A LO Who Talks.Too.Much - Page 2

[mtnsunshinemama]

Oy, I have 3 non-stop talkers at home! DH, DS,4 and DD, almost 2....I crave quiet... And it has become a bit of an issue at DS's Waldorf preschool where they try to do a 3 minute quiet time at lunch and also at rest time. His inability, (although he is getting better) to quiet is disruptive to the other children at times...We have started "practicing" being quiet at home with a little egg timer for 3 minutes at the dinner table.... I don't know who has a harder time, my husband or the kids!

[VisionaryMom]

We've tried the timer, but it didn't work! Our wasn't even "not talking," but "I need 5 minutes of quiet time. Please let me have some quiet time until this timer buzzes." No go! If DD doesn't talk, she stands and jumps up and down until I take pity and ask what she wants.

[lilyka]

i have a talker and we actually worked on getting her to talk less. it was about more than the insanity (oh the insanity) but really, even if it is kinda cute on a little kid it is never an attractive trait in an older child or adult. the person who can not get enough of their own voice. who talks just to talk. because they maybe think they have so much interesting, delightful amusing things to say. of course no one listens because they checked out a long time ago. Occaisionally she would get upset if we told her to stop talking. but I always tried to phrase it positively. "its time to be a listener and not a talker." or "its quiet time" but then I do ask my children to discipline themselves and this was just one other area where I ask them to practice discipline, to put others above themselves and cultivate other good things that they could not manage while blathering on. She is much better (at 7) but still talks A LOT. this from the child who we had to have evaluated for speach issues several times before her 2nd birthday because she was so far behind....careful what you wish for huh.

[orangefoot]

My 3yo can talk and talk and talk. She talks in her sleep and she wakes up with words pouring out of her mouth. She is bossy too which is very annoying and she also shouts a lot in the car. I can drive with her incessant chatter but dh can't.

The only things I do are to tune her out(to some extent) but I do also ask her to use a small voice or to whisper or to use an indoor voice when it gets too much.

Her older sister also talked a lot at this age and is a bit less talkative now unless she is fixated on something.

I think that this is not necessarily a life long problem but a sign of an explosion of brain development in a life filled with huge amounts of stimulation - like a bird outside

[karemore]

When my daughter was 3 she didn't even stop talking when I was brushing her teeth. She talked in her sleep.

She's 4 1/2 and now her dolls talk. It's fantastic. She can sit for an hour at a time and her dolls have complex conversation and work out all sorts of issues.

She's also into singing now too. She'll practice a song over and over until she has the lyrics memorized. That helps.

I let her talk on the phone with friends and family. That helps.

[Equuskia]

Teach her to write she can talk with a pen instead of her mouth!

I kinda wish DD1 talked more. She's four, but her vocab isn't extensive yet. She can understand everything I say and can follow complex commands or accept explanations, she just doesn't....talk a lot...

[MCR]

Oh I sympathize with both you and her. Dd (just 5) is a constant talker/singer she's been doing it since before she could talk real words, she would be out an about, and if anyone looked at her she babbled in her own language like she had a lot to say even then, adults would be cracking up and talking back and holding all kinds of long conversations she was in heaven.
Now she gives me a running commentary and her toys get one too.
I was the chatter box in the family, I got all kinds of grief for it, and can still feel the hurt from being told to be quiet constantly. In family games my forfeit for whatever we were doing was always to sit quiet for 5 minutes, it still brings tears to my eyes.
I try hard to bite my tongue with Dd and let her ramble, I don't want to crush her little spirit with the things that were said/done to me, I can now switch it off in my head, lately though she has been making me laugh with her running commentary songs, they are lovely and I do enjoy them (for now)