Piepie, I’m sorry. I know, ttc can be incredibly hard. I know it doesn’t help for me or anyone to tell you to go easy on yourself. So I will just say I wish you peace surrounding it.
Zoebird, very excited for you! You’ll be in NZ so soon!!
Originally Posted by Maela
I'm thinking though that two really is the right number for us and I'm only feeling wishy washy about it because I *used* to want a big chaotic family because I always had so much fun at my best friends' house (she was one of six). But it's different when you're the parent. And because everyone around us (except my mom) is telling us that we will/should want to have more. And I really like kids - but it's different when you're the one taking care of them 24/7, yk? I'm pretty sure that limiting it to two will be good for me emotionally and mentally.
Maela, I think you are wise. I’m from a huge family; it was definitely chaotic but not necessarily fun. (I know there are big families that are much happier than ours though!) I always complain that the kids were neglected in a family like ours; but the more I think about it, I really think that my mom neglected her Self. In many ways. And that in turn is hard on the kids too.
Originally Posted by Shanna
cking, I can't believe it's almost time! How do you feel? How is Josephine? How is night parenting? How is DH? This adjustment is probably going to be hardest on him, at least that was my experience. It seems to be hard on the non-nursing partner to be on their own so much.
Well, I feel tired.
But other than that, pretty good. I’m starting to accept that I could never been entirely ready, so I guess that means I’m ready. After I scrub the kitchen floor and get all of the newborn clothes washed and have dh set up the tub….
Josephine seems to know that change is imminent. Her sleep is disrupted – she has been waking up once a night and just wants to be comforted back to sleep. Usually by me only, but dh has been trying to step in. Which is great, since this is the first time he’s been willing to get up with her. Mostly because he doesn’t want me to lay down in her bed – it’s on the ground and no longer comfy for me. (and very hard to get up!) But he keeps saying “that won’t work in a few weeks…” with the new babe. But I’m hoping that J will learn to get up and come to me if she needs comforting, and she has done that a few times lately. I just wish we had that king size bed. But aside from that, she has also been very clingy to me during the day…so I imagine it will be hard for DH (or MIL, or whomever) to spend time alone with her after the baby comes.
[Oh, and nursing really hurts! I'm still hoping she'll hold on until the baby comes, but sometimes I have to stop her after about 30 seconds because it just hurts too much. She is least agressive in the mornings, so I think I'd like to hold onto those sessions...and they might work out best for snuggling with both kiddos. I'm also kind of worried that my breasts might be damaged from her nursing w/o milk all this time, and always in the same position. maybe that's irrational...
But really, I am amazed by her. I think she has really matured in recent months. I’m not sure what kind of reaction she is going to have to the baby, but she really does seem to understand what we’re talking about. And she’s really working on her mothering skills with her dolls and animals (and even Little People). I’m a little scared about the adjustment, but very excited about meeting the new babe, and about Josephine meeting him/her too.
Josephine has discovered our Simpsons chess set, and it’s her new favorite toy. She’s learned all the character’s names (just Simpsons family + Krusty) and asks to play with it every day. The other day we decided to show her an episode, so we watched the 20th anniversary show, and she learned another new word – Princess. Yikes. And today she started singing “Krusty the snowman”.