a late fee for forgetting to pay at all.

Westley has started to push up onto hands and knees when he's on his belly. It's so fun to watch, he gets so excited about it! I just hope I still have at least a month before he really starts crawling. When he's mobile, I'm going to have to rethink my work strategy, there's not really any way to keep him out of things at work unless I bought a pack n play or a pen or something, and I really don't want to do that.
post #162 of 607
so, my butt looks great.

there are a lot of steps to our house, but i'm less winded now (when carrying hawk in a wrap and a back pack full of whatever. i'm def looking leaner. lol!

looks like we're getting the table, and i talked with a guy to make some pegs and shoe racks for us (shaker style pegs and a cabinet for shoes/bags). went ahead and got (expensive) dressers instead of inexpensive closet organizers--ryan's choice.

learning the bus system quickly too. and, the apt is so easy to keep clean.

big fun--LIBRARY! i love the library. they have a music based play group and the story time.

hawk has had it with the internet cafe. we should be up and running by next week at the latest.

ttfn~
post #163 of 607
Nicholas' Birth Story

Not great writing, I know, but I wanted to get it written down. Now I just have to write Josephine's birth story.
post #164 of 607
Welcome Nicholas!!!

I too LOVE the picture of J holding her new brother. Too, too cute!



In us news it looks like we've weaned. I'm still not sure if I'm happy (I can eat wheat) or sad (my baby is growing up) but it was time. Nursing went from Kai's favourite thing in the world (He'd even pray "Thank you for Mama and Papa and Kai and nursing. Kai a loves nursing.") to a real frustration. He's not a comfort nurser. He's in it for the bedtime snack so when my supply was low this month we tried not nursing for a couple nights and it wasn't a big deal at all. He's only nursed twice ince then and the last time was a week ago so I guess we're done.
post #165 of 607
happy 2 1/2, kai!

wow on the weaning arelyn. just wow. i toy with the idea but am not there yet. i am pretty clear that if there is no mother-led weaning she will be nursing for longer than i am comfortable with. i do feel very touched out after the bedtime routine and suspect that the nursing/chomping/twiddling may be part of it.

in the 2ww. do not feel pregnant at all. this whole ttcing thing is a bitch for me this time around. on vitex. taking more calcium than i had been.
post #166 of 607
Vitex is what did it for me PiePie.
post #167 of 607
So, I lost the plot, entirely. I didn't realise just how much until I called myself in for a night off. I was not being a good Mama. I was being a terrible partner. I was so negative and impossible to be around. I couldn't even make a decision about wanting tea or coffee.

So I jumped online, booked a decent hotel and left DP and DS home alone for the night. I was prepared for the worst. I had every expectation that we'd all end up sleeping in that hotel at 2am but it was way better than i could have expected. I drank half a bottle of wine to take the edge off the fretting and watched crappy tv until I fell asleep. I slept for almost 4 hours then woke up for 2 (after all, I don't really know how to sleep for more than an hour at a time anymore) and then slept for another 3. I don't feel especially refreshed and I'm certainly still painfully tired but 12 hours alone gave me perspective and I'm shocked at how much my approach has changed. I am nice. I am loving. I can make a decision. I'm not exploding at the smallest frustration. I never thought I'd be able to leave DS overnight this early, and I've certainly felt judged by some for doing it, but I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

Meanwhile, back at home, DP fought with DS until midnight to get him to sleep but then he woke up just twice, resettled himself once and had a couple of sips of water and went back to sleep a second later for the other. This is a miracle and makes me much more confident about our plans to nightwean next month. I feel like there's light at the end of this tunnel.

All DS's rashes have gone and he's much happier too. I think he has food intolerances which mostly arise when he's teething or otherwise immune compromised. For now we're going with our gut and eliminating the foods we're sure of and just being careful/moderate with a few others. He has an appt with his awesome doctor next week and I suspect he'll give advice to that effect anyway. Of course, it hasn't escaped me that happier mama = happier baby.

