i guess i'm the odd one out on the article.
while ryan and i had a tough go at first, largely due to our dynamic changing, it has improved immensely before and particularly since our move.
i find that i love parenting, and i find it very rewarding pretty much all the time. ryan and i working half days has been amazing for us as a family--hawk gets mom time, dad time, and family time in the evenings before bed. ryan and i get time together after bed time, and now that we have some reception people coming on board, ryan gets time for just his work.
so, we are in this space where we are each doing work that we love, each parenting and having family and alone time, and it really feels like a great rhythm.
sure, there are always things that i can improve, but the rhythm of my life is really good and we are happy with it. i don't know if that means i'll have 10 more kids or something, or even one more, or even add to my work load, but honestly, it is going very well so far, and we are happy.
i don't find parenting to be not-fun, but the things that were fun for us in the past have changed. for example, we don't spend a lot of time discussing gender issues in teh modern context, but rather we do spend a fair bit of time talking about the need and nature of celebrations and how to create and incorporate them into our family life.
but the main thing is that we are relating, and relating on topics of interest to us. and we are happy.
i am really tired of articles portraying motherhood in the way that the article does, because i have found that i feel more together, more myself, more fulfilled, happier, etc--evne though i'm working very hard in so many ways--since becoming a mom and also since really living the dream of the holistic health center.
but, perhaps it is an accurate portrayal if most women feel that way.
and the idea of violin lessons and competitive gymnastics for someone slightly older than hawk seems absolutely bonkers to me. i'm not coming down on parenting choices; you gotta do what you want to do for and with your child, and no doubt she loves it. hawk is a bit of a whiz at those drums (and his ukulele). but still, i can't imagine it. but it's just a different philosophy/approach on the age, i guess.