using a wooden spoon to hit a one year child old is abuse - Page 2

[BrittneyMarie]

yuck people are outrageous. why the heck would you hit a baby?

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by Lilygoose

My daughter (now 15 months) comes when I call to her and follows many simple instructions (and started doing so around 11 months). And she learned in a very gentle manner. I just ask, yes ask, her to come here please. Most of the time she does. If she doesn't i go to her and hold her hand, smile and say mommy would like you to come over here please for such and such reason, and we walk to where i wanted her to go and do whatever it is that I was asking her to do- brush her teeth, pick up a toy, play a game,color, etc. Used the same steps to encourage her to follow some directions- get your coat, pick up these toys,etc. I have never yelled at her or had to force her. if she resists when I hold her hand i just try to see why. Sometimes I engage for a bit in what she is doing and then request again. other times I talk to her and add some excitement or silliness and this usually engages her with me. BTW there is no forcing my DD. She is very strong willed when she sets her foot down and the cost of trying to win a power struggle with her would be very high for her and me both, so we just don't do it. Luckily she is also a happy enthusiastic girl, so there is usually a way for us to meet in the middle.

This is how my mother handled most things...until my brother came along. He was a different kind of child.

That being said, my mother also had a very low whining tolerance. I got smacked on the leg with a hairbrush for whining while she brushed my hair. I have no ill feelings toward her because of this...my issues come from a very later (like when I was 17) incident involving being hit with an object. (Things changed A LOT when she remarried...)

[Juvysen]

Ugh

Once, my 18 mo niece was "acting up" and my SIL mentioned something about spanking her maybe, and I very bluntly said she wasn't old enough to associate being hit with whatever it was she did. SIL and MIL looked at we strangely and then changed the subject.

Now, niece is 3 yo and SIL has decided they won't be spanking her

[AAK]

My mom used a wooden spoon on my sister. Until, one day, my sister got the spoon and gave her a whack. My mom seriously had no idea how much it hurt. That was the day that changed her world. She never touched the spoon (or even spanked) since.

Amy

[wrappedupmama]

AAK I love that! Sometimes I really think adults just don't remember being little and don't understand what they are doing to little kids. I mean when was the last time anyone hit them? They probably don't have a good memory of what it's like. Plus little kids have more sensitive and delicate skin. Everything hurts them MORE than when it happens to an adult. Poor babies that are hit, so so sad!

[LisaS118]

That is sick. I hate hearing about infants who get hit!

[vermontgirl]

This is so sad.

I cannot imagine hurting a baby.