Filled out my paperwork to get started on the Breastfeeding counselling training yesterday AND got my acceptance for doula training. Counselling training starts ASAP and doula training in the second week of March. How exciting!!!

Wondering how Christina and Nicholas are going?

And PiePie's TWW?
post #168 of 607
MMM:

I think it sounds like you did exactly the right thing.

For us, getting a house was really necessary. by house, i simply mean place to live. it's an apartment. LOL anyway, prior to that, we were so stressed and poor hawk was getting the short end of the stick. one day, he just communicated that to me, and i realized that he was feeling very neglected. so, we cuddled and i made a point to do that every day since. it's been about a week and some of that and he's feeling good again.

in fact, all of us are. we have a lot to do, but we get it done slowly. just one big thing a day. and, we aren't fighting as much or anything. we are starting to find a family rhythm. and, able to communicate because we actually spend time together. and, ryan sees what work i'm actually doing, now that he's around while i do it. so, it's been going well.

we really should get internet next week. we were supposed to have it on tuesday, but the connection isn't right (on their end) and so they have to send someone out Mon/Tues this week. we can't wait to have internet at home!
post #169 of 607


It's been like A YEAR since I've visited my favorite tribe of mamas. I have missed you! But for those of you on Facebook, I have been keeping up with you that way to get my NMY "fix".

I had some personal projects ramp up at the beginning of 2009, which meant I had to carve out some of my already limited free time to work on those. I'm finally starting to find a balance, so I want to get back in the habit of visiting this wonderful thread.

I'm off to catch up on this thread a bit, but just wanted to pop in!

p.s. Abby turned TWO this week! Holy smokes.
post #170 of 607
That's so funny snozz! I was planning on posting a 'where are you?' post in the next couple of days, and there you are! Psychic! Glad to see you back here. And happy 2nd birthday to Abby xxx

There's others missing too? BlizzardBabe for starters? Where are you all?
post #171 of 607
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That's so funny snozz! I was planning on posting a 'where are you?' post in the next couple of days, and there you are! Psychic! Glad to see you back here. And happy 2nd birthday to Abby xxx
xxx back to you! It's so good to talk to you after so many months of just reading blog posts & looking at Facebook photos!

I have so missed this amazing group of ladies we have here, but I just was not prioritizing checking in here on my loooong to-do list every day. Which was so dumb because it only hurt me in the end not to have you in my life every step of the way. Cuz, as you know, it's hard when you're the only one IRL parenting the way you are.

So I caught up on this thread and had to chime in on a few things, sorry I'm a little late to the game on some of this!

Christina, you have a baby boy! Holy moly! I had seen you were preggers on Facebook, but didn't realize he'd arrived yet. A BIG CONGRATS! That picture of J with N is just ADORABLE. I'm so so happy for you!

So many new babies since last time I was here.

arelyn, a (bittersweet?) congrats on the weaning...such a huge milestone so your mixed feelings completely make sense to me, at least.

Steph, another babe due in October, yay!

zoebird, we are having similar questioning thoughts about the size of our family. We thought we wanted 2, but now we just can't see ourselves going thru all that with another one. I think our change of heart is all based on fear and laziness tho.

PiePie, MujerMamaMismo, and everyone else dealing with bedtime issues: I FEEL YOUR PAIN. Lordy, do I.
post #172 of 607
not pregnant, have af. made me feel self-hatred and isolated and is straining my relationship with dh. ttcing just is an emotional rollercoaster for me. trying to renew my faith in god. went to church yesterday for the first time in almost a year -- had been avoiding because gd didn't feel appropriate there and expectations were not developmentally right for dd. feel somewhat better.
post #173 of 607
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There's others missing too? BlizzardBabe for starters? Where are you all?
Don't want to post anyone else's news, but would suggest viewing some of BB's recent posts if you'd like to know what's up with her

snozzberry - So good to see you here!

