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Sortof-- he's with the baby guy all day while I'm at work, then we swap when I come home and he goes to work and I stay with him. It does work out well in terms of childcare, and their bond is absolutely incredible. But, it's very hard on us not seeing each other enough!
If he were to be home 100% of the time, like you suggest, things would be so much easier! With 2 people home at the same time one person can actually cook/clean while the other takes care of the baby!
I say go for it, happily... a Dad getting to stay home is an amazing gift to the child and father.
My husband is a SAHD. Honestly, its more work for me. He spends all his time writing (which is his chosen vocation, so I can't fault him that one), but I get home and have to do all the laundry, cook supper and clean up supper, do all the cleaning of the house, all while dealing with the kids (1 ADHD yammerer, 1 autistic, and 1 toddler). He literally checks out the minute I get home. When I get to "play at being a SAHM" (what I call days off), and the older ones are at school, he wants to go out and do stuff so I don't get anything done house-wise and we've spent money (we don't have to spend); if the older kids have the day off, too, there is no forward movement--and he's "off" while I'm pulling kid duty. And in his imagination, I have Sooooooo much time to get things done. Um, yeah, right. Basically, I have to hold down a full-time job and do all the family administrative stuff and all the cleaning and organization. I'm dreading the house when I get back from my business trip next week after being gone all week. When he was gone for a week to visit family, the house was so nice, calm, and clean. Meals were on the table on time. Laundry wasn't backed up. Geeze, am I trying to talk myself into a divorce? And, on top of that, if we were in a better position, I'd quit my job as fast as I could. He and I both need a wife.Â
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. Though the situation is nice for now as i don't worry about who DD is with and we don't pay for daycare (MIL watches her the 1-2 days/ week he works if I'm working) but we really need the 2nd income.
