Woo! Someone at the school is willing to go the extra mile!

[StephandOwen]

Last week O had a rough day on Monday but then had *4* good days in a row! That is totally unheard of here, unfortunately. We were so excited! He knew on Friday that if he had a good day we would rent him Cloudy With A Chance of Meatballs (he's had us rent it a couple times for him and he loves it). Apparently he mentioned that to someone at his school (another para, not his regular one) and that para made a comment about how she hadn't seen it. I don't know if she asked if she could watch it with him or what (you know how some adults are) but Owen took her totally serious. He got into my car after school so excited that this para was coming over to our house to watch the movie with him Needless to say, she didn't. Owen was disappointed, but didn't drop it. He said again today that she is coming over to watch the movie. So dp and I were at the school picking ds up today. DP wandered over and started talking to this para, who actually said she would be more than happy to come over after school or on the weekend sometime to watch the movie with ds as a reward for him making good choices at school! She gave dp her cell number and told us to call her anytime to make plans. I'm shocked! LOL! That's going above and beyond what she needs to do (especially since she isn't even ds's para.... but maybe we'll request her next year because I have seen her working with ds and he really seems to like her. At our school I don't think they give the same para 2 years in a row or else we'd ask for our current para next year too).

[kme]

What a sweet story! Sweet that she is going to watch it with him and sweet that he is so excited for her to watch it with him. So nice when things work out like that.

What is a para? (I'm guessing it's what our school calls an aide?)

[AnalogWife]

That's so sweeet!

[StephandOwen]

Originally Posted by kme

What is a para? (I'm guessing it's what our school calls an aide?)

Yes, it's an aide After ds's behavior the past couple months (he's been having a hard time at school ) pretty much all the paras have been called in at one time or another to help out with him. So the good news is they all know him. The bad news is that they all know him.

[momtoalexsarah]

Originally Posted by StephandOwen

Yes, it's an aide After ds's behavior the past couple months (he's been having a hard time at school ) pretty much all the paras have been called in at one time or another to help out with him. So the good news is they all know him. The bad news is that they all know him.

I am so glad I'm not the only mama that sees this. My DS dosn't have one stricly for him but there is one assingned to him and two other boys in his class. There are days that they pull the aides from other areas of the school (if they arn't needed in that area) and put them in DS's class. So all the aides know him - all the staff know him and sadly many of the staff know me on a first name basis. I'm glad you had a good week - we have had a hard one. I was called to come get him yesterday - the principal (who is the omost wonderful person ever) was away, so was the VP when DS started acting up he was delt with by a senoir teacher (male) that he really really does not like ( the teacher is too authoritarin and not gentle enough - Alex even in his worst tempers is easily calmed by a gental voice and a good hug - but if he is spoken to loudly will get worse - and has an aggitating effect) Well this male teacher was at his witts end with DS so i got the call to come and get him.
I wish all teachers where better.

[StephandOwen]

Originally Posted by momtoalexsarah

I am so glad I'm not the only mama that sees this. My DS dosn't have one stricly for him but there is one assingned to him and two other boys in his class. There are days that they pull the aides from other areas of the school (if they arn't needed in that area) and put them in DS's class. So all the aides know him - all the staff know him and sadly many of the staff know me on a first name basis.

DS's para is assigned to ds and another boy in his room. DS is definitely the more.... ummm... fun of the two DS's para and teacher have both said numerous times that ds needs a one-on-one, not a one-on-two para but the school isn't budging. I think probably at least 70% of all the teachers/paras either know me by name or as "Owen's mom". All of the office staff are very familiar with me

I'm sorry your ds has had a hard time at school lately. That's the pits. From October to now ds has had 4-5 bad school days each WEEK (yes, some weeks we didn't even have 1 good day). I was being called constantly. I don't know what switched in him but last week on Monday he had a hard day but Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Tuesday of this week he did wonderful! (Monday they didn't have school so it was 5 great school days in a row... totally shocking). Today though.... oh boy. I got a call just 10 minutes before school ended, asking if I was on campus. I confirmed I was so his para asked me to come deal with him. I got up there and he was in one of the special ed rooms THROWING a chair across the room. I opened that door and barked "PUT THAT CHAIR WHERE IT BELONGS NOW!". Scared the crap out of ds, who apparently didn't expect me. He snapped to it very quickly and put the chair back. I cannot believe how different his behavior is with the school sometimes than it is with me. He wouldn't dare do that at home with me (most of the time!), and I don't hit or do time outs or anything like that. Nothing to make him fear me anyway! Don't get me wrong, he has his days at home too that are rough, but I nip that crap in the bud LONG before it gets to that point.

Apparently ds had a good morning today, but in the afternoon when they did bathroom breaks ds wanted to "be the caboose" on the way back to the classroom. Another boy was the last in line so instead of simply asking if he could be the last in line, he hit the other boy The para said he's lucky he was standing right there because the other boy was getting ready to clobber ds. I've tried to explain over and over that another kid is going to hit him back one of these days but he's totally okay. He keeps telling me that "I'll just run someplace safe" or "I'll find my adult before he can hit me" or "I'll just duck". He has no clue that life isn't like that.