PiPie -
post #174 of 607
PiePie-

So I had an appt with Rhea's new ped. We're going back in 3 months to see if she gains enough weight, and also to see about how her speech is coming along. I haven't really talked about this, but it seems like her comprehension is boundless, and she says new stuff all the time, it's just that she doesn't say too many things consistently. He finds that a little odd, but he's confident that she'll be fine. At the same time, I wouldn't mind having her evaluated if this continues. But otherwise, she's fine He did give me a lecture on vaccines, but respects my decision. So I guess he'll do. He is a very nice guy, which helps.
post #175 of 607
PiePie,

witchygrrl, does Rhea do any signs? I've heard that can delay speech, and I definitely saw that with Abby.
post #176 of 607
snozz, no Rhea doesn't really sign, though she does point a lot. She'll come out with something, and then not say it again. Like today, she told me, "nice job!" but who knows when we'll hear that again...it's just odd.
post #177 of 607
witchy, how old is Rhea again? We were worried about DD's speech for a while there too. She had used more than 100 words, but it was a bit of here today, gone tomorrow. Our ped told us that was normal when she was having a push forward in another area (in her case, gross motor) during the gone tomorrow part. She just focused on her physical stuff a lot more at first. I do have a list that a ST I know shared of board books she uses with the under 2 set with speech delays. Let me know if you are interested. It might just make you feel more stressed. It helped me to check books out of the library because then I felt like I was doing something and I had a concrete, harmless direction to channel my anxiety.
post #178 of 607
Snozz! So nice to see you back here. Thank you for the congrats.

Piepie, Sorry about AF.

Nicholas and I are doing well, as a pair. But, the rest of our family, I'm not so sure about. J has been having some issues with getting to sleep lately, and DH has been having some anger issues - with her and with me. He was talking nonsense last night about sleep training and whatnot. He doesn't really understand regression, I guess. And he doesn't understand how mature and independent our little girl really is and how AP has played a huge part in that this far. Argh. I'm starting to look fwd to him going back to work next week, but I'm also panicking a little because I have no idea how I'll handle it. It stinks that it's winter and crappy weather and J really really needs to get to some playgrounds. DH took her to a children's museum today, so that was nice.

Anyway, I hope you all are well...I'm following along, but having trouble finding time to post. you know how it is.
post #179 of 607
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witchy, how old is Rhea again? We were worried about DD's speech for a while there too. She had used more than 100 words, but it was a bit of here today, gone tomorrow. Our ped told us that was normal when she was having a push forward in another area (in her case, gross motor) during the gone tomorrow part. She just focused on her physical stuff a lot more at first. I do have a list that a ST I know shared of board books she uses with the under 2 set with speech delays. Let me know if you are interested. It might just make you feel more stressed. It helped me to check books out of the library because then I felt like I was doing something and I had a concrete, harmless direction to channel my anxiety.
She's almost 19 months And of course, she had a really verbal day today, too. I think she's really ahead on the physical stuff, so maybe she's following L's pattern. Pm me that list--I'll take a look
post #180 of 607
Maev's been asking some questions about death lately. I didn't really expect this until about 4 years of age. The other day she said, "I don't ever want to die." Dh told her that he thinks she's going to live for a long time and that when she is really old dying won't be scary anymore. We're not really sure what the "right" answer is. Tonight she asked me if dh's grandpa (who died a year ago) was getting better. We told her no, that he had passed away, but that he wasn't hurting anymore. We've already discussed with her what dying/passing away is. That we're not going to see them anymore (I know this varies with belief, but at the moment we're just telling her what we believe), but that we can look at pictures of him and talk about him when we miss him. She remembers visiting him in the hospital. Tonight she said,"we visited him in a room at the hospital, and he said, 'hi maev!'" It's just crazy to me that she's trying to comprehend all this already.


She also said to me today, "Mama, you always take care of Jaim and never take care of me." I tried to explain to her that Jaim needs me to help him with a lot of things because he is so young, so sometimes it might seem that I'm always taking care of him. BUt that everytime I play with her, help her get dressed, do her hair, make her a meal I am taking care of her. It broke my heart to hear her say that!
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