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post #501 of 607

What the heck happened here? And why do I have a picture of  a tree next to my name, which I've never seen?  Uh, back to work, no time to read about the changes.......

I miss you ladies!

post #502 of 607

they updated to a different system, of course! :D i kind of like my assigned tree.

post #503 of 607

Gawking that Hawk is 40 lbs.  Not sure if DD has tipped the scale to 30 yet -- she has at my MWs' office, but their scale is usually 3 lbs. over everyone else's.  So by that measure she is 29.  But closing in on 30.  Doubt there will be much weight added -- mostly length for the next months/year I'm guessing.  She's a little tall and a little lean, but not extreme on either end.  FWIW, my brother was a BIG toddler -- we called him the "lil linebacker" but by age 3 (maybe 3 12/) he was tall and skinny, which he continues to be.  Not skinny skinny, but definitely a basketball build and not an American football build.

post #504 of 607

Yes, DS is also a big one. 35lbs and some change, too. He's tall as well as stocky. And we definitely battle with peoples expectations of him!

post #505 of 607

Maev is somewhere between 30 and 35 lbs.  Pretty average I think.  Jaim is 18.5 lbs.

post #506 of 607

my parents had that issue with my brother (big for his age).  exacerbated by very advanced verbal skills,  but not at all above age expectations with regard to social/emotional maturity.  what worked best for him was a montessori setting where the expectation that kids would be at different levels of progression in different skill sets is deeply ingrained.  so he could be a fluent reader at 3 with absolutely zero patience and that was totally normal for them.

 

i am finally on maternity leave.  it was a huge drama to get there.  let's just say that the stereotype of the career woman who wants to control birth has a grain of truth around here.  everyone seemed to think that if i would just sched a c then the baby definitely wouldn't come before then!  off for the next 6 1/2 mos.  only 3 1/2 of which are paid, which is a PROBLEM, but whatever, i can't be worried about that right now, who knows where we will be financially in 3 mos., life happens.  i have a gut feeling i am going to have the baby tomorrow; so does dd.  i really should sleep for 2 days as i have pulled 2 consecutive all-nighters but i am too crazy wired to sleep. 

 

really, no idea what to do with myself now that i am on maternity leave.  moving is too difficult for me to do any cleaning, for instance.  it's a weird state.

post #507 of 607

Hmm, Nicholas is 23.5 lbs, Josephine is maybe 27.5.  Kinda the opposite of Maev and Jaim.  Anyway, I can understand ppl expecting too much of a big boy.  For DD's part, I think we often expect too much of her based on her verbal skills alone.  (and then, I guess maybe she gets confused when she runs into kids who are clearly bigger/older who can't speak on her level.)

 

I had to LOL at Shanna's post b/c I was just thinking the same thing.  I guess it's been a while since I logged on b/c I hadn't seen this before today.

 

Congrats on maternity leave Piepie!

 

 

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really, no idea what to do with myself now that i am on maternity leave.

You should snuggle.  With DD, with DH, and just alone.  Most importantly alone, I think.

post #508 of 607
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Originally Posted by cking View Post

For DD's part, I think we often expect too much of her based on her verbal skills alone.  (and then, I guess maybe she gets confused when she runs into kids who are clearly bigger/older who can't speak on her level.)

 

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really, no idea what to do with myself now that i am on maternity leave.

You should snuggle.  With DD, with DH, and just alone.  Most importantly alone, I think.

We had/have the exact same issues with DD and her verbal skills.

 

 

And I agree with cking about the snuggling and alone time!  I also would play play play with Dd!
 

post #509 of 607

PiePie watch :)

post #510 of 607

Happy Thanksgiving to the NMY and the Grads!

post #511 of 607

still pregnant.  technically due today!  had huge scare that my waters had broken but apparently i misdiagnosed myself.  phew. 

 

lots of trouble sleeping.  beyond exhausted emotionally but just can't sleep. 

 

moderately dreading 3 yo bday party tomorrow where i will get to hear every mother's story of how she started her own labor.  not that i am happy to be pregnant, this has not been fun for me, but ugh.  feeeling a little antisocial, i guess. 

