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Do black people scare you?

Poll Results: Do Black People Scare You?

 
  • 5% (77)
    Yes they do
  • 7% (114)
    Only black men or big black people
  • 66% (1003)
    Of course not that's just racist
  • 21% (324)
    other
1518 Total Votes  
post #1 of 1220
Thread Starter 
Please be honest, if you are afraid of flames dont post but do vote.

(yes this is in regards to more than one comment made here on MDC in the last few months, by different people in different situations which has made me wonder if us black people who may be overweight and labeled 'big' are welcome around here, but for the most part I am really interested.)
post #2 of 1220
Honey, there is nothing like a big black woman that makes me feel more at home.

Not scared, not uncomfortable.

I do have to say, I really really like you. I also had no idea that you were big or black.
post #3 of 1220
Black people in general don't scare me, but like people of any color, there are scary ones out there. I have encountered a few scary black people in my time, but I've also encountered scary white people, scary Asians, and even a scary Indian guy. (Dots, not feathers). :LOL In general, I'd have to say that I've felt uncomfortable/scared around more white people than black people.
post #4 of 1220
Like she said!
post #5 of 1220
I'm not crazy about the choices so am having trouble voting. I don't think I am any more afraid of a single black man regardless of size than I am of a lone male of any ethnic background. Which is to say, middle of the day in a park with many people around I fear none of them. Alone in a poorly lit parking area at night.. any man who appears to be strong and healthy tends to draw my attention as a potential source of trouble.

Where I tend to have more fear is groups of young men and I think I am more nervous of groups of young black men than of other groups. It takes fewer of them to set of my safety radar or something, I think. I'm not sure exactly. I feel more aware of their "otherness". They are often louder than I am accustomed to/ feel comfortable with. There is something in the group dynamic that is unfamiliar to me and it translates into feeling threatening. Fact is that in my current location I am hard pressed to explore these feelings like I was beginning to in Virginia because there just don't seem to be that many black people here.
post #6 of 1220
not at all!
post #7 of 1220
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally posted by Zaq001
Honey, there is nothing like a big black woman that makes me feel more at home.

Not scared, not uncomfortable.

I do have to say, I really really like you. I also had no idea that you were big or black.
ok i lied. im only 5 "4" and im not that hefty but i am kinda flabby....
post #8 of 1220
I didn't vote either. We live in a very integrated area (not that common in this area) and love this about our community. The surrounding whiteness of the suberbs is one reason we won't be going far.

However I seem to have situational racial holdups. I was robbed at gunpoint when I was 17 by a young, tall, black man in a ski coat and still seem to be paranoid around anyone matching that description. During the middle of the day I'm fine, but I do get scared at night walking around the neighborhood.

It does seem to only be the young guys that bother me, once they look over 30 I'm not bothered anymore. And it's nothing I go around expressing, I just notice I walk quicker and become more aware of my surroundings. Hopefully I will get over this by the time ds is able to recognize any prejudices.
post #9 of 1220
NO, suburban white people do.



Seriously, NO.
post #10 of 1220
no, but poets do. :LOL

warmly,
claudia
aka my poetess name caludai
post #11 of 1220
Men of any race tend to scare me, in certain situations.
post #12 of 1220
hahahaha hotmamacita! That's actually super-true!

Anyway... the only people who scare me are scary people, regardless of their color. I try to look into people's eyes upon meeting them, usually that's a good enough meter of their persona. If someone creeps me out, I walk the other way.
post #13 of 1220
Hmm, I'd only be scared of someone if it were dark or I were alone, and they seemed threatening. It wouldnt matter what colour they were, each situation would be different. In the UK, I"d be nervous about going past a gang of white skinheads just as I'd be nervous about going past a gang of black youths, if the situation were one to provoke fear.

The most spooked I've ever been was going past an older, white homeless man who was very threatening, down an alleyway right next to a graveyard, years ago when a horrible doorman at an indoor carpark wouldn't open the doors for me to walk through the lit way to the car. I still go cold thinking about it. I was very lucky that two other women were in the same boat, and rushed up to join me and we walked together and accompanied each other to our cars. Power to women. Otherwise, I think I was a goner.

So, I don't think I have any racist responses to situations regarding who I think of as threatening. Their body language tells me waht I want to know, and anyway, I try to never make myself vulnerable.
post #14 of 1220
Quote:
NO, suburban white people do.
:LOL DITTO!
post #15 of 1220
Black people dont scare me......


Any man in the dark tends to make me nervous but more often than not its either young white guys or older kinda freakishly looking white men....
post #16 of 1220
No black people dont bother me.

But what bothers me is a group of young men any race acting strangely.
post #17 of 1220
If I'm scared of someone, I'm scared of them b/c of the situation, not b/c of color. If someone approached me in a threatening manner, I would be scared of him or her, regardless of color. I assume the best of a person until I have a reason to know otherwise, but if I'm alone in a dark parking lot walking to my car, I'm going to be aware of anyone around me, regardless of age, sex, or color and possibly avoid them.

So no, black people don't scare me.
post #18 of 1220
Quote:
Originally posted by somemama
Men of any race tend to scare me, in certain situations.
yup.. what she said

I cannot think of one time I was afraid of a black woman.. or a group of black women

I have been afraid men of all races many times.. either in groups or alone..
depends on how they look at me.. if they look in my eyes.. use manners & are polite then I am fine
if they look me up & down like a piece of meat then yes Im uncomfortable & annoyed
this happens alot..
post #19 of 1220
Quote:
Originally posted by mahdokht
ok i lied. im only 5 "4" and im not that hefty but i am kinda flabby....


i about peed myself reading that:LOL
post #20 of 1220
I have read articles about how most white people's image of a 'scary' person is a black man. Hence the whole fake kidnapping that woman concoted, blaming a black man, when she had drowned them in the car (I can't think of her name). I've always found this interesting, because my 'scary' image is a group of white, punk teenagers. I guess the same would apply to black, punk teenagers, but the first image that comes to my mind if I close my eyes and think of it is punk white teenagers. I am white, by the way.

So I voted no.
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