 

huge drama around childcare for dd during the birth, which i guess was good to discover on a trial run to the hosp.  basically the moms who said they would take dd meant for dd to get switched over to someone else if the whole thing took more than 12 hours; the biomom confesses she has blocked her whole labor out; no freaking kidding!!  switching over would involve our dragging a convertible carseat on pub transit, so that second family could use it.  i think they want to switch because they are concerned that dd will mess up their kid's sleep, which is somewhat reasonable to expect, given that they define a missed nap or 30 mins late on bedtime as catastrophic, i do think having a friend over would be likely to derail to that degree, and they are willing to suffer one derailment but no more.  carseat schlepping is not appealing....  so rethinking that whole plan.  good thing i had 3 different families lined up, huh?  and a fourth if the baby waits till monday to make an appearance.  fortunately i have a very flexible child.

 

behavioral issue with dd:  demanding to be carried all the time.  she is 3 and perfectly capable (physically), we think, of walking.  it gets on dh's last nerve, because it strikes him as unhealthy/weak and he will just say no; he claims she fights it more strongly if i am there (which may be true).  i tend to start a power struggle, realize i am in a power struggle, back off and carry her for a very small distance, and then put her down, which mostly seems to work -- not sure if it is about attaching, or some sort of neurological reset (read about in a GD thread), or a version of playing baby/regression.  whose 3 yos walk or otherwise self-propel (scooter, balance bike) exclusively?  and how much walking is in your average day?  we are car-free and near subway but not right on it (not like step outside and there you are, as one would be with, say, an attached garage), in a hilly part of town.  specifically, we are 2 blocks from the subway.

post #512 of 607

Hang in there piepie!  I remember feeling less and less social as my due date neared.  I think it's pretty normal.  And yikes re the childcare drama!  Seriously?  12 hours?  Did they expect you to be in and out of the hospital in 12 hours?  Oy.  Glad it's getting worked out now. 

post #513 of 607

You've all seen facebook, right? I'm dying to hear what sounds like a thrilling birth story....

post #514 of 607

!!  How do I get in the facebook group?  I want the news!

post #515 of 607
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Originally Posted by MujerMamaMismo View Post

You've all seen facebook, right? I'm dying to hear what sounds like a thrilling birth story....



Yes it sounded quick!  Congrats PiePie!!

post #516 of 607
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!!  How do I get in the facebook group?  I want the news!



I PMed you.

post #517 of 607

Thanks Maela!  I just requested to join.  Not sure who okays people, but my facebook photo looks like a painting. 

post #518 of 607

nak

PiePie, I'm dying for the birth story. I hope you're all doing well, especially L.

post #519 of 607
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Originally Posted by ~Shanna~ View Post

nak

PiePie, I'm dying for the birth story. I hope you're all doing well, especially L.



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Even the nak part.  smile.gif

post #520 of 607

It's been too long; someone needs to say something!  orngtongue.gif  

 

 

 

I don't have much to say except that we're having a rough time with DD right now.  Lots of outright defiance, pushing our buttons and laughing about it kind of stuff.  It's weird.  I'm trying to be understanding, calm, and firm all at once, but it's hard.  Even Dh lost it with her a couple of days ago.  He never yells at her, but this time he did, and he felt horrible afterward. greensad.gif  Today was better than it has been in a few days, so maybe it'll start improving.  

 

 

Also, Santa Claus.  *sigh*  Dh and I agreed that we did not want to do Santa with our kids because we both were devastated when we found out our parents had lied to us when we were kids.  Also, we kind of feel like Santa makes Christmas all about receiving and makes kids forget about giving or spending time with family or the changing of the seasons (what Christmas means to us - we're not Christian).  We've been telling DD that Santa isn't real, but that everyone likes to pretend he is for fun.  Like fairies, Mickey Mouse, etc.  Tonight she got sad (almost started crying) and told us that she wanted Santa to be "alive."  We asked her if she would like us all to pretend that he is real from now on, and she said yes.  So I told her about how some people pretend that Santa brings gifts to kids and that I would make sure Santa brought her one (we get her a couple of gifts, but never 'from Santa').  And I told her how some people leave out milk and cookies for Santa, and we could do that too.  She was very excited.  Poor thing.  I'm so confused as to what the right thing to do is.  For now, we're going to go ahead and do the whole Santa thing.  I was so worried that my kids would be mad at me for lying to them about Santa.  But now I'm worried that they'll be mad at us for ruining the fun.  You just can't win.  redface.gif

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